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Twain once said he could teach anyone how to get what they want; he just
couldnt find anyone who truly knew what they wanted.
Most people dont know what it is they really want to achieve. They often know what they
dont want, but then thats where their focus and energy goes to what they dont want.
Maybe youre at a point in your life where youve accomplished certain things a college
degree, a certain job, marriage and
family, or a nice home in a town
you like but you sense that
more is possible...
You have been feeling a call to
something greater than what
youve experienced so far in your
life...
Youd like to live a more purposeful life and wake up every morning with a bounce in
your step and a smile on your face as soon as you open your eyes, because you have the
conviction that you absolutely LOVE your life. You want to have more energy and focus
and the freedom that comes with living a life thats perfectly suited to who you really are.
Youre tired of settling in life or going through the
motions.
You want more because you know youre capable
of more. But youre not exactly sure what that
looks like.
Maybe youve explored different ideas in your
mind.
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2. You have too many dreams and dont know which one to focus on first.
Youre a person who
has a lot of interests and
passions. The problem is,
you dont know which
one you should focus
on first. You know you
cant possibly pursue
all the dreams you have,
since theyre so different.
Success comes easiest
to those who maintain
focus on one goal at a
time, to the exclusion of
all other distractions.
You need help narrowing down what it is you should pursue, and you want to feel
confident that you made the right choice.
3. Youre scared to have a dream because you dont want to be let down.
Youd love to live a different kind of life and wake up each morning with excitement and
clarity of purpose. Who wouldnt? The problem is that every time you allow yourself a
moment to imagine a dream, you get nervous. What if you dont have what it takes to
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accomplish it? The idea of investing so much of yourself in a dream, but not having what
it takes to make it a reality, paralyzes you.
Youd almost rather spend your life not hoping for more, and living a life thats OK,
than putting all your time, energy and investment into a dream just to see your efforts
fail. To you, failure would be crushing. So you go along, trying to be happy with what
you have, because fear stops you from going after what you really want.
(If this describes you best, youll want to go through this Toolkit and pay particular
attention to the Next Steps page at the end.)
The other challenge is that you may be stifling your imagination before it even gets the
chance to develop a dream. The adult inside of each of us systematically measures the
thing we want and immediately asks the question, Is this possible? and inevitably, we
find many reasons to answer, no. Asking, Whats possible?, before we even allow
ourselves to dream, is an acid that eats away at our happiness.
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There is that same pull of becoming in you. It will give you ideas and images and
possibilities, but it is up to you to allow those things to begin to be shaped in your mind
as dreams. These ideas will form into pictures and the pictures can become your reality.
reason why most of us dont have a dream, or dont allow ourselves to go after
our dream, is because... we have been trained from an early age to look at our current
conditions to determine what our opportunities are.
Let me tell you a story about how they train elephants in India in order to illustrate what
I mean.
In India the elephant is the farm animal, unlike cattle for much of the rest of the world,
therefore they have to domesticate it and train it from a young age. When the elephant is
still a baby, they put a big rope around one of its legs, and tie it to a big strong stake in the
ground. That baby elephant pulls and tugs and fights to try to get away. Ultimately the
rope and the stake are stronger and the elephant finally gives in to the tug of the rope. He
gives up. He knows he cant get away, and the tug on his leg reminds him of that every
day.
As the elephant gets older and bigger, instead of increasing the size of the rope and stake
they decrease it because the elephant by then has given over to the tug. It leans toward
the tug instead of away from it because they figure, whats the use in fighting anyway?
They have been trained to think that a rope around their leg means they cant escape, and
that tugging and struggling are futile.
When the elephant grows to adulthood, they remove the rope and just weave river reeds
together and tie it around their leg. The slightest little tug from the reed will tell the
elephant which way to go. Now, it isnt that the elephant doesnt have the capacity to
break free from that river reed. It does, but it doesnt know it does, so it is disconnected
from its capacity and ability. It has learned to give over to the tug.
You and I have some of that same river reed thinking. We have been trained to look to
conditions to determine what our opportunities and possibilities are, and its completely
backwards. When we look to past conditions in order to create our life, we get stuck in re-
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patterning the conditions weve
already had. We might change a
little color and form, but basically
its the same life lived over and
over again.
I once heard somebody say,
Some people live ninety-nine
years and other people live one
year, ninety-nine times.
In this Toolkit youre going to
do some re-patterning, some
paradigm busting, some opening
up and some exploring of what it
is that you really want.
other thing that keeps us from our dream is focusing too much on what we dont
want instead of what wed like to have.
Lets say I told you to not think about the Statue of Liberty.
Dont think about that woman on Liberty Island outside of New York City. Dont think
about the woman with her arm stretched up in the air. Dont think about the torch at the
end of her hand. Dont think about the ferries going to and from the island back to the
city. Dont think about the Statue of Liberty.
