Can we want what we already have? This episode features the incredible Esther Perel, a best-selling author and psychotherapist who has gone to speak and consult for Fortune 500 companies on questioning core beliefs about marriage, love, and sex. This talk, delivered to our tribe, was recorded on Mindvalley’s stage at A-Fest Ibiza 2017 and tackles one of the biggest struggles that couples face in today’s modern romantic relationships.    Listen in to learn why so many couples feel like their love has “lost its spark” as Esther covers the following: The paradoxical experience of security in tandem with a sense of adventure The modern definition of “Intimacy” A brief history of how intimate relationships have evolved The answers to the question “I’m most drawn to my partner when…” The most common mistakes modern couples make How do you rekindle the flames of a romantic relationship What does it take to have a successful and long-term relationship   To learn more about Esther, we highly recommend the following books to get you started: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence http://amzn.to/2ingVfy The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity http://amzn.to/2qjZV01   Visit her website https://www.estherperel.com/ to get your very own Intimacy Inventory and start building a love relationship that suits you.   If you'd like to learn more about Mindvalley's A-Fest, visit our website at http://www.afest.com/ and apply to become part of our curated community and attend incredible events dedicated to personal transformation.   *** Mindvalley is a school for human transformation. We design learning experiences and publish teachings by the best authors in transformational education. The Mindvalley Podcast aims to bring to you the greatest teachers and thought leaders on the planet to discuss the world's most powerful ideas in personal growth for mind, body, spirit, and work.  To learn more about what we do, visit us at http://www.mindvalley.com/ Join the conversation at https://www.facebook.com/mindvalley