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    Get the F*ck On With Your Life: Healing After a Toxic Relationship
    Get the F*ck On With Your Life: Healing After a Toxic Relationship
    Get the F*ck On With Your Life: Healing After a Toxic Relationship
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    Get the F*ck On With Your Life: Healing After a Toxic Relationship

    By Chris Ce

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    Trying to survive after leaving a toxic relationship?

    Walking away from relationship abuse can leave us feeling like a frayed nerve - powerless, confused, and vulnerable - when what we wish for most is strength.

    We may feel weak spiritually, emotionally, and physically. We still question what we did wrong, looking for clues and answers by replaying the relationship in our minds.

    Granting ourselves the time we need to process what happened permits us to heal and reconnect with ourselves.

    After breaking free from years of a toxic relationship and finding a path to success and happiness, author Chris Ce shows you methods to trust yourself again, reconnect with your willpower, and move into a life on your own terms once you've left the relationship behind.

    In this book you'll learn to:

    •Identify and allow yourself the necessary time to recover from tip-toeing around someone else's moods, temper, and anxiety
    •Listen to and trust yourself after being gaslighted, called crazy, and having your feelings diminished
    •Build and keep your strength after the exhausting work it took to walk away and end communication
    •Align your life again after your world has been turned upside down

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDifference Press
    Release dateDec 11, 2018
    ISBN9781386244332
    Get the F*ck On With Your Life: Healing After a Toxic Relationship

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      Get the F*ck On With Your Life - Chris Ce

      Get the F*ck On with Your Life:  Healing After a Toxic Relationship

      Chris Ce

      Difference Press

      McLean, VA, USA 

      Copyright © Chrissy Taylor, 2018 

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the author. Reviewers may quote brief passages in reviews. 

      Published 2018 

      DISCLAIMER 

      No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, mechanical or electronic, including photocopying or recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, or transmitted by email without permission in writing from the author. 

      Neither the author nor the publisher assumes any responsibility for errors, omissions, or contrary interpretations of the subject matter herein. Any perceived slight of any individual or organization is purely unintentional. 

      Brand and product names are trademarks or registered trademarks of their respective owners.

      The information, ideas, and recommendations contained in this book are not intended as a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

      Book Coach: Dr. Angela Lauria

      Developmental Editor: Ora North

      Managing Editor: Todd Hunter

      Proofreader: Erica L. James

      Cover Design: Manish 414

      Advance Praise

      This book feels like a beacon in the darkness for anyone trying to find her way back to herself after a toxic or abusive relationship. Chris shares her own journey with care and courage alongside practical steps to help you heal. The experience of leaving a toxic relationship can leave you questioning your worth and even who you are. This book offers the balm you need to rebuild your life and rise again!

      -Heather Glidden, Author of Thrive in Your Healing Business

      "Wow, Chris's story is compelling and raw! She walked through the fire and survived. If anyone can help you survive and thrive, it is the author of Get the F*ck On with Your Life!"

      -Kristi Brower, Author of Relationships for Spiritual People

      "We have all stayed in relationships far longer than we should have, especially when it is toxic and mentally abusive. Chris Ce gives raw insight into the mind of a deeply wounded woman desperately looking for love and connection but experiencing hurt by intentional abuse instead.

      If you are finding yourself in a similar situation, Chris’ story is the beginning of leaving your relationship and getting on with your life to choosing and loving yourself. From cover to cover, this book is written with so much honesty and vulnerability, yet in the spirit of hope and rejoice.

      It’s rare to find such honest advice in such an accessible format. This book teaches you exactly what the title says! How to get the f*ck on with your life after a toxic relationship. Chris’ journey and the insights she gained along the way will help you do just that."

      -Andrew Lawless, Author of Blood Sugar in Check: 7 Steps to Health and Happiness with Diabetes

      "Brutality and raw honesty come to life from author Chris Ce in her first book Get the Fuck On With Your Life: Healing After A Toxic Relationship. Both agonizing and uplifting, it is equal parts autobiographical and self-help. Readers will find themselves immersed in the intense stories Ce tells with extraordinary detail. The essential value here is in the wisdom the author offers about how she saved her own life after finally leaving a toxic relationship. What a fortunate gift that was and is for both the reader and the author.

