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AUGUST (SECOND) 2009
Vol 36, Issue No. 857
CONTENTS
BUILDS HAPPY HOMES
Founder: Vishwa Nath
(1917-2002)
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JODHAA AKBAR
JEWELLERYGLITTERED!
Venkateshwarlu Kolluru
88 WHY MORE AND MORE DAD’S THE WORD! 126 PANDIT RONU
Mita Banerjee
WOMEN ARE DRINKING MAJUMDAR
Aruna Anand Subhra Majumdar
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DISTINCTION: SRUSHTI NOWHERE CURVACEOUS
Gayatri T. Rao Neha Kirpal
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94 PAINTING WOMEN 136 SETTING UP A
OF TODAY PERFECT GUEST ROOM
Our Correspondent Bhavna Keswani
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● Rainbow Rice
pans with flour, baking
paper. Combine in a bowl. Beat
Italian twisters
powder, soda milk in a
condense d
butter and mixer
with an electric and
large bowl the flour mixer
until fluffy. Add Pour
d enough water
and beat well.
a medium ITALIAN
FICTION
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half of the
TWISTERS
remaining batter into
Pizza swirls
for making them.a
bowl. Spoon melted
bag. Stir into
a plastic
or cocoa powder INGREDIENTS:
By Savita Bhargav
whirls
Peanut choco
mozarella cheese chocolate
spoon into another 11/4 cups flour
1 cup grated batter in bowl, in
pasta sauce Cut 1/2-1”
opening 1 tbsp butter
1/2 cup prepared plastic bag. bag. Pipe 3 1/2 tsp sugar
TASTY SNACKS
corner of each of yellow
PEANUT
Tacho Rice
METHOD yeast bottom g rings 1/2 tsp salt
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sugar and even alternatin
Mix the milk, until yeast batters into 11/2 tsp dry yeast (instant)
CHOCO in a bowl.
Let stand
flour, salt and
butter and
chocolate
pans, two
beginning
edge 1/4 cup warm
milk
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1/2 tsp baking 1 tsp grated for at least till double herbs and
it in two. layer with yeast, mixed a
3 tsp cocoa
powder 1/4 tsp salt
refrigerate
flour in a
baking and divide a floured a spread top milk and prepare
Grease and and pat square on serving plate, sauce, repeat with Add the warm
85 gm butter 6 tbsp cold
butter dough on it dough to a pasta sauce over Take small
portions,
sugar essence sheet. Place circle, forming of
a
surface. Spread pasta reasoning little
chocolate
layer, then soft dough. and on a
3 tbsp castor 1 tsp vanilla into a 10 inch a little ged Take two rolls
1/2 tsp vanilla essence 3/4 cup mixed
fruit jam Pierce bottom in it. Sprinkle Roll yellow-edchocolate-edged layer. roll them. surface, twist
high edge. of the cheese. lightly floured Place these
1/4 cup shelled
peanuts juice with a fork.
Bake on it and half to enclose
remaining
melted chocolate
.
1 tsp lemon dough all over about 25
style Top with them together.
sugar d oven for dough swiss-rollcross-wise into 1 on prepared
2 tbsp icing
Broccoli Pulao
cherries or roll bread sticks Press down
whipped cream a pre-heate
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till slightly browned.in a filling. Cut on a
METHOD sweetened minutes or Place slices baking sheets. to prevent
flour, baking (optional) lemon juice inch slice. sheet or tray.
Sift together powder. Beat ice cream Melt jam with over low heat baking edges slightly Bake
unravelling.
48 TASTY SNACKS
sheets or trays.of each whirl.
in the centre moderately
in a PIZZA BOARD CAKE INGREDIENTS:flour
SWIRLS
Sunanda Ramachandra
Then bake
until set. Cool INGREDIENTS: d milk 11/3 cup refined
hot oven, sugar
the biscuits,
serve dusted INGREDIENTS: 200 gm condense
1/2 cup granulated
(maida)
with icing sugar. 21/2 cups flour 140 gm maida 1/2 cup butter milk
2 tbsp butter butter oil
60 gm melted cake 1/3 cup refined
1 tsp sugar essence Check board
1 tsp vanilla
GLAZED
1 tsp salt 1/2 tsp soda
3 tsp dry yeast 1 tsp baking
powder
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ALL THE GIRLS GONE? ● Pizza Swirls ● Sweet ‘N’ Spicy
Kasturi Rangachari ● Check Board Cake Pakoras
THE ART OF ● Italian Twisters ● Twice Baked Potatoes
74 THE IMPRINT (PART-II) BARGAINING ● Cinnamon Coffee ● Baked Sandwiches
Kumud Bhatnagar Ashutosh Rawal Cake ● Baked Crispy Stars
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EDITORIAL
in IPC. For example, the above-mentioned section was
ALL FOR THE SAKE OF LIVING
framed when the British were ruling India. Most of the
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here are thousands of such sports persons, who British officers and soldiers had not brought their
chose sports other than cricket and tennis and families with them. In order to satisfy their carnal lust,
then lived in anonymity, courtesy general apathy they would ruthlessly target young Indian girls. It was
prevailing in our country towards sports. only to provide a legal umbrella to such immoral officials
Recently, a call girl was arrested in Raipur, the that the Section 375 was introduced in IPC.
capital of Chhattisgarh. Investigation revealed that she Obviously, the social structure of that time did not
was actually a national-level volleyball player from Asam allow the girls to fight for their causes.
and had been married to a sportsman. The couple had a But now, India is independent. It is high time that all
daughter too and they were expecting to be employed such antiquated laws be dumped into the Indian ocean.
with railways in sports quota. But the railways did not In their place, new laws must be framed that guarantee
respond to their applications for years and the couple to protect fundamental rights of the girls in particular.
struggled for a living. Their tragedy did not end here.
The husband met untimely death and the wife found POWERFUL CASTE PANCHAYATS
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herself all alone eking a humble living. Her ordeals ndia is a country of the villages, it is said. We have
perhaps would have ended had the railways, or some been living in this nostalgia since long. Overtime,
other capable employer absorbed her under sports however, villages segregated on the basis of
quota. But nobody came forward. religions and even religions divided into
Now, she has been caught red-handed castes and creeds. Whether this
working as a call girl. Of course, the law will segregation has done any good to our
take its course, she will be sermonised society is not known, but its ill-effects have
about morality and all that. But nobody will been surfacing from time to time.
look into the causes that drove her to sell Latest is the case from a village in Jind
her body for a living. district of Haryana. A youth went boldly
Our governments pretend to promote against the wishes of elders and married a
sports. After every Olympics, sports is girl Sonia of the same village. The real
made a compulsory subject in schools. problem arose only after it became known
Sports events begin to be organised amid that they both belonged to the same gotra
much fanfare. But then everything becomes and as such, were siblings.
‘normal’. Recently, even a pet dog of a Enraged caste panchayat (Khap)
noted Indian cricketer became newsmaker. banished the boy and his family from the
But there are no tears in the eyes of the village. The girl was forcibly separated and
officials for the sports woman turned call girl. confined in her parent’s home. Some days later, the boy
took another bold decision and approached the Punjab
PROBING ONE MORE COLONIAL-ERA LAW & Haryana High Court in Chandigarh and appealed for
S
ection 375 of Indian Penal Code (IPC) presumes the recovery of his bride.
that a 16-year-old girl is mature enough, both The Hon’ble High Court did assist him and asked the
physically and mentally, so as to give her consent State Government to execute the wishes of the boy.
to a man to establish physical relationship with her. Consequently, the state Government sent a police force
Hold on, this section was framed about 150 years ago with the boy to get his bride released. But the villagers
and much waters have flown since then in the Ganges not only stymied the police force but also lynched the
and Yamuna. So does such a legal permission hold boy for his ‘sin’. Had the boy eloped with the girl and
any meaning in modern context? Lucknow bench of settled in some city, everything would have become
Allahabad High Court has precisely put the same normal. But he preferred to stay in the village. He was
question before the UP Government and UPA killed to save the honour of the village. The incident also
Government at the centre. highlights how hapless our courts have become. They
Justice V D Chaturvedi has issued notices asking if issue orders but nobody honours them. Orders of
both the governments agree to raise this age limit to 18 clearing encroachment are other examples. India is
years. Both the governments have to file their replies poised to become a superpower. But our orthodox caste
by 31 August. system is pulling her downward. Certainly, we need to
Meanwhile, a healthy debate can be started about come out of this mire first, and shed our age-old caste
the relevance of several British-period laws contained reservations. write to: letters@womansera.com We
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more?” She suddenly
asked her husband.
“What makes you ask
this stupid question?
Of course, I love you.”
“Then why do you
spend time in the
study instead of
spending with
me?” “Because I like reading
and while chatting with you it
is not possible to concentrate.”
“That means you don’t like my
company,” she kept on nagging
him.
“I need to spend some time on
my own, it is important for both of
us. I never interfere in your
personal spaces, do I?”
“What do you want to hide
from me? There is nothing
personal between us, we are
married.”
“Please leave me alone. Give me
some space to grow,” he shouted
back and shut himself in the study.
Do you give space to your
partner? Remember that he or she
had a life before meeting you. Give
your partner some space to live the
way he or she wants. Don’t demand When you’re married, the
total attention and companionship at boundaries between yourself and
all the times. You will never have a your spouse aren’t always clear. For
break-up if you let the other person some people, marriage brings the
live life as he or she wants. expectation of spending as much
Kahlil Gibran had said, “Let there time as possible with a spouse and
be spaces in your togetherness. And doing most things together. In this
let the winds of the heavens dance model of marriage, the two people COUPLES WHO DO
between you. And stand together, yet generally function as a single unit in
not too near together, for the pillars of thoughts and actions. Love does not
EVERYTHING TOGETHER
the temple stand apart, and the oak mean dissolving all boundaries MISS PUTTING
tree and the cypress grow not in each between each other. It means
other’s shadow.” acknowledging that there are IMPORTANT SPACES IN
Couples who do everything boundaries and being able to
together miss putting important communicate despite them.
THEIR TOGETHERNESS
spaces in their togetherness so that Setting boundaries is essential if SO THAT NEW,
new, separate growth can occur. we want to be both physically and
Without new growth and fresh input emotionally healthy. Strong bound - SEPARATE GROWTH
from each person, a relationship can aries help maintain balance, self-
stagnate and lack liveliness. It’s respect and allow us to be interde-
CAN OCCUR. WITHOUT
important for each spouse to have pendent in intimate relationships. A NEW GROWTH AND
some time alone to pursue individual lack of boundaries is like leaving the
interests or enjoy being in privacy. door to your home wide open, FRESH INPUT FROM
When you crowd your partner and anyone, including welcome and
don’t give him or her breathing room, unwelcome guests can walk in
EACH PERSON,
you run the risk of asphyxiating the without hesitation. Having rigid A RELATIONSHIP CAN
very relationship that is most boundaries leads to loneliness and
important to you. isolation and is akin to living in a STAGNATE AND LACK
fortress with no opening in sight. You
can’t get out and no one can
LIVELINESS. IT’S
SETTING BOUNDARIES penetrate your walls. This leads to IMPORTANT FOR EACH
According to Dr Deepak Raheja problems in intimacy in significant
head of psychiatry, Paras Hospitals, relationships. Unhealthy boundaries SPOUSE TO HAVE
“There is a popular misconception cause us deep emotional pain that
about romantic love and other ‘close’ can lead to dependency, depression,
SOME TIME ALONE TO
relationships that two people need to anxiety and physical illness. PURSUE INDIVIDUAL
be together all the time, share every When you do not have healthy,
single thing and do everything distinct personal boundaries, you INTERESTS OR ENJOY
together to establish intimacy. This may try to change your spouse to be
is a dangerous myth that enables more like you want him/her to be to
BEING IN PRIVACY.
people to classify relationships as meet your needs and expectations.
‘close’ or ‘distant’, leading to In so doing, you are dishonouring
complete breakdown in relationships your partner and are not respecting
in some cases. The truth is that not his/her unique individuality and right
being able to live without someone to make choices. You are also failing
and ‘merging together’ makes for to provide protected space so that
good lyrics in romantic songs but your spouse’s individual growth and
contributes little to the health of a potential can flourish.
relationship.” “Personal boundaries are limits or
Famous danseuse Geeta borders that define where you end
Chandran explains in this way, and others begin. Your personal
“Space is a very vague term, so you boundary is defined by the amount
can’t define it and above all each of physical and emotional space you
person, each couple is different and allow between yourself and your
because of this you can’t standardise partner. Personal boundaries also
it. In the relationship you can’t be help you decide what types of
claiming every inch of space or make communication, behaviour and
a layer on others identity.” interaction you accept from others.
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Life without energy is not
living, but just existing. That
Don’t let the “go” in you be is why it is very important for
us, that in every moment of
retarded by those who come up our life we should have
energy and enthusiasm.
with discouraging ideas. Even though most of us do
understand the need for it,
Here’s how to tackle them. we often wonder how or
where our energy disappears when
By Suniti Kharbanda we most need it. The secret of
energy disappearance is not far from
us. It might be your neighbour, your
servant, your friend or even your own
self who is acting as an Energy
Leech and sucking out your energy.
Once you are aware of the presence
of these Energy Leeches you will be
in a better position to deal with them. may be secretly envying you and so themselves good for nothings and
As they say, “Forewarned is always try to be one-up on you. Your want other people also to be in their
forearmed”. daughter may have come first in her category. They will always be morose
Examples of Energy Leeches that class and you are basking in the and unhappy and will never
you may face: glory but your colleague tells you that understand your enthusiasm. Their
in a better school she might not be proximity is enough to sap you of
● Negative people: If you think able to duplicate the feat. Or else you your energy.
back you will recollect instances get a well-deserved promotion and
when brimming with energy you your “friend” tells you that you should ● The person in the mirror:
stepped out of the house and was have got it six months ago and Strange though it may sound but
waylaid by your neighbour, Sujata. getting it now does not mean much. sometimes we ourselves are our
She gave you a total recap of your Your joi de vivre dies a fast death worst enemies. We do not have faith
neighbourhood but in a negative then because your energy has been in ourselves. An aspiration or a
manner. “Sharmaji is having an affair sucked by your “friend.” We can all dream is not worked at because we
with Anita because Anita was seen recollect occasions when we felt feel that we will fail at it. It is good to
talking to him near the cinema hall. good about our achievement but our know your own strengths and
Rekha’s children are so snooty, they friends/neighbours/family did not feel weaknesses and be realistic about it
don’t even talk to their it was good enough or knew but not pessimistic. Till you have
neighbourhood children. Neera’s dog somebody who was better. faced new situations or problems you
is so ill-trained — it keeps littering the will not realise your potential. Your
roadside. Aarushi called us for a ● Good for nothings: This inability to bake that perfect cake
meal but she’s an atrocious cook — category of Energy Leeches are doesn’t mean that you are incapable
we all had a stomachache the next and will never be able to do it. Treat
day... so on and so forth. Her your failures as “stepping stones” and
monologue continues and by the time THESE ARE THE not “stopping stones”.
you could escape from her you were ENERGY LEECHES WHO However, there are some time
no longer fresh and enthusiastic. tested ways to overcome these
Sujata’s negative thoughts had MAY BE SECRETLY human leeches but only when you
leeched out all your happy feelings. ENVYING YOU AND recognise the energy-sucking
SO ALWAYS TRY TO BE situations and want to do something
● Dream snatchers: These are about it. These are some of the good
the category of people who cannot ONE-UP ON YOU. ways.
see anybody flourishing. The moment
you tell them your dream they snatch ● Positive people: This is the
it away from you. Remember first and foremost way. In your
Gurubhai’s father in the movie Guru? acquaintances and friends, identify
A young college girl Ankita might positive people who “give” rather than
mention that she wants to become take. They give their time, energy,
an airline pilot and her cousin, the affection, advice and through their
Dream Snatcher Sarita, immediately pleasantness make you feel that the
tells her many reasons why it is not world is good and that you are
possible — you are too fat, your good. They give positive
parents will not be able to afford it, suggestions and radiate a
you are not smart enough, there is a positive energy and aura. Just
glut of pilots... So, even before look around for these people
Ankita’s dreams can take who have a pleasant word to
wing, she has been grounded. exchange with you. Meet them
It can happen to you when your often to replenish your depleted
husband gives you the drawbacks of energy.
taking up a job or the mother-in-law
tells the daughter-in-law why she can ● Smile: Even at the cost of
never be a good cook. Without sounding cliched, your “smile is your
dreams you are like a wingless best armour”. When confronted with
butterfly. the good-for-nothings or the negative
people, smile. Faced with a smile,
● The “J” people (for the these Energy Leeches feel helpless
uninitiated “J” stands for Jealous): because they realise that all their
These are the Energy Leeches who efforts have gone in vain and that
there is no point in pulling down the positive stories and anecdotes to
person further as it is not making any share with others. Appreciate and
difference. encourage others, even those whom
you feel are not so lovable. Do
● Avoid: Another good way is believe in the motto life is like an
after identifying such Energy Leeches echo, it all comes back” the good, the
— avoid them. When you see your bad, the true and the false — so give
negative neighbour “Sujata” or the the world the best you have and the
dream snatcher “Sarita” coming from best shall come back to you.
across the road to meet you, smile
and wave but tell her you are in a ● Meditate: When nothing else
hurry and cannot stop to chat now. seems to work, just step back from
your life and meditate. Meditation
● Tell firmly: Sometimes, it is here means to be alone with your
not possible to avoid these Energy own self. Think about your reasons
Leeches because they may be for feeling unhappy or let down. If the
related to you or may be your reason lies with your own self, try and
colleague at office. ● Positive campaign: However, improve. However, if the cause is
Tell them politely but firmly that my favourite way is to start a positive someone else, decide which of the
you appreciate their concern about campaign by your own self. You above strategies will work best to
your love life/cooking skills/job yourself should be positive about counter the energy sapped from you.
prospects/looks but are not willing to your own self and others. Firstly So, from today, just keep your
discuss it as you are sensitive to it. avoid being an Energy Leech eyes and ears open to identify these
Better to be firm once than suffer yourself. Develop your personality so energy sucking Leeches and after
every time you meet and the that others enjoy your company. that banish them from your presence.
sensitive topic creeps up. Have some heartwarming and Happy energy-filled life ahead! We
M
other, please come and stay with me. I her heart full of sorrow. She had virtually lost her
have a good house and great job and son, she thought.
have servants to look after the house,” After a few days of her marriage, Sandhya came
Raghav begged. “No, my dear child,” along with Raghav to their village. She requested
said Krishnadevi. “I cannot leave your her mother-in-law to come along with them to
father’s house. That big entrance door one Cuttack, but Krishnadevi obstinately refused.
day welcomed me into this family and also Days passed, Krishnadevi wove silk saris and got
bid farewell to your father when you were only 10 them sold. But now her eyesight was dim. She was
years old. I have my fond memories, my dear. I will not able to see distinctly. But she still did not think of
not be able to move anywhere at this age.” moving to her son’s place.
