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One of the fundamental contradictions of the human condition is that we are simultaneously
individuals and social beings.We typically strive to achieve our own needs and desires, often at
the expense of others yet, we cannot grow without others; we have built entire civilisations that
depend utterly on cooperation and exchange, and are most often happy in the companionship of
friends. We are both free and members of society, dispassionate observers of our surroundings
and passionate members of groups. We prize individual freedom, but also, community.
And just as we most often find happiness through others our partners and children, our friends
and the extended praise and approbation of the many so too the best and most affecting game
experiences we can have are those that involve others...
http://www.gamasutra.com/view/feature/134755/unsocial_social_games.php?print=1
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200611/friendship-the-laws-attraction
SELFDISCLOSURE
SELF-DISCLOSURE
We must be willing to
extend ourselves and
share our lives with our
friends- to keep them
posted on whats going
on with us.
SUPPORTIVENESS
SUPPORT
Likewise, we need to
listen to them about
their lives and offer
support/ excitement
etc. where necessary.
OPENNESS
INTERACTION
INTEREST
POSITIVITY
Self-disclosure is
important but the
intimacy shared must be
enjoyable.
The more we feel good
about it, the more were
willing to expend the
energy it takes to keep it
alive.
Interaction
Selfdisclosure
This starts as a
reciprocal process
Intimacy
Identity
support
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200611/friendship-the-laws-attraction
"He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he
whom you yourself have obliged."
In short, material favours don't count for as much as emotional input where friends are
concerned.
Participants won
contest money from a
researcher.
Psychologists concur that the phenomenon stems from a desire to reconcile feeling and action.
I.E. a desire to view our own instincts and investments as correct: why am I going out of my
way to help this guy? Well, he must be pretty nice I suppose. In short, our fondness for others
increases when they ask us for help and we agree to.
Interaction
Selfdisclosure
This starts as a
reciprocal process
Intimacy
Identity
support
We become best friends with people who boost our self-esteem by affirming our
identities as members of certain groups, and its the same for both genders.
Our desire for I.S. is so strong, studies indicate, that it may even make a different for the
addicted. People with substance abuse problems were likelier to kick their habits after
three months when they had felt more conflict between drug use and their social roles
and sense of self.
We stick with people who support our social identity and withdraw from those who
dont. We may even switch friends when the old ones dont support our current view
of ourselves.
DISCUSS : )