Nowwhat are you seeing in your minds eye?
You are seeing the Statue of Liberty! Your mind has no sense of humor. So, if you start
thinking, Oh, I dont want this to happen or I dont want that to happen, your mind
begins to go to work on those pictures, the pictures of what you dont want, instead of the
pictures of what you do want.
Say, for example, that instead of focusing your thoughts on what it would be like to have
financial freedom, you worry about being broke. You imagine what it would feel like to
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have no money in your checking account to pay your bills. You picture yourself dealing
with creditors, getting late notices, losing your house and having to live in your car.
Have you ever heard of the term, self-fulfilling prophecy? If you fill your mind with
thoughts of financial ruin and homelessness, there is no space in your imagination for
strategies or ideas on how to actually achieve wealth.
The way the Laws of the Universe work is that everything is created twice. It is created
as a thought before it becomes a thing. This is why you want to focus on what you really
want, not what you want to avoid. You dont want to accidentally create the very thing
you dont want.
As you explore the possibilities, allow images of possible futures, of lives, of ways of
being to enter your mind. Explore in your imagination what you would love to be and do
and create and give.
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My first son was born during the winter of my senior year and by May, I graduated from
Washington Evening High School.
Then in July of that year, I was in an intensive care ward at Portland Adventist Hospital
having been diagnosed with fatal kidney disease. One kidney, the tests said, was totally
destroyed with nephritis. The other kidney had fifty percent destruction and active nephritis.
I was told that if we could get the blood toxin level in my body reduced enough so that I
could sustain a surgery to remove the right kidney, then maybe I would have six months to
live. So here I am, in intensive care while my mother is caring for my infant son, and I have
just been told that the best shot Ive got is maybe six months. I am desperate and devastated.
The God of my upbringing was not really a friendly place to go when you felt like you
had really messed up. I didnt have a faith practice. I didnt have a higher power to turn
to that I really felt reliant upon or would be responsive to me. Thats why what happened
next was so serendipitous.
The night before my scheduled surgery, at about ten oclock, a woman walked in my
room and identified herself as a chaplain in the hospital who was offering prayer with
people who were going to have surgery the next day. She asked me if I wanted someone
to pray with me. I was scared so I said yes. She came over and stood next to the bed where
I was laying and then she pulled up a chair and she sat down. She did not begin with
prayer. She began this way: She said Would you be willing to tell me whats been going
on in your life the last year or two?
I told her what had happened
to me in the last two years. At
the end of my story, she looked
me very compassionately
in the eyes and said, Mary,
everything is created twice.
I know I had a quizzical look
on my face. What do you
mean?
Then she said The bed you are laying on, the nightgown you are wearing, the sheet
covering you, the carpet, the floor, the ceiling, the walls, all this machinery, everything
was first a thought before it could become a thing. Then she looked at me and said, You
know this. You just dont know the power of knowing this.
Then she said, I hear how much you love your little boy but I also hear how much youve
been hating yourself. You feel like you shamed yourself, you shamed your school, you
shamed your family and now that you are considering the connection between thought
and result, cause and effect, that everything that is experienced first began in thought;
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could you consider the possibility that there could be some relationship between this
toxic thinking and the toxicity that is in your body that is actually threatening your life?
Now, this was before the idea of a mind-body connection was in the common nomenclature.
In 1967 people had no idea that what happens in our physical body often manifests from
our thoughts. It was a brand-new idea for me.
She continued, In this universe, there is one presence, one power, one life. It is everseeking a freer, fuller, more-expanded
expression of itself and thats happening
in your right now. The toxicity thats
in your body can be released because
it can be released in your mind. Can
you believe its possible that if you
were to align with that precision that is
at work in you, that your whole body
could actually respond to that, and in
the morning the doctors would say to
you that you dont need surgery. That
you could get up and go home that
you are fine. Can you believe that that
is possible?
I didnt really know what to believe. But here, the interesting thing was, that I could tell
she believed it and it was the first time I ever consciously chose to believe in someone
elses belief.
I told her, Well I dont know if its possible or even probable, but I am open to it. She
said Ok. Thats all we need is one corner of your mind open to the possibility. Lets work
with that.
We prayed together, and the next morning when I woke up I realized I had slept all
night without waking. I hadnt been able to do that in weeks because I had been in so
much pain. When the doctors did the surgery they told my family, who was gathered
afterward, that the one kidney was destroyed with nephritis. They removed it. The other
kidney, when it was looked at it didnt look quite as bad as they would have suspected
with fifty percent destruction, but time would tell. And time did tell.