Raghav pleaded but to no avail. His mother had One day, as she had just finished her weaving
brought him up with great hardship after his father and was about to wash herself, she suddenly heard
died early. His mother learnt weaving saris a bang on her door. She opened it and to
and took up the occupation. Though it was Krishnadevi her surprise, there stood a woman about to
not a flourishing business, her mother’s was speechless. fall on the ground.
hard labour made them survive in the ‘A woman’s “Aunty, please give me something to
world. He had now joined the civil services condition is eat. I am very hungry,” said the woman.
and been posted as the district magistrate always “Come in, “Krishnadevi said.” Wash
of Cuttack. pathetic,’ she your feet and hands. I will see what I can
Krishnadevi was never born in or thought. give you.” She gave her some rice she had
married into a weaver’s family, but took up Kokila was made earlier as she had not started her
the occupation to survive and bring up her very tired. She cooking. “What is your name?” she asked.
only child. She could never beg to slept as soon as “My name is Kokila,” said the stranger
anybody even if she had to survive without she had woman. My husband beat me and drove
food for days. But now when her son finished the me out of the house for another woman
wanted her to stay with him, she was food and and hence, I am moving from place to
happy...happy that she could now enjoy cleaned the place without knowing what to do.
her remaining days at her son’s place. She vessels. “Okay, Kokila, you eat your food and
was about to approve of his son’s request, take rest. Afterwards, we will go to your
when she shivered at a thought that all of a sudden husband’s place and discuss with him.”
generated in her brain... What would happen if her “That will be of no use, aunty. I could not bear a
daughter-in-law throws her out of her house, ill treats child, so no one in my husband’s family wants me.
her etc, etc? So she decided to stay back in her They made him marry a second time and threw me
village. out.”
After a few months, Raghav married Sandhya Krishnadevi was speechless. ‘A woman’s
who was once studying along with him. She was the condition is always pathetic,’ she thought. Kokila
daughter of an IAS officer. Krishnadevi was happy was very tired. She slept as soon as she had finished
when her son got married, at the same time was sad the food and cleaned the vessels. Then the day gave
at the status of her daughter-in-law. She cried with way to night and the moon shone brightly. “Kokila,
Both of them had their food and as Krishnadevi at your place. Besides, the servants are not
was getting ready to clean the vessels, Kokila very cooperative.”
snatched them and sat down to clean them. “Aunty, “Don’t worry, Kokila. I am managing
do you not have any children/husband? I did not somehow. You concentrate here. Tell me,
see anybody,” enquired Kokila. are you taking good care of my mother-in-
“I have a son at Cuttack. He is married and law or not?
happily settled,” Krishnadevi answered. “Yes, didi, she is very nice. She also
Kokila did not ask anything further. Days turned takes care of me...”
to nights and nights to days. Krishnadevi grew fond Krishnadevi was taken aback. ‘Kokila
of Kokila. Kokila helped Krishnadevi in all the has been sent by Sandhya so that she can
household work. Slowly, she took care of the entire take care of me,’ she thought. How good
work in the house. She also learnt weaving and this girl is and how mean I am! she prayed.
helped Krishnadevi in weaving. She took great care “Okay, Mother, we are going. Please
of Krishnadevi when she fell ill. take care of yourself, Kokila take care. Call us if
Life went on. Then, one day, Krishnadevi heard a here is any requirement,” Raghav said as he started
knock on her door early in the morning. Kokila to go back.
opened the door. Raghav and Sandhya took her blessings and
“Who is it, Kokila? Krishnadevi asked. raced off in a car as Krishnadevi stood at the door
“Namskar, mother,” Sandhya and your son have for hours, remembering the childhood days of
come to see you, it has been long since we met,” Raghav. Both are very nice persons. Sandhya has a
said Raghav. heart of gold. I am so proud I am her mother-in-
Krishnadevi was very happy to see her son. “How law?” her inner voice choked.
are you, my son?” she cried. “Aunty, what are you weaving? It is turning out to
“I am fine, mother,” Raghav replied. be very beautiful,” enquired Kokila.
Both Raghav and Sandhya touched her feet and Yes, I want to weave the best sari of my life,” said
she blessed them. Krishnadevi. “You just see how it looks after it is
“Kokila, give them some water and make some over.”
tea,” she ordered. But what is this aunty? Why are you weaving at
They talked and talked and again Raghav asked night. Your eyes will get spoiled. Some days back
Krishnadevi to come with them. you were complaining you were not able to see
“Don’t worry son. I now have Kokila, and she is properly. “I want to weave the best sari before I die,
of great help to me,” said Krishnadevi and went into my dear,” explained Krishnadevi.
the kitchen to bring some water. As she entered, she “Mother, what is this, I told you to stop weaving,
overheard the conversation? “Didi, are you okay? but you are so adamant. You have spoiled your
How are you able to manage the work? I have been eyes. Only when Kokila telephoned, I came to
know,” said Raghav with grief. “Come on, we will
go to the doctor. “Krishnadevi obediently went
along with Raghav. She had
become half blind now and she
wanted to get back her
eyesight.
“We have to operate on
her,” said the doctor.
“But doctor, will I be
okay?” Krishnadevi
enquired.”
“Oh yes, very
much. Within one
month you can see
clearly, but you
should not strain
your eyes.”
Krishnadevi
stayed with her son and daughter-in-law. “Mother, where are you. How
They took very good care of her. Suddenly, Krishnadevi are your eyes?” Raghav shouted while
one day, Krishnadevi said, she wanted to was taken entering.” What are you doing? Again
go back to her village. aback. ‘Kokila weaving!
“But why mother? Are you not happy has been sent “No my son, I have stopped weaving. In
here?” by Sandhya so fact I have finished weaving the last sari of
“I am my son, but I have to go.” I will that she can my life.
come to you my child, but now let me go.” take care of From now onwards I will not touch the
Krishnadevi pleaded. me,’ she loom.”
Krishnadevi and Kokila were back in the thought. “How “How are you mother?” asked Sandhya
village. Krishnadevi went to her loom, paid good this girl in a tone as sweet as a nightingale’s.
her salutations and restarted the work she is and how Very good my child. I am fine, “saying
had left unfinished. this, Krishnadevi she went inside. She
mean I am!”
“Look, Kokila, how is it?” Krishnadevi brought out the sari spread it and draped it
asked happily while showing the sari she
she prayed. over Sandhya, “Look Kokila, does she not
had made. look like a goddess? Sandhya is the real
“It is really beautiful, anybody who wears it will goddess for whom I have weaved the last and best
look like a goddess. What price will you fix, aunty? piece of work of my life,” she embraced her
exclaimed Kokila. daughter-in-law.
“I want to present it to a goddess, said “Mother, you are a goddess, not me,” said
Krishnadevi. “It is priceless. Can anybody really pay Sandhya.” You have single handedly brought up
for this, I wonder.” your son. Whatever he is today is because of your
“Kokila, go, open the door. The goddess is sacrifices, your hard labour and your struggles. Will
coming,” said Krishnadevi,, one day. you come and stay with us? Mother, please. We will
‘Who? Goddess? Which goddess? Do gods be honoured,” requested Sandhya.
really come?’ thought Kokila. “Yes, my dear, “I will, said Krishnadevi. We
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around the outer corner of my eyes. temporary tattoo. Will it be safe?
What can I do to reduce these? A temporary tattoo is nothing more
You have not mentioned your age. than a skin transfer. It has a short life
Some fine lines in this region are like henna and would fade away. You
natural and sometimes these appear also get the variety that can be
because we tend to squint our eyes removed with oil or certain
while we work at the computer or are substances and they are a lot more
I have to step out for work in the sun out in the sun. popular. At 24 if your daughter
and sometimes I forget the sun - if you gently massage the area decides to get even a permanent
screen. Mostly, despite the with almond oil in an inward motion tattoo, you will not be able to stop
sunscreen, I feel my face looks and then wipe your eyes with cold her, so just help her identify a good
stressed. I can only do something milk you will get some relief. spot and something that is timeless
weekly. Can you suggest something and nice.
to undo the sun damage?
As you are using sunscreen, the I have just noticed a few grey strands
damage would be minimal and might in my hair and I am barely 22. I I find that my six-year-old daughter
be pollution-driven. You can make a definitely do not want to colour my is constantly in front of the mirror and
cooling mask with a piece of hair. What do I do? wants to use make-up. What can I do
cucumber put in the blender with half Yes, greying hair before old age to satisfy her without harming her
a teaspoon of honey. Leave on your is the bane of modern life and has skin?
face and neck for 15 to 20 minutes various factors right from sinus It is a fact that we live in a beauty-
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before washing off. problems to hereditary genes. You obsessed society. She is too young
do not need to colour your hair for a to be allowed any make-up but you
few stray hair. However, if it bothers can reward her on festivals when she
When I return from my office I feel as you, try using henna with conditioner is all dressed up, with a little stick-on
though my feet are on fire. What can as that will give it a dark orange hue. bindi and maybe some lip tint. Avoid
I do to de-stress my feet? Don’t pluck these hair or cut them any heavy thing like foundation or
Well, take enough water in a tub because they are often harder than eye colour etc.
to soak your feet. It should be tepid – other hair and tend to show more if
not too hot and not chilled either. Add they are very short.
the juice of a few lemons and soak I use make-up sparingly but lately I
until the water feels the same feel that whenever I use make-up
temperature as your feet. I am 23 and have never had any skin within a day or so I get a rash around
Rub half a teaspoon of honey on problem but since I got engaged my hairline around the jaw and on the
your soles and feet and immerse three months ago my skin erupts forehead. What should I do?
them again in cooler water. Leave for regularly with pimples and zits. What It is possible that the problem is
a few minutes and wash with ordinary do I do as I am getting married in six being created not by make-up but by
water. months’ time? incorrect make-up removal. Check
It seems that your engagement the manufacturing date of your
has triggered some sort of stress in remover and of your make-up as
I am barely 17 and have the habit of your system and you need to care for well.
chewing my nails. I have now your emotions and health; skin-care Ensure that when you remove
reduced it greatly but find that my will sort itself out. Increase your water make-up no residue stays behind in
cuticles are getting black. Are the two intake. the hairline area. Use rose water on
related in any way? Make a face pack of Fuller’s earth cotton wool to give it one last wipe to
It might be related if you were with rose water and you can add a ensure that all residue has been
pulling out at the cuticles while pinch of cinnamon powder to it. Apply removed.
Flower show
A girl carries a
traditional ‘silleta’
Digital camera (flower
arrangement)
A Panasonic new stylish
compact digital camera ‘Lumix during a
DMC - ZXI on display at the parade of
company’s showroom in Tokyo. Flower
The camera features the world’s Festival in
thinnest lens in the compact Medellin,
lens unit. We need to compete Antiquia
with Japan earnestly. department,
Colombia.
With so much
flowers
growing in
India, why can’t
we organise such
events?
The robot-suit
Japan’s robotics venture Cyberdyne employees
wearing the robot-suit ‘HAL’ (Hybrid Assistive
Limb) walk on a street in Tokyo for the
demonstration. The robot-suit can help assist the
disabled and the aged. When can we see such
technological advances in our own country?
In Today’s
love style
Deepika Padukone
charms customers while
autographing jersies
during a promotion for the
movie “Aaj Kal Love” at
Reliance Trend in
Mumbai on July 31, 2009.
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carried down from the Stone with his cane. And research proves
Age. The father goes out to that more hands-on parenting by the
work. He’s responsible for father has a positive effect on a
putting food on the table. As child’s growth.
far as his kids are concerned New studies claim that children
he is the ‘provider’ and whose fathers play a big part in their
occasionally the upbringing are likely to be more
‘disciplinarian’. Don’t we still intelligent and more successful
remember with a shiver those socially. In her book, Fatherhood
terrifying words from our mothers, Reclaimed , researcher Adrienne
“Wait till your father comes home and Burgess points that stay-at-home
sees this”? fathers bring up children who do
Moms have always been the better than those with housewife
‘nurturers’ – swabbing a snotty nose, mothers. A lack of involvement with
applying healing balm to a scraped their fathers between the ages of
knee, dishing up tempting meals, and seven and 11 can lead to
generally being around the home all delinquency in boys. Girls are more
day long. likely to suffer anorexia and bulimia.
Enter the New-Age father. Strong Both sexes are likely to drink and
and self-confident, but also with a take to drugs as adolescents.
Says psychiatrist Mina Bobdey, greater participation with the kids has
“Often, in the absence of the father – resulted in many positive changes.
VANDANA REMEMBERS
for various reasons whether work, There is more music in the house, he WITH PRIDE THAT IT
emotional absence, or separation – has upped their reading habit, and WAS HER PAPA WHO
single mothers find it very difficult to there is a marked improvement in TAUGHT HER TO SWIM,
bring up a child. It’s like a bullock their vocabulary. Besides, with his
pulling a cart with one wheel. The quirky sense of humour there is more
TO RIDE A CYCLE AND
balance of a child’s emotional and laughter in the house. I too, feel more THEN TO DRIVE A
physical life is affected, the sense of relaxed, knowing that he’s around to SCOOTER FOLLOWED
direction can be lost, resulting in help.” BY A CAR.
depression, addiction, or playing Many ‘father’ researchers are also
truant.” intrigued by the fact that dads have a
While single parent Anju Sachdev different parenting style from moms.
has brought up her daughter Sheetal Whereas mothers tend to soothe and
without any such negative results, calm down heir children, fathers like
she does admit the problems facing to excite and stimulate them.
life without a dad. “There were Roughhousing is a favourite activity,
financial and societal pressures. and dads like to encourage them to
When I took Sheetal for admission to take risks.
school, we felt alone and helpless Vandana remembers with pride
when we saw other children coming that it was her papa who taught her
in with both their parents. Later, when to swim, to ride a cycle and then to
I had to attend parent-teacher drive a scooter followed by a car. “If I
meetings, the teacher would was hesitant or nervous, he would
emphasise that ‘both’ parents had to always egg me on and dare me to do
attend. Sheetal also went into a mild it. I didn’t like it then, but I realise it’s
depression when her friends talked made me tougher,” she grins.
about their fathers. When the time “What fathers do particularly well
came for her higher education, I is promote a child’s independence
wished I had a partner with whom I and let go in a loving way,” says
could discuss what was best for her. I Sangita a kindergarten teacher,
also felt the lack of a father when I adding, “Have you noticed the
was looking for a matrimonial match difference in the way parents hold
for her. Most families would look their babies? While mothers tend to
askance at my divorcee status – a hold them protectively in the crook of
‘maybe-her-character-is-bad’ sort of their arms, with the head on their
look.” shoulders, I’ve noticed many fathers
who hold their babies outwards in
front of them. It’s like letting them
DAD’S PARENTING STYLE savour and see more of the world.”
Counsellor Niloufer Ebrahim fully Psychologist Gouri Dange points
sympathises with this state of affairs, out the difference in father-son and
saying, “Having another adult’s input father-daughter relationships. She
is always very helpful. One person observes, “Even at a very young age,
can go wrong. Having another adult a boy needs the involvement of his
around also means more healthy dad, who brings his distinct male
inputs. Besides, each parent has a form of love, caring, humour, image, and determining how she will
different equation with the child, and discipline, activity and guidance to relate to men in the future.”
each can provide different the relationship. Fathers are also Adds Dr Bobdey, “The role of
stimulation, drive and set of values.” better at tackling matters such as mother and father differs with the sex
HR consultant Neelima Mukherjee personal hygiene and sex education, of the child. Girls look for emotional
fully agrees, saying, “In the initial discipline, attitudes, and other key support and love, while boys look for
years of our marriage, my husband areas with adolescent sons.” approval from their father.”