      This is a book survivors will call a blessing, written by a woman who has walked that familiar road. The difference is that she discovered within herself a unique way to walk beyond that road. That is the gut of this book, and that is where it will hit readers.

      Fascinating and fierce, this is a page-turner, both in language and style. Ce portrays stories from her life with such vivid detail that the reader can visualize living through those events. What desperate, at times terrifying, and even empty places they must have been for her. It hits you in the gut.

      She has documented and laid bare these experiences with stunning intuition, grace, and compassion. The language seems to leap from each sentence, as though it had built up inside of her, waiting to be born into this brilliant book of destruction and hope. Any woman who has had a traumatic or toxic relationship in her past will recognize some part of herself in this book.

      Beauty and cruelty existing together is a duality that trauma survivors will recognize. This work is an exception that rises above the normal psychological explanations or advice on the subject of moving on. It is a heartbreaking and exquisite portrayal of the author's journey through trauma and her path to healing. The blend of these approaches, Ce's unique self-help style, and her raw honesty with words cause this book to stand out.  

      This is an essential read for any woman struggling to feel her way through the path of pain, uncertainty, or confusion and back to living. It was the author's ability to look within and discover her intuition that saved her own life, and it could end up saving yours also."

      Sara E. Hamilton, Client of the Author

      To all the wounded, walking in both shadows and light:  the predators, the prey, and any in-between. Thank you for playing your role.

      Contents

      Chapter 1 – Are You a Survivor of the Vortex?

      Chapter 2 – Mourning is Greyer than Dusk

      Chapter 2 (b) – My Journey to Complete Self-abandonment

      Chapter 3 – Stages of Toxic Relationship Recovery

      Chapter 4 – Toxic Relationship Behavior

      Chapter 5 – Why We Stay

      Chapter 6 – Outcomes of Toxic Relationship Abuse

      Chapter 7 – You’ve Left - Now What?

      Chapter 8 – Ways to Reduce Noise and Reconnect with Yourself

      Chapter 9 – Holding Space for Yourself

      Chapter 10 – Motion Brings You ALIVE (aligned, loved, inspired, valued, excited)

      Chapter 11 – Growing Your Phoenix Wings

      About the Author

      Thank You

      Chapter 1 – Are You a Survivor of the Vortex?

      This book is for you who have come through the vortex of toxic relationship abuse.

      You may not know how you got inside the vortex to begin with, other than care, love or maybe feelings of protection toward the person you didn’t realize would later treat you as if you didn’t exist.

      This book is for you who thought not breaking at the bending points imposed upon you through insults, goading, gaslighting, guilt trips, dismissiveness, belittling, anger, unpredictable tempers, withholding affection or silent treatment would show the person you cared for that you are trustworthy. We know you – the abuser – are hurt. Your pain is deep and our desire to ease that hurt overrides our own self-value.

      This book is for you who were confused by this treatment. You thought love would eventually prevail for both of you. Yet, you stayed too long. For those whose hearts began to hurt and whose souls felt faded, as if you were physically disappearing. You’d given everything to express how you had their best interest at heart, so much so that you became powerless. Your personal well drained and ran dry because nothing you did or could do was enough. Ever.

      This book is for you who realize you truly almost lost yourself in a desire to help, to be loved, to share love. Hurt attracts hurt. It becomes incredibly more difficult the longer you stay.

      This book is for you who chose yourselves, fought back, and left before you feared it was too late. Too late to get your own life back.

      It is never too late.

      This book is for you, now removed from the toxicity. You’re no longer in proximity to this person. You’ve severed contact and emotional ties. You are no longer involved with this person. You no longer desire to be. You have nothing to say, nothing to give. At all. It’s over. Now what?

      You may be muddling through the what now, maybe feeling you are in purgatory, maybe realizing you need deep recovery. You are probably exhausted.

      You may have a low tolerance for everything (friends, family, society, noise) except time alone. You may feel mentally dull, like all your faculties are weakened. Emotional highs and lows are common – a flood of deep

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