Xanet Pailet was in a marriage with zero physical intimacy for more than 15 years. Most people don't go that long, but many do wait years before they openly address these issues; however, by then, permanent damage to the relationship may have already been done. Sexuality is a definitive part of the human experience, and when it's not working, it's one of the top reasons couples split. So what's going wrong? Past trauma, self-esteem issues, guilt, shame, and a general lack of communication all contribute to the complexity of physical intimacy, so it's not surprising most people avoid the issue, if possible. Who wants to open up that Pandora's box? On this week's show, Xanet will share her insights and expertise based on both her personal experience and decades of coaching others. Listen & Learn: How a sexless relationship can harm your spirit and your life Why abstinence is a ridiculous idea, even in spiritual traditions Why the definition of 'sex' should be broadened to include many different ways of connecting on an intimate level How to navigate the challenges of modern pornography Links & Resources: Xanet's Website Living an Orgasm (book) ABOUT THE GUEST Xanet Pailet is a certified tantra educator, sexological body worker, and somatica-trained sex coach, who has worked in the therapeutic field for more than 25 years. She's the author of the book Living an Orgasmic Life, available on Amazon, as well as on her website. Nutritional Tip of the Week: Fish Oil Got Questions? Send me a voicemail here: Ask Lucas a Question Or write to us: podcast@yogabody.com Like the Show? Leave us a Review on iTunes Thanks to our sponsor: Molekule has completely reinvented the air purifier. From the inside out, Molekule has reimagined what clean air ought to look and feel like—unobtrusive, portable, and 100% effective. Visit: MOLEKULE and use coupon code “Lucas” for $75 off your first order. Learn More