Amitabh was too busy with his career Where daughters are concerned, Actually, it’s good news all around.
to give much time to the kids. I took she explains, “A dependable, Shared parenting means that the
on the role of both mom and dad. But consistent, loving and frank children have two caring parents,
now, Amitabh carries on a private interaction with her father goes a very who can both take charge and bring
consultancy from home, and his long way in building a girl’s self- added value to the relationship. We
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mention the incredible adults had undergone premarital Forever.Com, “In today’s world young
organisational pressure of counselling before getting into adults are busy achieving their goals
organising a wedding, many matrimony. Parents may, at times, be and aspirations. And in the process
people don’t care to think about unaware of certain conflicts and they strive to do well and prove
something as unexciting and as concerns that their children have with themselves every minute of the day.
sober as pre-marriage regard to marriage. This is where A couple very much in love does not
counselling. Like Western premarital counselling helps bridge get to check whether they are really
countries, the divorce rate in our the gap. People are taught problem - made for each other. A busy and
country is steadily on the rise. solving skills and the art of healthy stressful life and socialising at the
Studies show that the cause is communication. weekends do not give them enough
either a physical incompatibility or time to actually look at or discuss the
emotional absurdity between the Rectify the conflicts: Most real issues which matter after
partners. Psychological disturbances couples just don’t realise that good, marriage. So divorce rates are
due to ‘maladjustment’ in couples skill-based pre-marriage counselling becoming higher. If premarital
leading to suicide, homicide, marital can reduce the risk of divorce by up counselling is considered by the
breakdown, alcoholism, drug abuse to 30 per cent and lead to a couple or parents then problems after
etc, are increasing at an alarming significantly happier marriage, marriage and divorce can be avoided
rate. Cases of depression, stress, according to research. It can also easily.”
nervous anxiety and psychosomatic reduce the stress of the pre-wedding Although this concept is still not
disorders are on the rise, particularly period. Many couples realise after very acceptable in India as couples
in married couples. marriage that they have jumped into don’t understand the need, there is
It has been observed by married life with no proper always the pressure of adults to
sociologists that 90 per cent cases of preparation. compromise whatever the situation
the trauma of divorce could have According to Dr Pallavi Barthakur comes their way. But with this
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which has an unbroken record of Mughal paintings, the faces in the
2,000 years, the Rajasthani art of Rajasthani miniatures are depicted
painting presents a very brilliant with one eye (ek chasmi) only. There
record of intense activity. This are very few front face depictions in
school of painting makes its it. Even when these are there, these
appearance first of all in the 10th are neither fine in expressions nor too
century on a palm leaf many in number. The artist has failed
manuscript and later on walls miserably in this attempt to depict the
hand in hand with the Gujarati front face as a beautiful one.
MONSOON MAKE-UP
LIGHT AND SHEER
he monsoons have a washed out and soiled in the rainy to using lipstick, rouge, eyebrow
T
magical charm attached to season, so go for light and sheer pencil and powder. Use lipstick of a
them. The very thought of make-up. Don’t use a concealer deep, vibrant shade and apply a
the monsoons delights our during the monsoon and instead use dash, a lip gloss, to put a glow on
hearts, but it is equally the foundation. Wear a waterproof your lips. Use rouge sparingly.
important to care for your make-up such as waterproof Heavy eye make-up should be
skin and look your best mascara and eyeliner, use smoky avoided. If still you want to go with
during the monsoon. In bluish or greyish eye shadows and one, then opt for waterproof mascara
summer you could put on a pale mauve or baby-pink lipsticks. and eyeliner. You will not experience
shimmery look and fresh, Don’t give yourself much of a glossy any smudging throughout the day.
light colours to flatter yourself look. Use mat colours for your make- Choose the right shades of
because it was bright sunny days and up, specially lipsticks. Use transfer- eyeshadow and blush. Although
these give a fresh the calm look to resistant lipsticks, waterproof some eyeshadow shades will be
your personality, but in the monsoon cosmetics products like waterproof lip good to wear during monsoon
season, the dark and cloudy sky liners, waterproof eyeliners, and season, others will not. The best
sometimes gives a slightly sad touch. waterproof foundation for monsoon thing that you can do is choose
So you should wear the colours to make-up. lighter or neutral shades so that they
freshen your mood swings. During this season you should will blend in with your natural skin
Use fresh, dark, flowery and bright avoid using foundation and face colour if they should happen to streak
colours like grey, dark navy blue, sky cream when going out because rain at all. Tinted pastel eye shadows can
blue, sea blue, sea green, violet, pale will wash it off, leaving stained lines brighten up your face and still give
camel or cream, pale olive, mauve, on the face. If required, always go for you no make-up look. Light bronzers
dark olive, and peach, lavender, etc. a water-resistant foundation which with a slight sheen work brilliantly for
Thick make-up can be easily can survive the rain. Confine yourself a natural look.
MONSOON FASHION
The wardrobe during the
monsoons is restricted to the two Cs
– namely colour and comfort. Put
away your entire crisp, cool cottons no-no for this season.
and silks because they not only soak Buy a bright raincoat and a
up water avidly but become limp matching umbrella to go with it.
when they dry and lose their crease Rubber mules and slippers in bright
and shape completely. Synthetics are shades look great this season.
ideal for this season because they Leather bags are out this season.
are crease-resistant, dry fast and Opt for transparent plastic gigantic
regain their original shape when dry. bags in bold colours.
Do not wear denims but opt for Capri Choose jewellery that is bright yet
pants or light cotton fabrics. Avoid lightweight to complement your
white and light-coloured clothes as make-up. Raincoats and umbrellas
they can get muddy during a are available in the market in different
downpour. Wear vivid, vibrant colours designs, shapes and in sizes with
– glowing turquoise, rich green, deep different colours. Go right ahead and
orange – to beat the grey rainy days. use them to make your own style
Over-embellished clothes are a strict statement. We
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uring the last year I have gone through an fathers sleepless nights over their strings of
eye-opener of an experience that has taught girlfriends as they stumble their way through college
me more about human nature than any other (where they believe that it’s all play and no work
I have gone through. It has left me more that will take them places) suddenly pull themselves
tolerant and understanding and together, get great jobs abroad, but later come to
considerably wiser than I was before. What their mothers and confess in a rather abashed
was this experience? It was trying---and manner that, after six years in America all by their
succeeding!---to find brides for two nephews and the lonesome without anyone to question them on how
son of a friend of mine. they spent their money or the hours they kept, they
For reasons too complicated to explain, this task hadn’t found anyone. And that now mum and dad
had devolved on me and though I had absolutely no should do their parental duties and find them wives!
idea of how to proceed about it, I undertook it, My three boys fell into the latter category.
learnt as I went and completed it “How will you set about things?” asked
successfully. It was a bumpy ride, but one I All of them a friend.
quite enjoyed! were smart, “Goodness, how difficult can it be?” I
I undertook the task very lightly. After their replied flippantly. “I’ll just spread the word
all, all three young men (for the rest of this qualifications around to friends and family that these
narrative I shall, in the time-honoured were excellent three are available and they will be
Indian manner, call them “boys”, and the and they had snapped up!”
young women I was trying to hook them up fantastic jobs. I made calls, spoke to everyone I knew
with, “girls”) were fine specimens of It would be a and then, a week or two later, called again
youthful manhood. All of them were smart, piece of cake to to remind them. But not a lead did I get.
their qualifications were excellent and they get them “I spoke to Vinodini’s mother but the girl
had fantastic jobs. So I couldn’t imagine is already married” said a friend.
married, I
any girls or their parents not realising this “I realised that I don’t know anyone
thought! But
and falling over themselves to snare the with an unmarried daughter of
boys. It would be a piece of cake to get boy, was marriageable age,” said another.
them married, I thought! But boy, was I I wrong! “Girls? Sorry! But if you are on the
wrong! lookout for boys….”
But first, why did I or anyone else have to find Soon, I had to face that fact that no one I knew
partners for these smart young boys? Why hadn’t could put me onto any suitable girl of marriageable
they found them for themselves? Well, this finding-a- age. I then asked myself the question I was to voice
partner business never fails to amaze me. The most and hear voiced again and again over the next two
timid, shrinking-violet type of boy, who from years. “I wonder…where have all the girls gone?
childhood has had the greatest difficulty greeting Where have all the girls gone?”
adults and making friends – and forget talking to, or I pulled myself together at this first setback. Okay,
even looking at girls – goes out of town for a day for so my circle of friends and relatives was too small to
the first time in his life after he begins to work and help me perhaps, but there were always matrimonial
comes back in love and having proposed! ads, right? I knew that these ads appeared mainly
And the bold ones who give their mothers and on Sundays and so I dug out old issues of Sunday
done before and was I shocked! Horror of horrors, caste and nonsense like that,” I told her.
ads were given not just state-wise but also caste- “Can’t you just create a new section?”
wise! Gothrams and stars were mentioned! No, she could not! Finally she agreed to
place the ads in boxes at the beginning of
S
urely, blatantly proclaiming the caste of a the Matrimonial ads columns. “Of course,
person was wrong, perhaps even illegal? I boxes are more expensive,” she said
mean we were trying to abolish caste, weren’t smugly.
we? And gothram and stars meant horoscopes. “I guessed as much,” I replied.
Heavens, did people still believe in those? “And why don’t you put the boxes in
“What world do you live in?” asked a friend bold print? Or with a tick? That will make
bluntly. “Don’t you know that while many people them more noticeable.”
don’t believe in all this stars and horoscope “Bold print and ticks are more expensive
business, many others do? Especially when it comes I expect?”
to something as important as marriage?” She nodded. I thought for a moment. The ads
“No, I didn’t…and people shouldn’t….not in the were already above budget. “No, I’ll just have the
21st century!” I replied indignantly. boxes,” I decided.
“Look, many believe that people of the same “How many Sundays should the ads run?” was
gothram are descended from the same guru or the next question.
acharya. So they think that intermarrying within a “How many Sundays?” I hadn’t expected this.
gothram is wrong.” “Yes. You can have three Sundays for the price of
“But people marry their cousins in many two, you know.”
communities and even their maternal uncles! So how
does a distant common ancestor matter?”
My friend threw up her hands. “I’m not going to
argue with you!” she said tartly. “I’m only telling you
how things are.”
But I decided that, as a matter of principle, I
would not mention caste, gothram or star in my
matrimonial ads. Surely, there would be broad-
minded parents of girls who would appreciate that
and respond? And those who did were likely to be
our kind of people!
I went to the classified ads office of a national
daily and handed over my ads to the girl behind the
desk. I had worked hard on them. It had taken many
rewrites, but I had finally got the language right and
whittled down the number of words to keep the cost
of the ads low. I mean, I had three to insert!
“No castes, no gothrams, no stars?” asked the
girl after studying the ads. “And where are these
boys from?”
“I’m not going to mention any of that,” I replied.
She stared at me. “But you must at least give the
state,” she explained, talking slowly and clearly as if
explaining things to a person with a very low IQ.
“Without that, which section will the ads go in? I
mean we have Tamil Brahmins, Telugu Brahmins,
Tamil Chettiyars, Telugu…..These boys are
Tamilians, aren’t they? ”
“Yes, but I don’t want to mention that. Don’t you
have any general section?”
“We do. But those are mainly used by divorced
people and widows and widowers….”
I thought matters over. My boys would be the ads, ticking off those that I would respond to.
snapped up the very first Sunday. “Just one insertion The architect with an interest in literature would be
please,” I said. perfect for Dhruv, the fun-loving girl who loved
Come the next Monday, I sat by the phone movies would suit Arhat and the college lecturer who
eagerly and waited for it to ring. The comp was was doing her PhD fit the bill for Sanket perfectly. I
hooked onto the Net so that I could read the emails I ticked on and soon had a dozen girls on my list! I
expected as soon as they arrived. But the phone picked up the phone and dialled the first number.
didn’t ring and no mails appeared. On Tuesday, I “Hello,” I began as soon as the phone was picked
waited for courier letters. None arrived. Did that up. “I’m calling about the matrimonial ad that
mean that absolutely no one was interested in my appeared in the newspaper this Sunday. My…..”
three gems? No unmarried girls or their parents “Sorry! My daughter’s wedding was fixed the
were interested in smart, young, modern-thinking day before yesterday. Just hours after the ad
men who had wonderful qualifications and dream appeared!” And sounding very smug, the woman at
jobs? Had everyone gone bonkers? Where had all the other end of the line put down the phone!
the girls gone? Where had all the girls gone? So girls got snapped up within hours! I dialled the
“You should at least have mentioned the state,” next number. The man who picked up the phone
said an old aunt. was monosyllabic as I explained why I was
“We are all Indians. Which state we If the girl is a calling.
belong to doesn’t matter!” I retorted. vegetarian, she “How are you related to the boy?” he
“It does,” she replied firmly. “The wants to be asked.
people who read your ad wouldn’t have sure that the “I’m his mother’s sister.”
known what language their daughters “I see. And when did your sister die?”
boy is one too.
would be expected to speak after “D...die? She isn’t dead…..!”
Both of them
marriage.” “Then why have you phoned? My ad
will be more
I paused. That hadn’t occurred to me. states quite clearly that my daughter’s star
“Well, all educated people speak Hindi comfortable is Ahilyam.”
and English these days,” I mumbled. with the same “I read that and I’m sure that Ahilyam is
“But people also have mother tongues cultural a very nice star….”
that they love and want their children to background “An Ahilyam daughter-in-law is
know,” she pointed out. “And a state, etc. and lifestyle. supposed to be bad for her mother-in-law!
also has cultural connotations. These things Don’t you The star is supposed to either kill the older
don’t matter in a love marriage. Love understand?” woman or make her suffer.”
conquers all and all that! But in an “I don’t believe that. I mean how can a
arranged marriage people want to be comfortable. star do all that?”
If the girl is a vegetarian, she wants to be sure that “Ah, but will you believe it and blame my
the boy is one too. Both of them will be more daughter if your sister dies soon after the wedding?”
comfortable with the same cultural background and And the man banged the phone down.
lifestyle. Don’t you understand?” The third parent said that her daughter would
never agree to leave Bangalore and go to Mumbai
T
hat made sense and I felt a fool for having where my friend’s son, Sanket, was posted.
ignored such obvious concerns. I myself was a “But you agreed that the boy’s qualifications are
vegetarian and was conservative enough to excellent. Surely your daughter can relocate and
hope that the girls these three boys married would find a job in Mumbai?” I asked.
be vegetarians too-----at least at home. “She won’t agree to that,” the mother sighed.
“Have you begun to reply to ads yourself?” my “Now if the boy agrees to relocate and come to
aunt asked. Bangalore, we can proceed to the next stage….”
I gulped. “Not yet….I thought….” “He won’t agree either!” It was my turn to sigh
“You thought that you would be overwhelmed by now and we both disconnected.
replies to your ads and wouldn’t need to?” she I went on down the list but nothing showed any
cackled. “Don’t presume that you’ll be that lucky!” signs of working out. One girl wanted someone taller
I went home and dug out the Sunday newspaper than my nephew’s 5’ 9”. Three others wouldn’t even
in which my ads had appeared and went through consider moving to Mumbai from the cities where
the “bridegrooms wanted” ads. As I read, my spirits they were and one girl’s star was Ketai which was
rose. There were plenty of suitable girls available! bad for the bridegroom’s elder brother. My nephew
The three marriages would be settled in no time! Arhat had an elder brother and, while I was ready to
I took a pen and got down to serious reading of ignore the “danger”, the girl’s family was not.
T
he weeks passed and I dutifully studied the up for each boy. And each form began with details
matrimonials every Sunday, drew up lists of of caste, community, horoscope, star and gothram!
suitable girls and made phone calls. But I got “I don’t believe in all these,” I tried to explain to
absolutely no glimmer of hope. Girls seemed to be the fat man in charge who sat fanning himself,
in such short supply that they were snapped up dressed in just a veshti and a sacred thread.
within hours – or sometimes even minutes – of the He smiled. “Oh? So you’re one of those modern
papers hitting the stands. And my refusal to women who want to change the face of India!”
countenance horoscope matching put off the parents I did not rise to the bait. After all, I had not come
of the few girls who were not snapped up and who here to debate sociology but to find brides for my
were therefore willing to talk to me. three young men. “What do I do?” I asked.
“What on earth should I do?” I asked a friend. “Leave those columns blank---and hope that
“There just don’t seem to be any girls around! someone who thinks like you and has a suitable girl,
Where on earth have all the girls gone?” sees your entry, likes the details you do give about
“This killing of female foetuses has changed the qualifications, salary and the like and contacts you.”
sex ratio, I expect.” “Sees my entry?”
“Not this much! No, something else is going on.” “Yes. Every month the details of every boy and
Silence fell on the room as we both sat, brows girl is printed in a booklet and sent to every parent
furrowed, deep in thought. or guardian who has registered.”
“Many are going and settling down abroad…” “And…and there are people who just want good
my friend said finally. partners and don’t care for horoscopes matching?”
“And girls are getting married much later…” “Well, I think that you’ll find that most parents
“Or much younger…” who say that they don’t want to match horoscopes,
have wards whose horoscopes have some doshams
or faults in them!” He then looked at my crestfallen
face and added, “Of course, you might be lucky!
But you know…there just aren’t enough girls these
days. In this centre, for example, there are twice as
many boys registered as there are girls.”
“But that doesn’t make sense,” I protested. “I
mean, where have all the girls gone?”
T
he man shrugged. “You should come for our
next marriage mela,” he said. “You might have
luck there.”
“Marriage mela?”