I went home and I continued to get better and better. I didnt die in six months like
the doctors said I would. What happened to me at the hospital with the chaplain got
my attention. I got a thirst for knowledge on everything I could find in the field of
metaphysics, philosophy, psychology and science to discover how it works in the universe
that everything really is created twice.
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Im encouraging you now to consider any possibility, just like I opened myself up to a
possibility so many years ago. Just open yourself up to the possibility that in this great
gift of your life you have an imagination; that there is a place inside of you that is unmuted by circumstance. Its not controlled by your history. Its not defined by anything
youve ever known about yourself. There are no river reeds around your ankle.
You are being asked to consider unlimited possibilities for who youd like to be and what
kind of life youd love to live.
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Health wasnt even a factor. Some of these happy people lived with chronic pain, difficult
illnesses and all kinds of things.
Maslow determined two things as he studied these happy people. One was that they all
had what he called highly potentiated lives. They could enjoy the smell of coffee being
brewed first thing in the morning if thats what was in the room, or the sound of toast
being buttered. When their child took their hand it wasnt just a sensation, it filled up their
whole being. Happy people had a high porosity to aliveness. You think of something
porous like a sponge, it soaks everything up. These people soaked up life.
Imagine having a high porosity to aliveness, that you arent just trudging through the day
muted by worry or by patterns that keep you out of the real depths of your own life energy.
The second factor Maslow discovered was that happy people were sensitive to, and paid
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attention to, the longings of their heart. They hadnt given up the kind of childhood
optimism that allowed them to believe that they could create and do whatever their
heart wanted to.
This is the most passionate, wondrous, alive-making way to live life.
I invite you now to pay attention to the longing of your own heart. What would you love?
Where and when do you feel most alive? What are the secret desires you havent even
allowed yourself to fully express?
Why should you discover your dream? Simply put, discovering your dream can make
you a happier person living a happier life.
Lets begin.
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Health:
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Replace any negative emotion you wrote above with an emotion youd prefer to experience
in each area of your life below:
Health:
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Relationships:
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Creative Expression:
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Financial Supply:
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Deep inside our hearts, we already know what makes us happy. We just need to allow
ourselves to imagine and dream big.
So now, imagine in your hand is a magic wand. This magic wand gives you the power to
create anything you want simply by wishing for it. There are no limitations.
In each of the four domains, describe vividly 3 dream scenarios for each of the categories,
or what you would love if money, time, experience, education, your gender or background
were not a factor.
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Health:
Dream Scenario 1:
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Dream Scenario 2:
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Dream Scenario 3:
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Relationships:
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Creative Expression:
Dream Scenario 1:
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Dream Scenario 2:
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Financial Supply:
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Begin to shape a possiblity. Imagine a life youd like to live; physically, relationally,
expressively. Imagine your work, your money, how you spend your leisure time. What
do you do for your community?
Your opportunity is to begin to let those images emerge.
Writing these images down in this exercise is an important aspect to dream-building.
Theres new research that validates what great goal achievers have known for many,
many years, and that is the amplified power towards a dream when you actually write
it down.
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How will you know if the dream you choose is the right dream to pursue? This is a very
important question, and one to you should give serious consideration.
Just because a dream feels exciting at first doesnt mean you should invest yourself into
making that particular dream a reality.
Your dream needs to be worthy of you. It needs to pass a series of tests. It needs to align
with your values and it needs to make you feel more alive.
The people who hesitate to
discover their dream hesitate
because theyve been burned
before. Theyve invested time
and money into a dream or
goal and it didnt turn out
like they had hoped. There
was some stumbling block or
challenge, their motivation fizzled out, they lost interest, or found out that it wasnt all they
had imagined. There were unforeseen complications. You dont want to go down that road.
Thats why youll want to go through the process of SORTING your dream scenarios
before picking out the one you want to focus on.
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Examples of core values might be family, health, security, autonomy, creativity, time spent
in nature. One way to think of core values is to ask yourself, What would matter if I
knew I only had a year left to live?
Knowing your core values will help you be more clear about your dream.
Below, write down five of your core values, or things that are most important to you and
that you need in order to feel at ease with life.
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2.____________________________________________________________________________
3.____________________________________________________________________________
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Is it grand enough to reflect your talents, your experience, your wisdom and your passion?
You only have one precious life. Is your dream worthy of that life?
Is your dream worthy of you?
YES
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But when it came time to align this with her values, there was a part of her that wasnt
happy with the answer. Her husband was in support of her and her dream, but the
thought of leaving her husband alone to care for their 3-year old toddler during the three
month-long stints that shed be traveling didnt sit right with her. She worried about the
long-term affects her absences would have on her marriage and on her son. Her familys
wellbeing was one of her core values.
