Absence of Feedback

Copyright 2001 by Thomas J. Leonard. No duplication. All rights reserved. This is such a funny story. I received an email from someone today ho had attended the !ancouver stop on the "illennium Coaching Tour I did during 2001. I remember her too# and the loo$ on her face hen I ans ered# %uietly&nicely&cleanly 'no than$s' hen she as$ed for permission to give me some feedbac$ after the presentation. (Normally# I'm open to feedbac$ but not on my spea$ing style) I $no it suc$s for some people# and I can't& on't fi* it in this lifetime. +o# I am a 'no' and it flummo*es people. ,ut she came around and gre as a result. -reat email. -reat lesson on absencing... +he's given me permission to include her note. .ear Thomas# /ou probably don't remember me# e spo$e at the end of your tal$ hen you ere in !ancouver for the "illennium Tour. I came up to you and as$ed# 0Thomas# can I give you some feedbac$0 you turned to me and said# 0no# you can't # I don't do feedbac$.0 (or something to that effect1. I said to myself# 0 hat do you mean you don't do feedbac$2 3o can you not do feedbac$2 3o are you supposed to learn ithout it20 4ell# let me tell you I al$ed around for %uite some time trying to get my head around this hole 0don't do feedbac$ thing0. And I'm happy to say I get it555 677.,AC8 .97+N'T 49:85 (7specially the unsolicited $ind.1 It's often more about the person giving the feedbac$ then it is for the person getting the feedbac$5 i.e.# the need to loo$ smart# been noticed# be right... No # I'm not saying I have all the ans ers here but it's a start5 This is probably nothing ne for you# you obviously got this a long time ago# I ;ust than$ you for giving me the opportunity to get it5 /ours truly# name ithheld by re%uest. anted to say

..+o# hat ell meaning person can you start saying No to2&thomas

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