“Yes. Parents and guardians come and sit at
numbered tables and details of all registered boys
and girls are read out together with the table
number of the parents or guardian of each. Then
people who are interested in any match can go over
right away and talk to the parents or guardians. No
waste of time, see? Sometimes marriages get fixed
up right at the mela---except for the bride-seeing,
which is just a formality after all.”
I didn’t have the energy to argue with him over
his last sentence. For me, speaking to, mailing and
finally meeting the girl not just once but a number of
times was essential—hardly “just a formality”!
The next few months, I got the monthly booklets
and went through them meticulously. But most of the cost more but I felt that they got my points across. I
registered girls didn’t seem suitable for my boys and then went to the classified ads office I had visited
the parents of the few who did, didn’t respond to my earlier, swallowed my pride and paid for “two
letters and phone calls, probably because I made it insertions and one free”, again in a box at the top of
clear that there would be no horoscope-matching the matrimonial column. I then went to the classified
and that the girls and boys should be allowed to ads offices of some other national dailies and had
freely talk and meet. the ads published in the all-India editions of those
Finally, I ended up at a marriage mela. The hall papers too----in special boxes.
was decorated grandly, courtesy sponsors, all of And I got plenty of responses. Some of them were
whom sold goods and services needed for from parents of girls who appeared to have
weddings. These sponsors had even set up stalls something to hide. They vaguely mentioned past
outside the venue, so that you had an idea of the misadventures, failed marriages and even children. I
kind of goods and services they had to offer. didn’t feel the need to respond to these. If one of the
“Go in and find a bride for your son and then boys had fallen in love with a girl with a tragic past
come out here and buy and order all that you will and wanted to marry her, I would have been proud
need for the wedding!” I heard one stall owner tell a of him and supported him all the way, but that
group of people. Everyone tittered hopefully. wasn’t the case here.
I went in and sat at the table I had been allotted
T
and waited. Soon the show began and the o my joy, many of the other replies I got were
organisers went onto the stage which had been set from families which appeared to be as broad-
up at one end of the hall and began to read out minded as my own. I got in touch with the
details of girls and boys and the table numbers of parents of those girls whom I thought would suit my
their parents and guardians. The details of my three boys and asked if the boys could call and mail their
were also read out and I sat up eagerly and waited daughters before they actually met. Most welcomed
for the rush that I hoped would follow. Half an hour the idea and I got the process of the boys getting to
passed and then an hour. Not a single person came know the girls started.
to my table. It was the most humiliating experience I But the last 10 months had taught me that I
had ever gone through! couldn’t sit back and think that things would just
work out. I again began to talk to relatives and
looked around. The tables that were crowded other people I knew. But this time I talked mainly to
A
nd then there was the time Sanket met one of abashed about in having an arranged marriage.
the girls. Her mother had contacted me after Free and open mixing of the sexes and dating are
she had seen our newspaper ad and I had got still not completely socially acceptable in our country
the impression that their family was very and so many young people do not get the
much like ours. I suggested Sanket for her If your boy or chance to meet a variety of members of the
daughter, Misha. We exchanged girl is rejected, opposite sex and, hopefully, fall in love.
photographs and later the two exchanged don’t let him or And if you are trying to arrange a
phone numbers and email IDs and began marriage, here are some tips from someone
her feel that
to call and mail each other. They appeared who has been through it with three “boys.”
there is
to get on very well---Sanket’s phone bills First, unless you are very lucky, it’s not easy
something
became absolutely horrendous! to find the right partner and fix up a
wrong with him
I talked to Misha’s mother a few times marriage. You have to try it all---contacts,
or her. Yes, try ads, marriage bureaus, follow-ups and
and we finally decided that it was time
Sanket and Misha met. Sanket was in your best, but anything else you can think of. Secondly,
Bahrain on a project at that time but he also believe in you have to be single-minded and
took leave and flew down to Bangalore to fate – because determined in your search and not let
meet Misha. They met and I waited eagerly marriages are yourself become disheartened. Remember
for Sanket to call me and tell me the result made in the girl or boy you are looking for has
of the meeting. heaven! certainly been born and is available
He called, but my heart sank when I somewhere. You just have to find her or him!
heard his voice. He sounded confused and Third, don’t be embarrassed by the whole
uncertain. “What is it?” I asked. “You told me that procedure of arranging a marriage and feel that it
she and you vibed so well…..” turns marriage, something which should be and
“Yes, but…but this Misha isn’t the same girl….” emotional and other-worldly, into a practical
“What?” business proposition and arrangement. It’s not that.
“She’s not the girl in the photograph!” It’s just that love hasn’t entered the picture yet and so
“Are you sure?” one can be sensible and realistic and draw up lists
“Yes.” of what you want and don’t want in the boy or girl
“But…but how can that be?” and family you are looking for.
“That girl was of average looks, but pleasant
F
looking. This girl….is different….” or instance, I wanted each of the girls I was
I dug out Misha’s picture and later went to looking for to have at least one sibling and this
Bangalore and met her. Yes, the actual Misha was one of the factors I took into account when I
looked very different from her photograph. Her was considering a girl. I had my reasons for that---I
photo had been touched up, airbrushed, digitally feel that people with siblings grow up learning to
altered, whatever, to make her look better. share, that they are less likely to be spoilt and that
“So?” I asked Sanket on my return. “What do we they will always have the advantage of having
do now?” someone to share family problems and burdens
“Actually I find Misha OK-looking….but….” with.
I understood. Misha was OK, but cheating was So be clear about what you want and what you
not. I agreed and called Misha’s mother and told don’t---and then go for it!
her Sanket did not want to proceed with the match. Lastly, if your boy or girl is rejected, don’t let him
And then, suddenly, things began to move at the or her feel that there is something wrong with him or
speed of lightning---on all three fronts. And before I her. There is nothing personal in this kind of
could actually believe it, everything fell into place rejection. It only means that the other party too had
and all three of my boys were engaged to three most its wish list and theirs didn’t match yours.
charming and suitable girls! It had been a long Yes, try your best, but also believe in fate---
journey, I thought to myself but all three boys had because marriages are made in heaven! We
Today’s hairstyle
is aiming to give
women a doll –
like appearance.
No wonder, dolls
Imaginatively
are much preferred
these days.
artistic
The style
adding beauty
with simplicity
A style
infusing self
– confidence
No longer will you
avoid eating rice if you
cook it according
to the prescribed
recipes.
Sweet canapes
By Roma Ghosh
Dal Makhani
restaurant like food
Serve
4
rs
at home
Step 1:
In a pressure cooker, boil 1 cup black urad whole
dal, drain the entire cooking water and mash the dal
to a paste.
Step 2:
Add 2 cups fresh water, 45 gm butter and 1 pack
Knorr Ready to Cook Dal Makhani.
Step 3:
Close the cooker, after 2 whistles lower flame and
cook for 20 min.
5
Reasons to use Knorr Ready
To Cook Range
✓ No cutting or chopping
required
✓ Saves time
✓ Saves gas
✓ No added preservatives
✓ Low on fat, low on salt
4 tsp cocoa powder
10-12 tsp water
chocolate syrup or sauce
METHOD
Preheat oven. Line
three small round cake
pans with parchment
paper. Combine flour, baking
powder, soda in a bowl. Beat
butter and condensed milk in a
large bowl with an electric mixer Italian twisters
until fluffy. Add the flour mixer and
enough water and beat well. Pour
Pizza swirls half of the batter into a medium
bowl. Spoon remaining batter into ITALIAN
1 cup grated mozarella cheese
a plastic bag. Stir melted
chocolate or cocoa powder into
TWISTERS
1/ cup prepared pasta sauce
2 batter in bowl, spoon into another INGREDIENTS:
METHOD plastic bag. Cut 1/2-1” opening in 11/4 cups flour
Mix the milk, sugar and yeast bottom corner of each bag. Pipe 3 1 tbsp butter
1/ tsp sugar
in a bowl. Let stand until yeast even alternating rings of yellow 2
foams. Place flour, salt and butter and chocolate batters into 1/ tsp salt
2
in another bowl. Mix in the yeast prepared pans, two beginning 11/2 tsp dry yeast (instant)
mixture and form into a soft with chocolate rings along edge 1/ cup warm milk
4
dough. Keep the dough covered of pan and one beginning with a 1 tsp dried mixed herbs
till double in size. Knead again, yellow ring. Bake for about 20-25 1 tbsp grated cheese
and divide it in two. Roll out minutes. Cool completely. Place
dough to a square on a floured METHOD
a layer with chocolate edge on
surface. Spread pasta sauce over Mix the flour, butter, sugar, salt,
serving plate, spread top with a
it. Sprinkle a little pasta reasoning yeast, mixed herbs and cheese.
little chocolate sauce, repeat with
on it and half of the cheese. Roll Add the warm milk and prepare a
yellow-edged layer, then
dough swiss-roll style to enclose soft dough. Take small portions,
remaining chocolate-edged layer.
filling. Cut roll cross-wise into 1 roll them. Take two rolls and on a
Top with melted chocolate.
inch slice. Place slices on a lightly floured surface, twist
greased baking sheet or tray. them together. Place these
Bake until golden brown bread sticks on prepared
about 15 minutes. Transfer to baking sheets. Press down
a serving dish and serve edges slightly to prevent
immediately. twists from unravelling. Bake
until golden brown. Serve
warm.
CHECK
BOARD CAKE CINNAMON
INGREDIENTS:
200 gm condensed milk
COFFEE CAKE
140 gm maida INGREDIENTS:
60 gm melted butter 11/3 cup refined flour
1/ cup granulated sugar
1 tsp vanilla essence 2
1/ tsp soda 1/ cup butter milk
2 2
1 tsp baking powder Check board cake 1/ cup refined oil
3
Fanciful flight
of beauty
Q&
then chalk out a route for achieving it. premarital sex and if you really love
her, you have to understand her
feelings and point. While it must be
I had a very bad time with my ex- difficult, there are other ways for a
My best friend and I had jobs in the fiance. He turned out to be a liar, a man to do a solo job for himself and
same office. She then left and went cheat and even beat me up on a two years is not that long a time.
to another outfit where she has a couple of occasions. Now I feel that I Respect her decision, as all men
more senior position. She wants me am constantly dwelling in the past must when it comes to a woman’s
to join her company but then I will be and unable to move on. How can I point of view on sex.
junior to her. I feel I am happy in my hurry the process up?
job but don’t want to disappoint her. You need to grieve before you can
What do I do? hurry the process up. Of course, you I am a serious person
You need to be honest with your would have been hurt terribly and by nature. Recently a
friend. Did you make a pact with her have a right to feel cheated and hurt. very bubbly and
when she was leaving the job that You have not mentioned how long chirpy colleague said
you will join her. And even if you did, you have been single. There is no she could easily fall in
you have a right to change your mind. ‘prescribed’ time limit. Every human love with me only if I
Tell her that things will change being instinctively knows when they knew how to laugh at
between the two of you as friends if are ready to move on. Pick up with myself. What is that
one is the boss and the other a rank old friends and do things you enjoy supposed to mean?
lower. Also, you can say that your doing with them or even on your own. A good sense of humour is
prospects are better in the old job and Every time you find yourself dwelling essential for a good relationship
she needs to respect that decision. on the past, just remind yourself of between two people. While it is a
A
good thing for your work that you are
a serious and no-nonsense kind of
I am 40 and became a widow when I I am only 22 but I have person, it must be boring for your
was 22. Now my only son is also the responsibility of my friends. What other people think of
settled and I feel I have done all my 18-year-old sister who you should not matter. While it is not
duties to the best of my capacity. I lives with me. I work easy to change one’s basic attitude in
have done everything right and had late hours and feel she life, you can lighten up. She probably
no excitement in my life. Suddenly I is taking advantage of my meant that you are a good human
feel that if I don’t do something wild absence. Our mom works and being, only just too serious for her
and fun now, my life will be over. Can lives in the Middle-East and I don’t liking.
I take chances? know how to discipline my sister!
Of course you have done things You are barely old enough to MY FAMILY, MY FRIENDS AND ME...
the right way, your grown-up son take responsibility for yourself, let
whom you have managed to settle in alone your teenage sister. Yet if This new column will tackle queries
life is the proof of that. As for the circumstances are such that related to family, social environment and
excitement, it is never too late but you have no choice, you have to personality development.
there is wisdom in doing things that play the mother. Your sister’s Please address your queries to:
are fun but not necessarily wild. Yes, attitude will not change overnight. WOMAN'S ERA,
you can take chances but remember Let your mother communicate the E-3, Jhandewala Estate,
your limitations and work accordingly. limit on various things and you tell New Delhi-110055.
Discuss with some good friends her that she should earn her
or log on to Womansera.com
about what you want to do – travel, freedom by being responsible.
THE ART OF
BARGAINING
argaining is a special art such place where you cannot bargain I am trying to study this art for the
B
and it takes lots of practice, – except supermarkets and malls. last few years and I would like to
perseverance and years of There is no one to bargain with in a share my experience and knowledge
experience to learn. The supermarket and I think that it is about bargaining with people from all
basic human mentality of sadistic. There should be some over the world. If you are bargaining
getting the most by offering system whereby you can even bargain with people from different
the least is the sole moti - in a supermarket. But promotions and backgrounds, your task becomes all
vational factor behind raffles would make up for that up to a the more challenging. Bargaining
learning and mastering this certain extent. However, you can requires an in-depth study of different
art. When both the parties never get that inner satisfaction and cultures and the behavioural pattern
feel happy after the deal, it is peace of mind in such places. I think of these people. It is a science in
considered to be a good bargain. But that such establishments are not itself. On the other hand, it is just a
that is very rare. customer- friendly and should be question of simple common sense
And remember that there is no banned from using such practices. and use of skilled language.
at her
Curvaceous best
Going mod:
With lesser clothes
the beauty becomes
more revealing.
A timely
step: Come
on, dance
with me.
A modern-day Cleopatra:
A compelling pose when
you wear something
selective.
Rhythmic grace:
Ready to vibrate.
It’s Waltz: Match your
steps with mine.
Impeccably attired:
The impact is stunning.
At long last
It so happens
Black advancing clouds
So threaten
That the azure skies
With the blazing sun
Are forced to make way
And let dullness grip day.
Q
unfortunate. Losing weight in a
woman who has undergone breast-
I am an 18-year-old girl and have reduction surgery can be quite a
been using water jets for problem.
masturbation for the last seven years. In fact, this should be taken care
After using it I feel heaviness in my of before planning surgery. Now, the
lower abdomen though I have not only alternative is to put on a little
encountered any problem in this weight and give the much-needed
regard. My periods are regular and shape to the breasts.
Q&
normal? Please help.
You have been masturbating for
the last seven years. Though it is a I am 34 years old and married. The
simple way to let out your sexual other day I fell from the stairs and
desires and gain sexual gratification bumped against the wall. My breast
but there appears to be no is now swollen and very painful.
justification for using a water jet. In Please advise.
the long term it can harm you and What you have got is probably an
may damage your private parts. accumulation of blood under the
I am 25 years old and I have started Feeling of heaviness in the lower tissue as a result of the trauma you
getting small hairs around my breast. abdomen after the act is another way suffered. What you require is medical
This has increased tension in me. I of expressing your sexual attention (in the form of breast
will be marrying soon. I want to get gratification. But I will advise you to support and analgesics). Your doctor
rid of this problem. Please advise. desist from this act and instead divert can take care of this aspect. Many
Hairs around nipples are quite a your mind. to healthy activities like women are left with a lump in the
normal thing and many women adore sports, books, music, etc. It will take breast which often causes worry.
them. There is nothing to worry about your mind away from sexual Persistence of a lump in the breast
them. But if you do not want them fantasies. may require a biopsy.
Q Q
simply trim them very short. These
can also be removed with
electrolysis. Depilatory cream can I am 35 years old. Unfortunately, I I am 20 years old. My problem is that
also be applied. Tweezing is not have got very large, pendulous I get agonising pain at the time of my
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recommended as it may cause breasts which are a cause of great periods. The pain is so intense that I
infection and soreness of the part. embarrassment. My doctor has cannot even stand, and have
advised me to go for reduction. What to cancel my programmes. Please
I am worried about is the large scar help.
I am a 17-year-old girl and which I may have to live with. Please What you get is part of the normal
overweight. I reached puberty when I advise. physiological reaction of the body.
was in the 6th grade as my breasts Your fears are well founded. A Most of this period pain is a side
started to develop. I observed some certain amount of scarring is effect of the body’s hormonal
very small boils surrounding my inevitable since your breasts are very swings where a hormone called
nipples. These are painless and do large. Moreover, a big scar can also prostaglandin plays a major role. It
not hurt. Please advise. produce a form of tension which may causes the blood vessels to the
What you have got are not boils be worse than the scar. Some uterus to contract resulting in these
but small ductules surrounding the women get a big scar and cramps.
nipples. Along with these there are unfortunately the breasts are the Many women bear it depending on
Montgomery glands which lubricate worst site for a scar. their capacity to bear pain.
Q
the skin. There are small nerve Analgesics can help you. With
ending and blood vessels which the passage of time these will
supply both nipples and areolas. My friend (30 years old) had large decrease. But if these cramps
What you have got is perfectly breasts along with a slightly heavy become unbearable then you see
normal. body. She went for reduction surgery your doctor.
It is the normal growth of the of the breasts. Now, she has lost — Dr S. N. Khosla, MD.