When something doesnt sit right with you, its a good sign that its not in alignment with
your core values. When its in alignment, all parts of you will agree about your dream.
You wont have internal struggles. Youll know youre on the right path and you wont
have to compromise about the things that matter most.
Does your dream fit with your core values?
YES
NO
YES
NO
Question #5: Will I need help from a higher power to accomplish this dream?
Another way to ask this question is to ask yourself if you know every single thing that
needs to be done to bring about this dream. If you do, then the dream isnt big enough.
Its just a worthy goal.
Your dream should actually pull you into you into a larger dimension of who youre
meant to be. That dream is the future pull of the discovery of the authentic self. Part of
that is exploring the unknown aspects of really who you are. You have to allow the dream
to build you, not just have you building the dream.
One way to know whether or not your dream will require help from a higher power is
to ask yourself if you know absolutely all the steps its going to take to accomplish your
dream. Take the example I mentioned earlier about cleaning out the garage. You probably
know all the steps itll take to accomplish that goal. Youll have to hire a dump truck, you
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may need to sell some things on Craigslist, and youll probably have to spend at least a
few days sorting, cleaning and organizing. Theres nothing about cleaning out the garage
that will require help from a higher power.
In contrast, take the dream of opening up a fly fishing outfitting business in the mountains
of Colorado. You love to fly fish, but your current profession has nothing to do with
fishing. You work in a corporate office and you live in Indiana. Youve never owned
your own business before, let alone an outfitting business in a part of the country you
may have only visited while on vacation once or twice. Do you know all thats required
and everything youll need to do in order to have a successful outfitting business in a
location you know very little about? Most likely youll need help from a higher power to
be successful.
Does your dream require help from a higher power?
YES
NO
YES
NO
Scoring: Now add up your yes answers in this exercise. If you wrote 6 Yes answers,
congratulations! That means this dream is likely the right dream for you. If you answered
Yes on 1-5 questions, you may wish to refine your dream or consider a different dream.
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Dream Candidate 1
As you are getting into this dream, what do you feel in your body? Any tension or
tightness? Note it below.
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Do you feel a sense of expansiveness or contraction when you imagine your dream scenario?
YES
NO
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Dream Candidate 2
As you are getting into this dream, what do you feel in your body? Any tension or
tightness? Note it below.
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Do you feel a sense of expansiveness or contraction when you imagine your dream scenario?
YES
NO
Dream Candidate 3
As you are getting into this dream, what do you feel in your body? Any tension or
tightness? Note it below.
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Do you feel a sense of expansiveness or contraction when you imagine your dream scenario?
YES
NO
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Your body has intelligence and is tapped into your subconscious. If you feel tension or
tightness in your body when thinking about a certain dream scenario, it may be worth
investigating why that dream may not be right for you, or you may just want to find a
different dream.
Youll want to select the dream that feels most expansive. Which dream fits that
description? Write it down here:
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YES
NO
Are there aspects of your dream that need to be changed or expanded? How can you alter
your dream to align with all of the tests listed above?
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Now write out your final dream, with all the refinements and revisions here:
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not knowing what youre passionate about, to having too many interests filling up your
time, to narrowing it and choosing one, big, wonderful dream thats worthy of you.
Knowing the details of your selected dream is an important first step, but its not enough.
You must take action in order to make it a reality.
Ready to do that?
If so, great, because Ive created a high-value, 75-minute FREE webinar that will propel
you from where you are right now to where you need to go in creating the life you love.
During this free webinar, Ill reveal proven techniques for evicting the limiting patterns
of self-doubt and fear once and for all so you can step into confidence that is necessary in
order to manifest your dream and your bigger life.
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Discovering your dream is a key step to living a life thats fuller, freer and
more purposeful. But its only the beginning.
And if your dream seems out of reach right now, or you feel overwhelmed and hesitant
to take action, then its especially critical that you register for my webinar.
It can help you make a quantum leap to the life you were meant to live.
Register here:
www.dreambuilderprogram.com/webinar
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conversations with world leaders, and addressing the most significant issues our world is
facing. In addition, as part of the Gandhi-King delegation, she met with Nelson Mandela
in Cape Town, South Africa.
She is the author of two best-selling books, No Less Than Greatness and Building Your
Field of Dreams, which became a PBS special. Featured in the movies The Moses Code and
Beyond The Secret Mary Morrissey has also authored several audio programs, including
the popular co-produced audio, Working With the Law with Bob Proctor.
As a highly sought after inspirational speaker, executive coach, and corporate consultant,
Mary has 30 years experience empowering individuals to achieve new heights of spiritual
aliveness, wealth, and authentic success.
Mary has a Bachelors Degree in Education, a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology,
and an honorary Doctorate in Humane Letters. She has been an ordained minister for
more than 30 years.
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