A BURNING NATIONAL ISSUE
The tough guy star talks of his
upcoming farmer-turned-Naxalite film... By Anil Merani
ction superstar Suniel Even the US Senate says that the climax which tries to explore the
A
Shetty is quite kicked about biggest threat to India is not external, human cost of this most mis
his new film, Red Alert The but internal. These people with guns misunderstood war.
War Within which deals the are not outsiders, but our very own
biggest internal security people. Full marks to the producer Something about your
problem of the day, ie T. P. Aggarwal, for attempting to character and look?
Naxalism. This intelligent make a film on a subject like this – I play a farmer, Narasimha, who
film based on a true most producers would have run shy gets embroiled in the Naxalite
incident in South India will given the risks involved. movement. It traces his journey. How
release around August/ - he picks up the gun, kills for the first
September. We caught up with Anna, But does the film glorify time. He is also forced to kill
as Suniel is adoringly called, at the violence ? someone who saves his life.
first look and had a long chat with If you see the film you will I have never done this type of
him on the same. understand that we have tried to character before. An action hero has
show that resorting to the gun does a completely different body language.
Red Alert deals with the not solve anything. There is a very I had to drop all that. My shoulders
Naxalite problem? thin line between revolution and had to droop.This project was quite
When we started the film, this terrorism. On the other hand, emotionally taxing as well. As the
issue was not so big. But of late with emotions, intelligence and education character was crying a lot, many of
the events in Bengal (Lalgarh), it has can solve most of the underlying the times I would end up getting a
become a burning national issue. issues. Our film has a very interesting headache.
W
with landscape surviving in this hi-tech The green plants help to keep air
world and drifting far fresh, remove pollutants and
gardening. from the wonders of enhance your creativity besides
nature. Today, the pace having a cooling and soothing effect
By Dr Alka Singh of urban development on the eyes. A basic knowledge of
has transformed the plant selection and growing and
eco-friendly human one's creativity is all that is needed to
being into a machine- cultivate the art of landscape
friendly automation. gardening. Here are some tips to be
The level of pollution is crossing followed in the selection of plants for
healthy limits in most of the cities day gardening:
by day and aggravating problems of ● The plants should be selected
headache, nausea, breathing on the basis of the presence of light
difficulties and bronchial diseases,
eye-irritation, nervous disorders, Phylodendron seylum
fatigue, depressions, etc. Here, our
green friends (plants) can rescue us
from all these. Besides they add to
the aesthetic value of our building or
residence.
Our eyes long for the sight of
green nature. We can change such
dull and lifeless situations by
developing landscape gardening
D
r Kumar couldn't tell them much except for room available for me. But, at the same time, she too
asserting that Yash was a non-drinker. didn't like me to travel by bus, hence went to an
Moreover, no liquor was served at the influential person to get train reservations for me. On
celebration party. Dr Rao told them that my asking who the influential person was, she said
Yash too had a job offer in the Middle East that he was a businessman with contacts even in the
and was quite serious about it. "Where middle and far east. Through him, she could arrange
exactly in the Middle East?" a job for Yash in a Gulf country.
Dr Rao shrugged his shoulders "I asked in surprise how Yash agreed to go to a
"That he didn't specify and I didn't ask either but, Gulf country when his ultimate goal was either the UK
on my asking how his parents would take or US. Janet said going to either of those
his going so far away, he reasoned that if "Why didn't places was not possible in the foreseeable
they could send him to Pune, a journey of you ask Sulbha future, nor it was possible for them to live
14 hours, why should they object to his without each other as they could not sneak
going to a place which was only a about name of to a private nest, once they were back in
2-3-hour flight. You can zero-in on a place the lodge where their hometown. She claimed to have
which boasts of a hospital with cardiac Yash and Janet mollified Yash to some extent but intended
facilities and in a journey of a mere 2-3 to seduce him that night to accept that job.
hours." were supposed That's why, without his knowledge, she
"Dr Rao perhaps doesn't know that to break the had booked a room at his favourite lodge
most places in the Middle East by air are journey?" on the highway. They used to often break
a journey of a mere journey there to enjoy the calm, serene
2-3-hours," Shikha remarked while Shikha asked tranquility of the place, especially the
coming out. afterwards. privacy of the swimming pool amidst the
"Still, he has given a clue. It’s not thick bushes.
difficult to locate a cardiologist in the Middle East if "All these months I often wondered how they
the need arises," Sahil replied. "Where'll we go could be on the road at that time when she had
now?" plans for a night halt. And, mind you, sleuth, Janet
"Let's go to Dr Sulbha first. She too had been was not the one to give her plans up so easily,"
wondering all the time about how Yash could ram Sulbha said looking at Sahil.
into a stationary truck. She might provide some "Do you know the name of the person who
possible to find out by showing the ticket who got it right, the possibility of their being thrown in
booked?" a uninhibited area cannot be ruled out. Tell
"A remote possibility is there, still I'll take the me, did Janet tell you about her acquiring a
chance. Hunt out the ticket please and then inform job in the Middle East?"
me," Sahil said getting up. "Thank you very much, "Yeah, she had an offer but was not
doctor. You have indeed given some valuable serious about it."
information." "Do you know through whom she got
"Why didn't you ask Sulbha about name of the it?"
lodge where Yash and Janet were supposed to "No, I don't know," Nasreen said stiffly.
break the journey?" Shikha asked afterwards. "And what has it got to do with Janet's
Sahil looked at her admiringly. untimely death?"
"A good question indeed, Shikha. You deserve to "A lot – not with her untimely death but
be a detective's wife." disappearance," Sahil's tone was equally stiff.
"Thanks for the complement, Sahil. How about "Death in itself is an act of disappearance,"
taking me along when you go for further Nasreen remarked and then requested to be
investigations on the highway?" excused as it was time for her to go to the hospital.
"Well, that would indeed be a privilege. As they came out of Nasreen's house, Shikha
Anyway, coming to your question, Jungle Hut is the remarked that coming over to this place served no
lodge on that highway which meet's Sulbha's purpose.
description. But, to be on the safe side before "On the contrary, Nasreen unwittingly helped us
embarking upon the journey, I'll confirm it from a lot, Shikha. Her assertion that Janet was not
Sulbha.” interested in that Gulf job is wrong and proves that
"You may ask from Dr Nasreen, we are on our she is shielding Janet. Shall I tell you another
way to her place now." interesting observation? The influential person
through whom Janet got the job for Yash and train
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lthough Dr Nasreen appeared to be very reservations for Sulbha is related to Nasreen.”
friendly and cordial, she claimed to have no "Then why didn't you ask her about him?"
idea about their night halt and when Sahil "As if she would have admitted it.
remarked that it could be the Jungle Hut she said it Don't worry, I have my own ways to
couldn't be, as Janet didn't like its haunted look. She trace that person out because he is
also vehemently asserted that both Janet and Yash the most vital link."
couldn't be alive. Shikha couldn't fully
"People who perished in their car, must have comprehend all that
killed Yash and Janet and then fled at breakneck Sahil said but she
speed from the scene of action." didn't want to
"Agreed, but then what happened to their antagonise him by
bodies? No unclaimed body had been found in that asking too many
area during that period," Sahil pointed out. questions. Her parents
"Some wild animals might have dragged them to were quite against her
the jungle or the miscreants themselves might have going alone with Sahil
thrown them in the river and they must have floated
down beyond your jurisdiction."
"For your information, I am a private
detective without any jurisdiction and the
whole world is my oyster," Sahil said
softly. "We have a network of our
associates and branch offices.
Through vernacular media
and other sources, all
crime-related information
is e-mailed to all our
offices. In my files, I
didn't find any news of
but Shikha had assured them that at Pune she would looked at Shikha and asked the waiter,
be staying with her friend Abha and Sahil at a "Why? What happened?"
different place. Moreover, Sahil was investigating "Their car was stolen, sir. We park our guests'
unofficially and could face difficulties in getting co- cars in the basement but Dr Sharma said that he
operation from people. But she being the deceased's would be leaving within a few hours after some rest,
niece, could take advantage of sympathy. In the so we let the car remain in front of the main gate..."
evening, Sahil came with the travel plan. His plan "Oh, I see! Don't you have a night watchman?"
was to drive straight to the Jungle Hut. If the requisite Sahil asked.
information was not available there, then to stop at "We do have, sir. He had gone to the toilet and
other tea stalls and motels etc. on the way to Pune or when he came back, the car was not there. He
otherwise go straight to Pune and, next day, question presumed that the party must have left and, when the
the man with whose help Janet procured a job for party looked for their car in the morning, it
Yash. transpired that the car had been stolen."
"How did you get his address?" Shikha was "Then hell might have broken loose?" Shikha
surprised. asked.
Sahil smiled smugly. "Oh no, ma'am. Those people didn't blame the
"It's a trade secret but let me share it with you. I watchman or the management saying that they had
sent one of my assistants to the telephone exchange left the car there at their own risk."
to scrutinise the available telephone bills of "But then, how did they go from here?"
Nasreen's father Mohammed Mukhtar Ahmad and "The owner of this lodge sent them in his own
see if calls had been made to a certain Pune car."
number. My hunch paid off. Calls had often been "Where?"
made to Pune on one particular number. My Pune "That I don't know, sir," the waiter thought for a
associates told me that the number belonged to Mr. moment then added. "They must have gone to the
Irshaad Ali, the owner of an import and export firm. nearest station because the driver was back with the
That's enough for the time being. See you with the car soon."
first rays of the sun tomorrow." "The food was so tasty that I have overeaten, so
want to sleep for some time. Waiter, could we get a
S
hikha had expected Sahil to be quiet, rather room for a short while? Find out from your manager,
grim, during the drive but he seemed to be in a please."
jovial and talkative mood and the drive was fun Shikha who was visibly excited with the waiter's
till they came to the Jungle Hut. disclosure of Yash's car having been stolen, now
"Does the place look haunted, Shikha?" Sahil looked hurt – rather shocked.
asked. "That shouldn't be a problem, sir. Still, I'll ask the
"On the contrary, it looks a perfect backdrop for manager."
a romantic stay," Shikha replied. After the waiter left, Sahil turned to Shikha,
"Exactly. Now I am convinced that Nasreen was "I don't have any ulterior motives, Shikha. I am
trying to misguide me. Janet and Yash might be not going to sleep but plan out the future
patronising only this place. So we have to order an strategy."
elaborate lunch and linger over it to befriend the "That we can do in the car itself,"
waiter and extract maximum information Shikha's tone was stiff.
from him," Sahil remarked. "No, Shikha, my every move has got
During the lunch, Sahil struck up a to be precisely planned and jotted
friendship with the waiter, and asked him down. Moreover, I am convinced that
how long he had been working there. Yash and Janet have disappeared with
Lunch over, he liberally tipped the waiter Nasreen's help. If I fail to trace them on
and then showed him Yash and Janet's my own, I have to confront Nasreen
photographs saying that those people told and for that I have to win over the staff
him to break journey at the Jungle Hut. of this lodge.”
"How nice of them to say so, sir. They The waiter came back with the
were our regular customers but, during manager. "For how long do you
their last stay, something very want the room, sir?"
unfortunate happened for the first time "For a couple of hours at the
in our lodge and they stopped most."
patronising us," the waiter said a "No problem and since you are
trifle sadly. Sahil meaningfully our esteemed customer Dr
Sharma's friend, we won't charge you anything. By The moment they reached near her home, Shikha
the way, sir where's Dr Sharma these days?" called home on her mobile to tell them to keep
"He is at Pune, very busy at his nursing home.” coffee ready for them.
"I see! That's why we haven't seen him lately, “Not for me, Shikha, I won’t be coming in,” Sahil
otherwise he was not one to stop patronising us," interrupted her.
the manager remarked. In the room, Sahil got busy Shikha looked at him quizzically, “Not even for
on his mobile. He was instructing someone. Hearing coffee?”
him adding that he would not be coming to Pune, “Not today. I’ll go straight home, take a shower,
Shikha was intrigued. She impatiently waited for him have a light supper and hit the sack,” Sahil said
to finish the conversation and, before he could dial stopping the car in front of her house. “Okay,
another number, she asked if they were going to Shikha, see you tomorrow.” “Do come in for a few
stay there overnight. minutes, Sahil, otherwise mummy will feel bad,”
"No, we'll go back. I got the Shikha implored.
information I wanted. I'll bring you to stay “It is confirmed “She shouldn’t with a sleuth son-in-law.
here overnight after our marriage." that while Yash Please tell her I’ll come for dinner
"Thank you so much for unasked-for and Janet were tomorrow,” Sahil planted an indifferent
benevolence, Sahil, but won't you kiss on her earlobe.
question Irshaad Ali?" sleeping in a Shikha was perplexedly looking at the
"That would be a sheer waste of time. lodge, their fast- disappearing car when she felt a soft
Nasreen must have already warned him car was stolen touch on her shoulder. It was Uncle
and he would be on his guard. I have to and the lodge Raghav. He looked at her expectantly.
make a few more calls. After that, we'll Before she could speak, others too came
have tea and start back for home. owner got them out and Dilip asked. “How successful was
Meanwhile, if you like, you can freshen dropped to the the trip?”
up," and once again he got busy on his nearest railway “It is confirmed that while Yash and
mobile. station.” Janet were sleeping in a lodge, their car
was stolen and the lodge owner got them
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ll Shikha could make out was that he instructed dropped to the nearest railway station in his car.”
various people to contact passport offices and “That means Yash is alive!” Aunty Anita cried in
foreign consulates of their cities. After that, he excitement. “Where did he go from the railway
called room service for tea and went in the toilet to station? Any idea?”
freshen up. Shikha shrugged her shapely shoulders.
“Sahil, why didn’t you ask for the driver who “Sahil didn’t try to find out but made many calls
drove them to the nearest station?” Shikha couldn’t to his associates and declared that his investigations
help asking while having tea. were over. The case is closed for him and he never
“Do you feel they still might be sitting on the discusses a closed case. Search me, if I know how
platform or staying in that small place either? Nor is he could close the case without knowing the
there any possibility of their divulging their plans to whereabouts of Yash and Janet.”
anyone, and I don’t want to unnecessarily question “Why didn’t you ask him?” Dilip demanded.
anyone. Don’t worry, my associates would shortly “How could I after that cryptic declaration?”
trace Yash out and you can have all these details Shikha replied and went to her room. Sandhya
straight from the horse’s mouth,” Sahil replied followed her.
breezily. Shikha looked at him in disbelief. “Is that all? Or are you hiding something,
“Is it so simple, I mean so easy, Sahil?” Shikha?” she looked straight into Shikha’s eyes.
“When it is proved that they did not perish in the Shikha met her gaze.
car fire, naturally they had migrated to the Middle “It’s nothing of the sort, mom, you’re presuming.
East. Exactly where, my associates would let you Sahil is a thorough gentleman but, as far as his
know soon. Let’s make a move now so that I can profession is concerned, he is stubborn and
drop you home at a respectable hour,” Sahil said confident, excessively – overconfident perhaps.”
getting up. “One thing more, Shikha, I don’t talk Sandhya heaved an audible sigh of relief, then
about a closed case and, as far I am concerned, said, “Those are his professional problems, rather
Yash and Janet’s case is closed. My investigations traits, Shikha. The best for you to do is to keep away
are over and I am waiting for the results.” from probing. Remember, if you want a hassle-free
Although not convinced, Shikha decided not to existence, never divulge your domestic trivia to him
probe further. As they were in a hurry to reach and never show interest in his vocational trifles.”
home, they didn’t stop for refreshments on the way. “Okay, mom,” Shikha said resignedly. “What do
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information worth sharing. We won’t disturb him on efore she could react, he disconnected.
our own,” Raghav said firmly. Although peeved, she took half day’s leave and
“Sahil will come over dinner for tomorrow, so came to the office gate. Within minutes, Sahil
uncle and aunty you too please come. He may came. He smilingly opened the door for her and
divulge something,” Shikha said. then drove quietly till he found a place to park the
Anita pondered for some time. car. He then switched on his mobile, handed it to
“If Sahil shows any inclination to meet us or tells Shikha saying, “Listen to the other party without
you something interesting, Shikha, do phone us to uttering a word or making a sound.”
come over. Meanwhile, this assurance that Yash did More suspense! Shikha irritatedly took the mobile
not perish in the fire is enough for us to bless you but was thrilled to hear Yash’s voice, “Hi..., hello,
and Sahil.” Shikha’s eyes moistened. Aunty Anita Nasreen... hello...” Sahil almost snatched the phone
still must be simmering in an unimaginable agony. If from her.
Yash was alive, then where was he and in what “Are you sure Yash was at the other end?” Shikha
condition? Although Sahil had never let her down, nodded her head in affirmation.
Shikha had a feeling that, today, Sahil may not keep “Where’s he?” was all she could ask in a choked
the appointment. But Sahil, as usual, came at the voice.
right time. He was looking quite relaxed, although “In Sopore, a saffron-growing area of Kashmir,
he suggested to Dilip to organise an excursion to the near Srinagar. How he reached there, Nasreen will
Jungle Hut but refrained from mentioning Yash’s tell us. We’re going to her place.”
name. Since Raghav and Anita decided not to “Before that, shouldn’t we tell Aunty
question Sahil, others also decided to do the same. Anita?”
“No, Shikha, not before
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inner over, the family left Sahil and Shikha ascertaining that Yash is hale and
alone to chat. After some time, Sahil’s mobile hearty. It is only my presumption
rang. He was quite excited to see the number that Yash and Janet crashed the car
but his face fell on hearing whatever the caller told to do the vanishing trick.”
him. “It is not a presumption but a fact,
“Get me copies of all the mobile and telephone Sahil, but how did they
bills of Irshaad Ali, Nasreen and Mukhtar Ahmad. manage to land up in far-
Get me this information before noon tomorrow,” he off Kashmir?”
instructed. “Let’s get it straight
Shikha couldn’t control herself any more and from the horse’s –
asked, “What happened, Sahil? Couldn’t your men rather
trace Yash and Janet?”
“They haven’t left India. Where they are in India,
we’ll know from the telephone bills I have asked for.
Janet must be certainly in touch with Nasreen.”
“Supposing she is not, then?” Shikha persisted.
“Then we have to resort to the old formula of
getting their photographs published nationwide, and
announcing a reward to the informer. But I don’t
think we need to do that. I’ll come to your office
during lunch break tomorrow.” Sahil brought her
hand to his lips and got up. “Have a nice sleep luv.
Good night.” Shikha felt cheated. A real prankster –
creates suspense and then chills out leaving you
simmering in curiosity!
Whenever Sahil had to work late, he would meet
her during lunch break but today she was not
interested in meeting him. Suppose he tells her half
mare’s – mouth. Nasreen has to tell us In the case, both were going to shock their
everything now, including whether Yash respective parents with their decision to
was a willing party or forced to yield.” circumstances, marry out of their religions and would
“Must have gone willingly, Sahil. He Sopore was the certainly be disowned by them. The grief
was adamant to share his life with Janet of death was any time better than the
best hideout.
even at the cost of being disowned by his shock of desertion and disobedience by
parents.” Luckily, they the children.
For a split second Nasreen was both like rather “Uncle advised them to go to Kashmir
flabbergasted to see them again but, till he could arrange new passports for
regaining her composure, she taunted,
love the place them. Being an exporter of saffron and
“So you’re still flogging the dead horses.” and seem to be carpets, Irshaad uncle knows affluent and
“It would be wrong to claim that Sahil enjoying their influential people in Kashmir. He
revived the horses back to life as they immediately arranged for Yash and Janet
were never dead,” Shikha retorted. “How
stay there. to work in a local hospital.
they reached Sopore, we want to hear Both have told uncle that they are quite
from you, doctor.” happy there and he need not bend over backwards
to get them new passports. Anyway, what do you
T
he colour drained from Nasreen’s face. Before intend doing to make their respective parents yield
she could react, Sahil spoke, “I know, doctor, to their children’s happiness?”
Janet and Yash have gone to Sopore with your “I’ll only apprise them about the whereabouts of
Irshaad uncle’s help. If you won’t tell us the truth, I’ll their children and why they took advantage of the
get it the same way I learnt of their being in Sopore situation. How they tackle the situation is their
instead of the Middle East. If you tell me the truth, I problem,” was Sahil’s cryptic reply. We
promise you’ll come to no harm. Helping in an act of
elopement is a punishable offence you must be
aware.”
“Who told you all this?” Nasreen asked
resignedly.
“Oh, come on, Nasreen, don’t you know my man
is a sleuth? From a mere glance at Yash’s teeth Libra Launches
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hibernation.” name of “Hamara” Mattress.
“For that one need not be a detective, Nasreen. Hamara mattress made from
Everyone loves a lover. All I want to know is how all Natural Coir fibre on top and
this happened, and are Yash and Janet free to leave bottom with high density foam in
Sopore whenever they like?” Sahil asked. the middle for a sound sleep.
“Oh yes, they are not under custody, or any bond Company is using 15mm quilted
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mattress is a good choice for many reasons. Coir is a
love – the place and seem to be enjoying their stay
completely natural fibre and very much eco-friendly.
there. Now, to your first question, as to how all this
Among all the benefits it offers, the most important ones
happened. After the theft of their car, they both left in
are the ability of ventilation and moisture-reducing
the lodge owner’s vehicle for the nearest police
capacity. It also absorbs heat and that makes it a
station to lodge the complaint of the theft and then
wonderful mattress. One can also feel a sense of calmness
proceeded homewards. But, on the way they learnt and relaxation while lying on a Hamara coir mattress.
about the ghastly accident involving their car, and Hamara mattress is one of the most versatile products
changed their plans. They went back to Pune, to in terms of economy. The company is making all
Irshaad uncle to be exact. Since uncle was already standard sizes of mattress. There is one-year guarantee
aware of their plight and trying to find jobs for them on these mattresses. A pair of Hamara Coir Mattress
in the Middle East through his contacts, he also (Size-72X36) is available for Rs. 5,746/- MRP (Inclusive
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seamlessly blended traditi - Queen Jodhaa's 12-piece head-to- placed. "The entire collection is
onal motifs and techniques toe jewellery set that includes amazing. But, I particularly liked
used in the making of the jhumkis, naths, hath phools , rings Emperor Akbar's sword very much,"
jewellery, which speaks and pendants were the most eye- said the Tanishq people.
volumes for the connoisseur- catching. "This is no ordinary sword. The
ship, glamour and allure of The organisers said an order for best kaarigars (craftsmen) of the
the Mughals. That was jewellery placed at the exhibition country toiled for nearly a year to
Tanishq's Jodhaa-Akbar included vaddanam as well. "A create the magnificent ceremonial
Jewellery Exhibition held in visitor, impressed by the Jodhaa's 31/2 foot and 20-kg sword," pointed
the South-Asian central city, peacock hansli set, placed an order out Ms Prasad.
Vijayawada, on 24 and 25 May 2008. for the same," said Jogu Prasad, "The jewellery, definitely, reflects
Precious ornaments, ranging from local franchisee of Tanishq, the the extensive field research done by
elaborate neckwear, rings, bangles jewellery brand of the Tata group that the makers in Rajasthan and Gujarat
OPULENT JEWELLERY
Tanishq worked in collaboration
with Chitrakala Parishad for 6 months
and did in-depth research on Mughal
and Rajput history, tradition, culture
and jewellery, explained Ms Prasad.
"It's opulent jewellery, very
impressive,” commented Namitha, a
student of Siddhartha Public School,
while her brother Bhargav felt that the
jewellery looked lovelier in the film
than in the exhibition. Vijayawada,
incidentally, was chosen as one of
the five cities to organise it.
The collection included nearly 200 encrusted with rubies. Designer had to reflect the glory of the emperor
pieces of jewellery that were Ruchi said that colour red was the and hence was extraordinarily
intricately crafted in pure gold, and colour of the Rajputs and all the opulent.
brilliantly embossed with precious jewellery worn by the Rajputs in the
and semi-precious stones in kundan
and meenakari techniques.
movie has rubies on them. The set
weighs more than 4 kg. "Ash loved
METICULOUS
The jewellery line includes the the jewellery and did not complain DETAILING
sarpech (feather pin), archer's ring, about the weight," Tanishq authorities The pieces exuded drama,
arsi (mirror ring), bhor (head jewel said. glamour and luxury and meticulous
like an Indian tikka ) and hansali Akbar's wedding ensemble was attention was given to details. For
(choker). As these pieces will not be breathtaking. Green being the colour instance, the finger ring worn by
of use to a contem porary Indian of the Mughals, it was resplendent Akbar to protect his thumb during
female, I guess it makes sense that with emeralds and pearls. The set archery, has the motif of an elephant
Tanishq has decided not to sell inside. The swan set, which
them. Around 400 kg of gold Akbar gives Jodhaa on the
along with emeralds, pearls, occasion of their wedding, has
rubies, tourmaline and jade meenakari detailing behind it.
stones had been worked on by The designers used the
200 craftsmen. Thirteen and swan motif in the necklace to
eight ensembles were made for represent the peaceful union
Ash and Hrithik, respectively. of two cultures and dynasties.
Painstaking research had Another unique feature of the
gone into crafting the jewellery swan set, according to
in as authentic a manner as Sangeeta Dewan, head of
possible. Twenty designers design, is that asymmetrical
met with the king of Kishangarh stones had been used to
and went through various achieve symmetry.
archives to get a vivid idea of The piece de resistance of
the jewellery in vogue then. It the collection, Akbar's sword,
took 12 designers and 200 took 10 months to make. The
craftsmen two years to bring sword has elephant and lotus
the jewellery into existence, motifs. The elephant motif
according to Tanishq. The symbolises the masculinity and
much-talked about wedding strength of Akbar, while
trousseau set that Aishwarya the lotus stands for purity of
had worn in the movie is mind. We
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most of us crave. married trouble at its root.” satisfaction.
Encouraging expressions, This kind of insensitivity to her
appreciative gestures and Be generous in acknowledging need for appreciation would dampen
warm acknowledgements her merits for achieving close - the wife’s spirits and affect her
form the basis of a healthy ness: The husband who accom - efficiency. If this attitude of taking her
relationship between a plishes something in his business or labour for granted persists,
husband and wife. A man career, wants appreciation from his resentment builds up within her,
or woman goes by the wife. When he has worked all day leading to soured ties.
spouse’s words of praise long and comes home tired, it is a Fed up with her husband’s habit
when due. Norman Vincent Peale, serious mistake for his wife to take it of picking holes in whatever she does
the exponent of positive thinking, all for granted. It is easy to say, “I am and slighting her hard work, Shilpa,
offers the following advice to couples proud of you.” It will do wonders for an exasperated housewife, laments,
aiming at a trouble-free married life: him. If the dinner is good, let the man “These men take everything for
“One of the most basic drives in compliment her culinary skills. He granted. If only they knew how
human nature is the craving to be has enjoyed the fruit of her labour in eagerly we women would work
appreciated. Remember this and the kitchen, relished it silently and ourselves to the bone for a few words
f Kambakkth Ishq did not get three- thanks to her hard work, good
Istar ratings from leading critics,
Sajid Nadiadwala has not lost his
performances in her starrers and the
high goals she has set for herself.
sleep, for a producer’s primary She’s perfect foil to Akshay Kumar in
concern is box-office collection and Kambakkth Ishq.
the film is reported to have grossed
Rs 100 crore already! How much ust as columbus discovered
exaggeration is there in this figure,
only Sajid knows.
J America by chance director
Ramesh Sippy also discovered late
Amjad Khan by chance. As a matter
he astounding success of New of fact, when Ramesh was finalising
T York has come as a major
surprise. What’s more the film has
the cast of Sholay, one of the biggest
blockbusters of Bombay filmdom, he
been declared as one of the only two had Danny in mind for the role of
hit films of the first half of the year Gabbar Singh. But it so happened
2009 which is a poor tally. that Danny was out of Bombay,
Anil Kapoor pays fine. shooting for another film. Ramesh
he success of a film helps but John Abraham and Neil Nitin happened to see a play in Bandra, a
T everyone associated with the film, Mukesh are getting lion’s share for
New York’s fantastic performance.
suburb of Bombay. When he saw the
John Abraham and Neil Nitin in Danny was the first choice as Gabbar
The film is sure to give a boost to
‘New York’ flick. Singh in ‘Sholay’.
both the actors.
Hindi film Amar Prem (1972) at New hat Saif Ali Khan declared and
Delhi’s Siri Fort Auditorium on
11 July. Shaktida made an
W did a few years ago – establish
himself as a sole star with him,
impressive tally of 37 films in Hindi newcomer Anjana Sukhani wants to
and 6 films in Bengali. do with her solo-act in Jashnn – The
Music within made by Vishesh Films.
A damn good-looking young girl, she
has every chance of achieving her
goal.
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happy at the attention incited
by a loud laugh may boost
your ego while holding a
glass of wine in your hand. A
thousand pictures of
fashionably dressed women
might excite your imagination
of being on a certain level you
want to reach or want to
emulate — all this could prompt you
to pick up a drink or two for a feel-
good reason.
Today’s modern society believes
in making one’s own rules and the
rules are bent only for a few
guidelines — “don’t drink and drive”
and “drink little when you are
pregnant”. But today’s young
generation, specially urban women,
have taken to drinking out of their
own choice. Economic and family
pressures don’t allow them to
de-stress easily and to get over with
the situation or a problem or for the
plain reason to “loosen up”, one
tends to have a drink while rural
women are still having an “open
knee” attitude of having a family and
looking after home and kids without
other deviations.
Sunayna is a computer
professional who started drinking
occasionally for company’s sake.
After she got married she left her job
to look after the kids and family. But
whenever the husband and wife
AN ARTIST
:
suppose. Most people tend to
eventually leave art. But you
SRUSHTI
childhood was. And colouring was
not the only thing I did. I also stitched
a lot of clothes in a creative manner
for my doll. It was something that my
parents had not seen any child doing.
She has launched a new form Initially they thought that probably I’ll
be a fashion designer. That didn’t
of “line-ism”. Gayatri T Rao happen (she laughs).
E
and it will take you through career and chose being an artist.
the journey of exploring Why?
various emotions felt by the As a child, colours and forms
mind and different body always intrigued me. I would try to
postures followed in yoga. It translate them in my own childish
is an essential amalgamation form. I would cut colourful papers,
of the mind’s perception and make clothes, make houses from
the detachment from the Lego… but nothing could hold me
material world by following back. The decision to graduate in fine
the ancient form of control. The arts came rather suddenly as my
colours brilliantly explode and parents would have rather seen me
capture not only the eyes but also the as a management postgraduate.
senses and transform the observer They nonetheless supported me.
into a parallel world. That’s what you I developed as an artist during my
can say of Srushti’s art. college years. After college,
Born in Lonavala’s naval base INS advertising was the first choice to
Shivaji to a naval-officer father and explore the creative brain. However,
central schoolteacher mother, she somehow, things started
has an elder brother, who is a major arts (paintings) from moving in another direction
and Sena Medal holder. Her father Khirragarh University, and marketing was the
took a premature retirement and went which is now in destination. After six years of
into the oil industry. Srushti’s Chhattisgarh. Of her a corporate job and
husband, Mandar Rao runs his own institute, she says, “It marketing specialisation, I
ad agency. They have been married has been renamed wanted to pursue my destiny.
for the last six years. Indira Kala Sangeet Once an artist, always an
Srushti did her bachelor’s in fine Vishwavidyalaya, artist. I like painting thoughts,
which is, as I ideas… without keeping
understand, older than things too abstract I like
the J J School of Arts giving them form… in my own
as well.” passion that I share for life…
my paintings share with colour. Each
When and how did you realise of my works speaks for itself as I try
that you are an artist? to present my inner self on canvases.
I knew I had a creative streak
since I was a child. I started colouring What kind of paintings is your
from the age of 2-21/2. I had this huge forte?
collection of colouring books. I My medium is acrylic and oil on
started with pencil colours and then canvas. My paintings would come
crayons, then pastels and then it under contemporary Indian art,
went on to tube colours. After that wherein I play with human figures, a
came the oils. That’s how I grew in face. But it is not realistic. So there’s
my colouring. an abstract element to it. I like to call
PAINTING
WOMEN OF TODAY ulti-talented artist Anita long, women have been painted in
M
Chauhan draws sketches Indian folklore, art and sculpture.
and paints mainly women. Anita’s attempt in her contemporary
In whatever form she work indicates certain uniqueness in
depicts them, is unusual in terms of the same continuity.
today’s context. Her However, her exercise is little
content is thinly veiled, more daring and free. She has tried
especially considering to bring out the woman of today
current attitude towards encompassing the entire spectrum of
morality in India. Anita what she is and how she feels. She
feels that to portray a woman is a has depicted them more serene,
challenge when it goes beyond just confident, strong and ready to face
the body or its sexual context. Since any challenge in life. The artist feels
that the body reflects the soul. That
way, connection formed between two
human beings is beauty. She says
that the human spirit is irrepressible
and more you suppress it the more it
soars. As such, the artist says, after
millennia of suppression, the modern
Indian women want to fly high now.
They have occupied the centre stage
of creation today. And they are
strong, firm, resolute yet compassio -
nate and full of love and hope.
Her paintings are, in a way, a
tribute to the woman power drawn in
vibrant bright colours full of form,
sensuality and overtly expressive.
Ph: 9818129687 Often compared to Frida Calho, Anita
E-mail: represents the new exciting lot of
anitachauhan.chauhan@gmail.com Indian painters, who are unique in
www.anitaartgallery.com their quest for artistic expression.
Both my parents had AIDS and died Sad things and tragedies happen People who do badly in exams do
of the disease three years ago, within in life. We are responsible for some well in life; those who miss
months of each other. At that time of these and others are just acts of promotions rise later and “rejected”
both my elder brothers were abroad fate. You are certainly not respon - people find wonderful partners.
and I was the only member of the sible for what happened to your Situations and incidents don’t
family who was told the truth by the parents. So there is absolutely no matter as much as our response to
doctor. I did not tell my brothers reason for you to feel ashamed. them. If we take things positively and
because I didn’t want to shock and look at failures as opportunities to
hurt them. grow, we will not become depressed
Now both my brothers (aged 27 One bad thing after another has been and unhappy. So, take greater care
and 29) are engaged to be married happening to me over the last few of your health; try to improve your
and I too (I am 26 years old) have a years. These include falling ill during qualifications and take care of your
girlfriend and I don’t know what to do. two important exams and not doing looks and be pleasant and helpful. All
Could my brothers and I have got the well, failing to get a promotion at this will get you out of your
infection from our parents? Should I work because I joined a day later depression and fill you with energy.
tell my brothers the truth? I am so than a colleague and she was judged Most important, let go of the past
depressed that I feel like breaking off senior to me (though I have a much and enjoy the present. The future will
with my girlfriend and remaining better service record) and having the be what you make it.
unmarried all my life. I feel so young man who came to “see” me
ashamed. fall in love with my younger sister.
If your parents had been HIV Now I have begun to consider I am 22 years old and am totally
positive when your brothers and you myself unlucky. I am constantly uninterested in getting married. I
had been born and any of you had depressed but also resentful about want to do well in my career, travel
got the infection, you would certainly my fate. Why are so many bad things and have fun. But my parents are
have come to know long ago. happening to me? Will I never be insisting that I get married so that
Obviously your parents got the virus happy? they can be free of their responsi -
later. As to whether any of you could It is understandable that you feel bilities. I feel that they are being
have got the infection from living with depressed and wonder why so many unfair and that they are asking me to
them, it is very unlikely that you unpleasant things are happening to give up my future just so that they
would have. you, but you must be careful not to let can relax. How can I make them
But your worry and depression are your depression and resentment understand my point of view?
very understandable. You should tell make you a person with a negative Talk to your parents and if you
your brothers the truth. They have a view of yourself, others and life. have any sibling or older relative who
right to know. It is also best that you Time has a way of healing most understands you and whom your
consult a doctor and ask if you and wounds and many of the things that parents will listen to, ask them to talk
your brothers should take the test to happen to us that seem very to your parents too. Talk to your
see if you have been infected. If important to us that time, utterly lose parents separately and make the
nothing else, it will reassure you. their significance over the years. points that each will appreciate. Talk
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CAPITAL
Chit - C h a t
strated profound versatility in playing which its ability to express moods of
SARANGI FUNK the sarangi. Gifted with unques - happiness, vibrant energy, music to
Sarangi – the beautiful Indian tionable qualities of sound, tenor and dance, etc. has unfortunately never
classical musical instrument, with the innumerable variations, the Sarangi been exploited to the full. I admit that
most soulful and heart-wrenching has exceptional adaptability to suit whenever I have heard Kamal Sabri
notes is creating possibilities. Often any genre of music. It covers the live, the first time being an event
associated with music that originated entire gamut of the classical like organised by Indo-French Chamber
at the nautch girls’ kothas or later on dhrupad, dhammar, khayal, thumri, of Commerce and Industry’s Director
the radio to announce three days of dadra, kajri, chaiti, tappa, tirivat, Piya Bajwa, I have been impressed
mourning when a leader died, the tarana, light classicals e.g., bhajan, with his ability to make the Sarangi
Sarangi has never been exploited to ghazal, folk songs and film songs. Of so approachable to the common
be modern, until Kamal Sabri took it late, the sarangi has even dared to people and provide only joy with his
upon himself to reinvent Western venture into jazz, contemporary and music. Now, it is officially modern
music through the sounds of the new-age music and very emphatically too.
Sarangi and call it Sarangi Funk. The made its mark to everybody’s
event was sponsored by the Park
Hotel under their programme called
astonishment and liking. Sarangi
Funk is a bold and innovative attempt
SUMMER MENU NEEDS
cultural festivals by the name of The to introduce and exhibit the untapped TO BE LIGHT
Park’s New Festival and lent support aspect of the Sarangi. This album Come summer and one wants to
to organisations like Delhi Inter - features some delectable spend the least time in a kitchen.
national Arts Festival and Legends of compositions, composed and played However when one eats out it is
India. by the sarangi maestro Kamal Sabri, natural to desire something that looks
The musically gifted Kamal Sabri where he brews new concoctions of complicated and yet is light on taste
is the son of sarangi legend Ustad rhythm, beats and melody. buds and the stomach. Shalom, a
Sabri Khan and is carrying forward The myth that the Sarangi is used successful restaurant in South Delhi
the rich legacy of the Sania gharana just to emote musically sad tones, shows the Mediterranean way of
of Moradabad. Kamal started playing unfortunately has stuck to it. In fact, doing it. Mezze platters and Shish
at a tender age of five years and very this is just one of its aspects, which taouks have become more popular
soon this child prodigy made waves coincidentally has been exposed too than butter chicken even in Delhi!
in the musical world and has demon- much to the public’s ear as a result of Shalom’s new lunch menu has
Kamal Sabri is carrying forward the rich legacy of the Sania gharana. Melon and Prawn salad.
he notion of suffering as a
BENEFITS OF PRACTICE
The following are the benefits of Pranayama – Nadi shodhana
constant practice over a period of pranayama – ensures extra supply
time: of oxygen to the body. Carbon
● Revitalisation of the body and dioxide is efficiently expelled and the
the mind blood is purified of toxins.
● Freedom from stress and The brain centres are stimulated
tension to work to their optimum capacity.
● Relief from common disorders Levels of stress and anxiety are
of the physique lowered.
● Perfect conditioning of the All relaxation asanas like
endocrine, digestive, cardio-vascular Vajrasana (a panacea for all stomach about prathyahara (sense withdrawal)
and respiratory systems maladies), shavasana, advasana, shutting out vision, smell and the
● Flexibility, endurance and jyesthikasana and makarasana, environment. I can send to those
muscle tone relieve tension and stress. interested a line drawing of this mudra
● Sharp reflexes, memory and Sirasasana reverses the effect of along with the steps, breathing contra-
concentration gravity on the spine, increases blood indications and benefits.
● Exercise of the skeletal and flow to the brain and the pituitary Suffice it to say that regular practice
smooth muscles of the body and in gland, relieving psychologicalof this mudra confers a sense of
particular the abdominal wall, the disturbances which form the root detachment and freedom from the
pelvis, the trunk, the back and the cause of many disorders. Asthma, bonds of family, friends, ownership and
chest. hay fever, diabetes and menstrual possession. Vertigo, eye, nose and
There are a few practices that ailments are cured. throat infections are cured by regular
can be described as glorious, Sarvangasana provides redress practice of this mudra. The launching
enriching and rewarding: for hormonal and thyroid ailments. sloka in the Vishnusahasranamam is
this: Yatra smarana maathrena janma
samsara bhandanath (bonds of the family) vimusyathe,
vishnawe prabha vishnawe. Shanmukhi mudra, while not
making you a saint, develops a sense of detachment
preached by our scriptures.
CONCLUSION
Yoga’s contribution to the sum total of our happiness
and removal of physical and mental suffering can never be
overemphasised. It is something which should be
experienced to be believed. We
A
Delhi, Jitendra Pawar, a heavy stone. A friend of Jitendra’s time.”
small-time property dealer, who was passing by, saw him lying In Kolkata, Anil Das, 55, was
became a victim of road on the road. He summoned a police returning home with his wife.
rage when five men constable and rushed him to AIIMS, Because she had just undergone a
brutally beat him following where he was declared dead. surgical procedure, he was crawling
an argument over a minor In Chennai, a young college-going along at a mere 25 kph. It was this
accident. Thirty-five-year- girl was crushed to death when a that saved them, because at the
old Jitendra was returning young man repeatedly ran over her in crossroads a motorcycle came
from Saket Club home to his car. In Pune, cardiologist Dr hurtling down at them at a right
Mehrauli in his Maruti Zen when two Manoj Durairaj was assaulted by angle. The young man riding the two-
youths on a motorcycle reportedly hit three drunk medical students. Accor- wheeler not only began to abuse the
his car near the Lado Sarai T-junction ding to the police, the inebriated trio elderly couple loudly, he also
in South Delhi. This led to a minor were in their car when they picked a followed them home, making
scuffle. Subsequently, three others quarrel while overtaking Dr Durairaj’s threatening gestures all the time.
joined in and started to follow his car. car. According to the investigation These are examples of road rage
They stopped Jitendra and started to police officer, “The trio attacked the which are happening in many other
beat him with a helmet and a doctor with a broken bottle, and places, not just in India, but also
basketball bat and when he fell down, aimed at his neck. This could have around the world. In the USA alone,
more than 1,200 cases are
reported every year, with at
least 300 ending in serious
injuries or fatalities.
Q
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Do you know his or her middle name?
a. I did at one point
b. Yeah, but I had to ask his/her brother or
friend for it
?
c. Of course! I know every little detail about him!
d. No! I don’t care!
WHAT’S GOING ON
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Q
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What’s his or her favourite colour?
a.
b.
c.
Green, at least it used to be
I don’t know! I’ve never known!
Um... I used to know
Q
7
Have you two dated before?
a. Nah... thought about it, but it never
seemed to make any sense... we’re
so different
d. Well, last week it was green but b. Yeah, once, though we decided it
he/she decided they like yellow better better to stop
c. No! wish! He keeps saying that he isn’t
If so, how did it end? ready for a real relationship!
Q
5
How often do you talk to each other?
a. Maybe once a month
b. Every now and then, we keep in touch,
though I wouldn’t mind if we talked more
up was pretty messy
d. We both play the same sport, or are part
of the same organisation
Q
doesn’t talk to me often though If you could be with any person in
d. Never, haven’t in a long time
9 the world would it be him/her?
a. Umm... not necessarily, he/she’d be nice,
Q
6
Do you know his or her friends?
a. Some of them, we’ve grown apart
b. Oh yeah, I know everyone he’s/she’s
ever spoken to
but there are plenty of fish in the pond
b. Probably
c. No! Never again! If he/she asked me out
I’d smack him/her for having that kind of
c. No, I try to stay as far away from nerve!
them as possible d. Yes! I’ve loved him/her since the moment
d. Yeah, we were all good friends in junior high school I set eyes on him/her
A 8-YEAR-OLD’S FIRST
SOLO ART EXHIBITION
Paintings have always remained
the most wonderful way of
expressing one’s emotions. Eight-
year-old Dev Mehta recently held his
first solo art exhibition at Ravindra
Nathya Mandir. With an inherent
talent for drawing and painting, he
has been painting on canvas and
Dr Hrishikesh Pai at Launch
of JGES.
paper since November 2007. The
journey started when his mother,
Rupal Mehta, spotted his talent when
he first started painting on his home
walls at the tender age of three
years. As years went by his amateur
doodling transformed into
masterstrokes. One thing was clear –
Dev had all the makings of being a
good painter.
UPASNA KAMINENI
Touching lives – a powerful,
dynamic and expressive statement –
this is what Dr Prathap C Reddy
(founder-chairman Apollo Hospitals
Group) instilled in the Apollo family.
When sons were considered
assets and daughters a burden, Dr
Reddy decided to change the trend. people are what she mostly providing basic elements like water,
He was blessed with four daughters concentrates on. sunscreen, etc. to prevent major
(no sons) and turned them into “the As vice-president of Apollo illnesses. Sunscreen for protection
fantastic 4” – Preetha, Suneeta, Charities, Upasna has supported a and prevention of skin cancer, and
Shobana and Sangita. Together, they lot of people through initiatives such awareness camps to educate people
started a “medical empire” (hospitals, as SACH (Save a Child’s Heart) on basics of a healthy lifestyle like
clinics, insurance company, Foundation, SAHI - for the hearing drinking at least a litre of water every
pharmacies, education and research impaired, and CURE - for cancer. day.
centres, wellness gyms, alternate Besides, she has been involved in Her compassion for animals has
medical and many more). the tsunami relief activities, has led her to become associated with an
Upasna Kamineni ( 22), Dr helped initiate screening camps in NGO called Blue Cross. She has
Reddy’s granddaughter, chose to villages, donated to the Bihar Flood adopted six donkeys and three
take the compassion and love Relief Fund and done many more. horses while an elephant is soon
component of the business, and the Another dynamic move was the going to be added and Upasana
concept of touching lives, to another concept of “reaching you before takes great care of them. A firm
level. Inspired by her grandmother, emergencies do”. This gave rise to believer of a healthy environment to
she realised that true happiness is in “Project Hydrate”. Project Hydrate is sustain good health, the family
sharing and giving. the launch of B+ve’s (a health and intends to open an Eco Park and
Making a difference to society and lifestyle magazine) product line. This Night Safari in Hyderabad spanning
building health awareness amongst product line concentrates on 112 acres. We
boredom. The score of Yatish
R. S. Prakash
COMPLICATIONS
Cancer of the liver is a long-term
complication of cirrhosis which can
occur if the patient survives the
extensive injury of the liver cells.
The liver is a vital organ of the
he outbreak of hepatitis B in Viral hepatitis is a chronic affliction body. Proteins, factors needed for
T
Gujarat is worrying news. of the liver by viruses which are of clotting of the blood and glucose are
One of the most prosperous five types, A, B, C, D and E. produced in the liver. It also helps in
states of India is hit by an Technically speaking, hepatitis the metabolism of fats and many
other wise preventable dis - means inflammation of liver cells and other substances. Therefore, damage
ease. The reason may be if that is caused by a virus then it is a to the liver leads to derangement in
carelessness or sheer viral hepatitis. The illness is many functions of the body.
callousness by the health manifested by jaundice (yellow With the pandemic of AIDS
personnel concerned, but a discolouration of eyes) which is a worldwide, it is important to know
large number of people have characteristic sign of affliction of the about viral hepatitis, because, except
been affected. It also affects the liver. The patient also has complaints for hepatitis A and E, all other types
productivity of the individuals and of passing yellow urine. There is also of hepatitis are caused by the same
society. If India has to become a loss of appetite, nausea, vomiting, behaviour pattern and risk factors as
developed country by all means, it low-grade fever, malaise, etc. in AIDS. Sexual promiscuity, pricks by
has to improve its health sector and varying degrees. At times there may unsterlised needles and razors,
control preventable diseases. Greater be obstruction to the flow of bile due accidental contamination with blood,
awareness needs to be generated to the swelling of liver cells which all these are the underlying causes
among the masses regarding the causes intense itching. for hepatitis as well as AIDS. The
preventable diseases, so that there As the disease progresses, there presence of one facilitates the
can be active participation of the is further damage to liver cells, acquisition of the other. In fact, in a
public in the prevention of leading to cirrhosis, where the liver conservative society like India’s, viral
preventable illnesses. tissue is replaced by fibrous tissue, hepatitis and AIDS are both said to
VARIETIES OF PREVENTION
HEPATITIS Therefore, it is prudent
Hepatitis A is acquired by the to prevent the disease.
ingestion of food or water established by serological tests. Good food hygiene, if maintained
contaminated with the faeces of an Once diagnosis is confirmed, anti- while cooking, serving and eating
infected person. Outbreaks can occur viral drugs can be used, but are ,minimises the chances of infection
due to contaminated water. The useful only when used early, ideally with hepatitis A and E.
illness caused is benign and good within two to three days of illness. Avoiding promiscuous and
recovery mostly occurs, though at Other drugs used for treatment only premarital sex is a good measure to
times, if there is extensive liver cell provide some palliative relief, but do avoid viral hepatitis B, C and D. One
injury, it can lead to acute liver little to minimise the damage done. should be cautious while taking a
failure. Hepatitis B and C are spread hair-cut, massage, pedicure or
by the use of contaminated syringes manicure because, the use of
and needles and also through sexual
IF THERE IS EXTENSIVE contaminated tools in these settings
intercourse. Hepatitis D or delta virus LIVER CELL INJURY, is yet another risk factor acquiring
is acquired by the same routes as viral hepatitis. Unless needed
Hepatitis B and can coexist or
IT CAN LEAD TO ACUTE strongly, any kind of injection or prick
replicate only in the presence of the LIVER FAILURE. should be avoided.
hepatitis B virus. A person suffering
from both hepatitis B and D infections
HEPATITIS B AND C ARE If some injection is at all
necessary a person needs to be
is at the risk of developing a more SPREAD BY THE USE OF prudent to see that a fresh
serious form of disease. The hepatitis
E infection occurs by the faeco-oral
CONTAMINATED disposable syringe and needle is
used. Vaccination is available for
route like Hepatitis A but tends to SYRINGES AND hepatitis A and B. If someone is a
cause a more severe and chronic
form of liver disease.
NEEDLES AND ALSO high-risk case like food handlers,
health-care personnel, etc, one can
Use of hepato-toxic substances THROUGH SEXUAL take the vaccination in advance for
(those that damage the liver) like
alcohol make one more prone
INTERCOURSE. protection. Vaccine taken as per
schedule provides lifelong
to severe illnesses due to immunity unless one has a
hepatitis. Early and more debilitating illness. If there is
severe complications are also someone in the family suffering
likely to develop in those from hepatitis, particularly B,
persons who are exposed to vaccination is done for all
other toxins inflicting damage nursing the patient physically.
to liver cells. Certain drugs One should be careful lest
used for pain like NSAIDS unknowingly because of
(non- steroidal anti- ignorance, the hepatitis virus
inflammatory drugs like enter the body. At any sign of
Ibuprofen and diclofenac), yellow discolouration of the eyes
paracetamol, antibiotics like or urine, it is advisable to seek
erythromycin also cause liver medical treatment at the earliest
damage. to prevent long-term complica-
Diagnosis of hepatitis is tions of hepatitis. We
H
am an MCA student in
Bangalore. I visited Kabini
last December along with
3 college friends, and would
A short like to share some of my
experiences with you. The
holiday amidst a Kabini Wildlife Sanctuary,
wealth of wildlife. situated in Karapur village
in Karnataka, is a quaint
By Barry Smith little paradise on the banks of the
River Kabini, a pristine area that
abounds with nature and wildlife.
Kabini is an additional treasure in
South India’s wildlife sanctuary
attraction; also in the region are
Nagarhole National Park and
Bandipur National Park (Karnataka),
Madhumalai Wildlife Sanctuary
(Tamil Nadu), and Wyanad Wildlife
Sanctuary (Kerala), the four
protected areas that constitute India’s
first biosphere reserve called the
Nilgiri Biosphere Reserve. Kabini is
very close to Nagarhole National
Park, lying cosily in its southern
periphery.
Our first sight of Kabini Wildlife
Sanctuary was breathtaking. Spread
over an area of 55 acres of forest and
river, it is surrounded on three sides
T
wonderland. Unlike human
society, there are no laws,
no constitution and no
system in their existence.
There is complete jungle raj
where only the fittest and the
mightiest survive. There is
no common sense and civic
sense. Yes of course, the
majority of them have been bestowed
with the sixth sense. Punishments
are no doubt very tough and harsh
with no appeal provisions. Fear
phobia prevails everywhere and
danger lurks in every corner. Life
Learn a trick suffers with full uncertainty. If
anything can be guaranteed it is
or two from death.
MONKEY’S
adopted urban lifestyle with suitable
adaptability. As a consequence the
struggle for urban space sharing with
PRECAUTIONS
humans has already started and
ultimately these selected species of
animals have become a nuisance in
TO POISON
the urbanised environment of the
human habitats.
In modern times we are noticing
that monkeys have violently invaded
the urban conglomerates of human
settlements and have asserted their
right to co-exist with the humans and
enjoy the nature’s gift of a vast
variety of eatables. The pattern of
their consumption has given ample
proof that there is no major difference
in the eating habits and preferences
between monkeys and humans. Their
behavioural attitudes have confirmed
that they are also the ancestors of
the present human race.
Monkeys have full knowledge like
humans except the language for
communication. But they have a
perfect science of communication
A
next door has a go to bed at night is more or less family notwithstanding.
considerable stock of fixed, but when I shall wake up in the My wife, whose hours of sleep are
maxims and wise old morning has always been a matter of fixed and so well regulated that I can
sayings stored in his grey uncertainty to me – and also a topic almost set my watch by them, has
head, which he has a of speculation and jocular comments always viewed my erratic schedule
knack of introducing at the for my wife and children. with perplexity and concern. The
right moment in a There are days when I wake up to other day, when I quietly stole out of
conversation, so to speak, find that the family has already had bed at 4 am and straightway tip-toed
to hit the nail on the head. its breakfast and, in the kitchen, the my way to the kitchen to brew myself
The other day I heard him use one better half is gently chiding our a nice cup of tea, I committed the
to pontifically moralise on how many butter-fingered domestic help to be a unpardonable crime of allowing a
hours of sleep a human being little more careful with the crockery. bone china cup to slip out of my hand
normally needs in a day to keep The ‘Late lateef’ in me then has to to break into some half a dozen
fighting fit. stomach the jibes and jokes my pieces on the floor. This seemingly
“Nature made it six, comfort family often makes about my irregular minor mishap created such a devil of
seven, luxury eight, and dissipation sleeping hours. a racket in the kitchen that it was
stretched it to nine,” recited the But they say every cloud has a sufficient to pull the better half out of
ancient with practised fluency. “The silver lining to it. My erratic schedule her deep slumbers to make a few
wise, of course, stick to what nature of sleep, too, has a sunny side. I choice comments on the clumsiness
says, the easy-going ones generally mean there are days when I find of those who ruin honest folks’ sleep
abide by the dictates of comfort, but myself wide awake at four in the at an unearthly hour.
the dissipated and the habitually morning, which is considered by the “You should consult a doctor,”
indolent hardly ever bother about devout and the god-fearing as the advised a friend the other day when I
their hours of sleep.” ambrosial hour, that is, amritvela , told him about my problem. “Getting
That set off a train of deep according to the Sikh scriptures. up at 9.30 in the morning is no doubt
thought. I have, I told myself in a And sometimes I am up even a a trifle too lousy, but being earlier
regretful vein, never consistently little earlier than that, when all other than the earliest crowing cockerel is
followed either nature, or comfort, or members of our family lie ensconced also a bit odd. The ideal hour for
even luxury. In fact, my hours of in the lap of Morpheus, the god of anyone to leave his or her bed in the
sleep, on any given day, are as sleep. I am the only one then raring morning, according to me, should be,
unpredictable as the future of any to jump out of bed to start my day. say, 6 o’clock. Of course, half an
prepared it one day earlier. I made a clutch purse which I was carrying in
list of ingredients and gave them to my hand. My mobile phone, cash of
him each. Then, from the recipe I 500 rupees, my Bank of Baroda debit
prepared everything very carefully. card and my university identity card
There was Hungarian chicken, mutton were all in it.
do-piaza mushroom, almond soup, the When I wanted to make an urgent
starters and other snacks like Russian call I realised that my purse was lost.
salad, etc. Lo and behold. Each dish Suddenly I rang up my number. and
turned out to be very delicious. For prayed that somebody might attend
Cooking pleasure each dish I had put in an extra effort. it. I had lost all hopes that I will get it
We had just been married. He was The Generals praised and others back, as the exhibition was a
a Captain in the Army. Barely 15 lauded my efforts. They told their crowded place. Then, to my surprise,
days after our marriage, my husband wives to pick up tips from Mrs Chopra. somebody picked up the phone and
asked me if I could cook. He had Hubby was elated. He got a said that, while getting onto the bike
already invited 12 people and praised recommendation from his Generals. I had dropped my purse. He had tried
my culinary skills to the sky. He had All is well that ends well. I had to call us back but we did not hear
seen that I was a good cook but then I followed the maxim: Work is worship. his shout.
had not put my hands to parties No wonder the meal was sumptuous Then that man told that he stays in
single-handedly. — out of this world. Aminjikarai, a very distant area from
He encouraged me, “Darling, if I – Kunwarani Harbans Chopra, my place and told to come and get
had not seen you cooking at home, I Bangalore. my belongings back. It was late night
would never have invited my buddies but still my brother went and
as well as General Bose and General Lost — then found recovered my belongings. Then I
Kataria with their wives.” Oh, This happened a few months ago, I rang him back and thanked him.
another bombshell. visited an exhibition with my husband Through this column I once again
We were in Shimla. So there was and was returning home. When I want to thank my brother.
no chance of food getting spoilt, even reached home I could not find my – R. Humera Sultana, Chennai
P
musician with an inter - several album releases to his credit,
national standing. This flute of which the best-selling ones have
maestro has also made been Koi Akela, Song of Nature,
waves in India quite recently Traveller’s Tale as well as Fusion
having composed music for Yatra , a popular number with the
India’s first I-Max film Mystic youth which Ronu Majumdar had
India. Known for his off-stage done in conjunction with Louis Banks.
research in creating the Besides being one of the most
perfect flute instrument for versatile of Indian musicians, Ronu
concert performances, the pandit has Majumdar has a reputation of
also been instrumental in creating a receiving prestigious awards for his
flute that is longer than the conven- unique performances. His most
tional one and another, shorter recent award has been the Pandit
version, that is ideal for playing the Jasraj Puruskar, in 2008, and the
notes of the lower octave. On stage, Aditya Vikram Birla Award, a few
the changeover from one flute to years earlier. A classical musician at
another is a seamless activity so that the outset, Ronu Majumdar has
listeners are hardly aware of any made it his mission to take his music
musical change in the process. The to the youth.
concert and the flute in his hands is WE met the musician for an
thus a smooth glide along the path exclusive interview:
of music, as he blows out the notes
of the raga, in the style of the Maihar How do you compose music for
gharana. a fusion number?
In his childhood he was trained to The Fusion numbers that I have
play the flute by his father Dr Bhanu composed are thematic works on
Majumdar and later came under the dawn, or awakening or nature, and
guidance of the late Pandit Laxman are based on popular ragas . They
Prasad Jaipurwale. As a mature also have a folk touch in them
musician, he was taken under the because the flute is a folk instrument
tutelage of Pandit Raghav Rao, a and music from that source sounds
senior disciple of Pandit Ravi good on my instrument.
Shankar.
A classical musician with a broad Who is the target audience for
musical outlook, Pandit Ronu Fusion numbers?
Majumdar has created new wave The young generation of listeners
music in conjunction with inter - are not used to listening to classical
national musicians like Ry Cooder music. Fusion music is aimed at
drawing them into the fold of music
and in that way, introduce them to
the greatness of classical music.
PANDIT RONU
They are not yet ready to accept pure
classical music but bringing them to
this stage is difficult unless one first
introduces them to music through
MAJUMDAR
Fusion numbers.
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country – one in which basic would ensure that 'work gets done'.
human rights as citizens are We, however, felt it was a clear case
given equality to all. and hence decided not to
However, it is also common unnecessarily resort to any corrupt
knowledge that attaining the means. When the officer came home,
stamp of a citizen – that of a we calmly explained the details of the
passport – can often be a case to him. The officer, too, seemed
tiresome and impossible rather unfazed and asked us to write
task. an application stating the same.
Recently, the 10-year period of my As the days went by, we realised
passport expired and I needed to get that the stipulated period of 45 days
it renewed before an important trip to had finally come to an end but there
Switzerland and the United States. was still no sign of the passport reach
Since my passport had first been home. This began to worry us as our
made in Delhi, and since I was travel dates were slowly getting
working there for the last year and a closer. On speaking to the police
half, I thought it might be pretty officer about it, we learnt that all he
obvious for one to apply for a renewal was waiting for was a bribe from us
in Delhi itself. My parents, however, all along! Imagine our plight when we
had been living in Jaipur for the last heard him saying on the other end of
seven years. the phone, “Hum to aapke phone ka
The time for the normal procedure hi wait kar rahe the taki aap hume
was given as a minimum of 45 days kuch offer kar de." (I had been
for which we had to shell out a sum waiting for you to call up all along so
of Rs 1,500. Around the time for the that you may offer me some money
police verification procedure, a in order to get the work done.)
number of people advised us that the After sending several e-mails to
surest bet was to simply slip a note of the office as well as endless phone
Rs 100 into the hands of the authority calls, we realised that there was still
Why is it such a
hassle to simply get PASSPORT TO
our identity certified?
By Neha Kirpal
NOWHERE no response. Disgusted, we decided
to go ourselves to the passport office
and ask them what the further
procedure was. They told us that,
since our application had been
rejected, we had to follow the next
obvious procedure – reapply, this
time from Jaipur.
Without wasting any more time,
we decided to immediately reapply
from Jaipur all over again. This time,
however, we applied through the
*Tatkaal *(quick) scheme that is
meant to take a period of three days
and is resorted to in cases of
emergency. The scheme cost us an
additional Rs 2,500. However, this decided to come personally and pick wondered. "Anything to get out of
was still not a solution to our up the passport instead of receiving it here, I guess" instantly fleeing out of
problem. by post at our home address. the office in relief.
The period of three days was On the D-Day, the time for 5:20 pm I almost scrammed all the
over, but the passport still did not 'distributing' passports was given to way to the travel agency and handed
reach home. By now, we were almost be between 4 pm and 5 pm By 5 pm, over the passports that were
livid since our travel dates were now however, the passports had not yet scheduled to leave for Delhi by
just a fortnight away. The travel arrived. Scores of tense people stood courier within a span of 10 minutes.
tickets had already been bought and crowding around us, some talking on The travel agent looked up calmly
we wanted to spare about a week's their mobile phones looking hassled, from his desk and I pretended that
time to get the Swiss visa. The others pacing about restlessly. The nothing had happened. "Here you
hilarious part of it all was that my waiting period also allowed a number
previous passport already had a 10- of 'fellow sufferers' to share each
year tourist visa for the USA. So I other’s 'passport woes' with each THE AGENCY
could enter the United States without other in a display of passionate INFORMED US
any problem, but I could not exit India sympathy. Buzzes of "They told me I
without a legal travel document! have to reapply because the birth THAT THE
In a state of nervousness, we
went personally to the passport office
certificate is missing" or "They said I
have to re-apply because in the
PASSPORTS MUST
once again to check the problem out photograph I had a religious cap on" BE URGENTLY
for ourselves. Once at the office, we
saw endless queues of helpless
or "These people feel they are gods"
seemed to resound all around me
COURIERED TO
people like ourselves pleading before and I began to feel like an DELHI FOR THE
the authorities. The officials looked insignificant hapless part of the
completely blasé, feeling extremely mundane mess that is India. SWISS VISA BY
powerful in their positions, often 5:10 pm Finally, after almost 5:30 PM THE
shooing off people or carelessly giving up and falling half to sleep, we
slamming their precious files from heard some noise in the distance and NEXT DAY.
one desk to another. a kind of inexplicable hush filled the
air as a group of people figured out
that the 'coveted possessions' were
SHODDY TREATMENT actually making their way down the
When we inquired about the stairs to be brought for the final
reason for our passport 'not quite task of distribution. It was like
making the mark' we were told that a miracle – an
the file had not yet reached the inexpressible moment of
particular desk it was meant to go to. triumph filled with fatigue.
For about three days in a row, we Finally, my turn came to
kept going back and forth to the office collect the passport. I looked
to pressurise the officials into down at it, expecting to find a
considering our case. Sometimes, we shiny, beautiful little book
were simply told to return later in the almost studded with gold and
day 'after lunch hours'. After a diamonds! What I found instead
considerable amount of frustration was a drab, ordinary and almost
and days of jittery waiting, we were faded-looking booklet staring back at
finally told that the process would me. ‘All that trouble…for this?’ I
finally be completed by the next day.
This happened when only five more
days were left before our date of
departure.
In the meantime, we were
simultaneously in touch with a travel
agency that was handling our
holiday. The agency informed us that
the passports must be urgently
couriered to Delhi for the Swiss visa
by 5:30 pm the next day. Naturally, to
avoid further confusion and delay, we
are,” I said coolly and as I handed that when her police verification was
the passports over to him, my heart to take place, the officer plainly asked
skipped a beat. "Be careful with that," her parents for a sum of Rs 2,000
I cautioned him. without even batting an eyelid. It was
"Of course I will,” he replied almost as if it was an obvious 'done
flashing an amused smile. ‘You don't thing' in order to ensure that the job
know the value of what you hold in gets done! She adds, "We didn’t
your hand, young man,’ I wanted to even question the inspector, simply
say. ‘The kind of things I have been gave him the money and sure
through just to get this!’ I wondered. enough the passport was made.”
And it was only after I stepped out of Contrast this with my sister who
the travel agent's office at 5:35 pm lives in Seattle and needed to get her
that I realised I was actually going to Indian passport renewed in the USA.
make it to the flight for my holiday Nidhi went to study in the United
scheduled only four days later! States and has been living there for
I came out and felt like crying – the last three years.
because of an overwhelmingly weird When she had to get her Indian
bunch of happy, tired and rather passport renewed there, all she had
cheated mix of emotions running to do was to post the relevant
through my head. Am I not a citizen? documents to the Indian embassy
Is this the way the country where I that lasted for almost three painful office in San Francisco and within a
was born and brought up in a months, I have met a number of hassle-free span of 15 days, her
straightforward manner for all my life Indians like myself who have had to fresh passport was promptly mailed
decides to treat me after 23 years of undergo the same tribulation. A back to her. No police verification.
never doing a single wrong thing? Is cousin of mine explained the trauma Just because there is probably much
this the price that I must pay for what she underwent while getting her more trust. Because no one is so
I deserve in any case as a birthright? passport. Coming from a small Indian corrupt. Because things get done
I have to say, through my ordeal town like Hissar, Mukta remembers within the period. We
avoid looking at me or just stared at After about a week, the wife also
me with an expressionless face. This responded with a little smile. I felt
was all new to me. In the USA, when great. Then gradually with the smile
you see somebody on the street (and if was started exchanging “hi” or
Break the Ice — Gain a Friend you make an eye contact), especially “namaste” or “good morning”.
Every morning I go for a walk. in your neighbourhood, you say, “Hi” It went on for a few weeks. Then
It’s a part of my exercise routine and or wave at them. It is just a friendly one day they seemed keen on talking
I have been doing it for many years. gesture and not doing so is considered to me, so I stopped and asked them
Four years ago after retiring from rude. But here, even when I see the where they lived. And it turned out
my regular job, my husband and I same people every day, nobody was that they lived in the same
decided to move to India and to make willing to acknowledge my presence. neighbourhood. So we started talking
a retirement home in Pune. So, just for fun, I decided to do an every morning when we met and
Originally we are from India, but we experiment. There was this particular found out that there were many things
had been living in the USA for the couple whom I saw every morning. of common interest between us.
last 37 years and I was really excited They seemed to be nice people. Both We invited them to our house and
to come back. We purchased a house husband and wife were about the same they reciprocated with the same
in a very nice area of the town. age as I was. enthusiasm. Before we knew it, we
I started my walking routine as Next day when I saw them, I looked became very good friends. Now, we
soon as we settled down. Every at the wife and smiled a little; both of help each other and we enjoy each
morning I would take the same route them looked at me but did not change other’s company.
in my neighbourhood and I would the expression on their faces. I said to I have kept the secret of my little
notice the same people who would myself, “It’s okay, this is just an experiment to myself and they don’t
also go for a walk just as I did. I experiment, let’s wait and see what seem to be keen on finding out why I
would try to look at them to say, “Hi” happens.” So every morning after that targeted them with a smile on that
but I had a very strange experience. day, whenever I saw them, I would day. We just enjoy our friendship.
People either looked away or tried to give a little smile. – Kunda Apte, Pune.
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