Get Out of Your Way

About the Author

Finlay is an NLP master practitioner, hypnotherapist, psychic, medium and a commercial manager. He has also been a volunteer, working alongside a disaster management company dealing with air crashes and acts of terrorism, as well as working with charities helping those affected by cancer and other terminal illnesses. Finlay has successfully been involved with helping people from all walks of life looking to change their lives, from helping sports teams and individuals to improve their game, to those wishing to break an addiction or a habit. This book is the result of many years’ experience in this field.

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Dedication

To my parents, without their open-minded upbringing, my early years of discovery would not have come into fruition.

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Get out of Your Way

Published by Austin Macauley at Smashwords

Copyright 2018, Finlay McArthur

The right of Finlay McArthur to be identified as author of this work has been asserted by him in accordance with section 77 and 78 of the

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Available from the British Library.

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www.austinmacauley.com

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Get out of Your Way, 2018

Austin Macauley Publishers Ltd.

ISBN 9781528902625 (Paperback)

ISBN 9781528902632 (Hardback)

ISBN 9781528902649 (E-Book)

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First Published in 2018

Austin Macauley Publishers.LTD/

CGC-33-01, 25 Canada Square

Canary Wharf, London E14 5LQ

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Acknowledgements

I would like to thank Jacqui, Christine and Laure for their help and support in the writing of this book.

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter One

Why This Path

Chapter Two

New Outlook

Chapter Three

How

Chapter Four

Get to Know Yourself

Chapter Five

What If We Find a Tiger

Chapter Seven

Happiness and Positivity

Chapter Nine

New Possibilities

Chapter Ten

What to Expect

Chapter Twelve

The Spiritual

Chapter Thirteen

Mindfulness

Chapter Fourteen

Healing

Chapter Fifteen

Recap

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Introduction

Back in 1974 when I was 10, I found myself asking my father and mother questions which they couldn’t answer. They gave me a fantastic childhood full of wonderful memories and a sense of freedom to discover both physical and mental aspects of life. They gave me nature and wildlife books but also encouraged me to go outside and play. They taught me to use my imagination and my brother and sister, although older than me, would join in. Summers were filled with climbing trees, running over the fields near my house and coming in with cut, bloody knees and hands.

But my head was happy and full of wonder. Then I started having a sense that there must be more to this, and more to me. I don’t know why I was asking these strange and awkward questions. It wasn’t just at home either. I remember in a maths classroom I was running my hand over one of the old fashioned wooden desk’s we used to have. It was covered in bumps and lumps and the wood had definitely seen better days. I put up my hand and asked Mr Jones our maths teacher, Sir, I ask quizzically, Do we actually touch anything or is there a kind of force field that stops from actually touching something. I spent the next period in front of the head master explaining why.

I would ask such silly questions. It turned out much later that science believes we don’t physically touch anything, and in fact, there is a force field between our fingers and the thing we are touching. Perhaps, not a strange question after all.

At secondary school, I didn’t get much better, and was always asking ‘why’. When a teacher explained something and I asked her/him why this or that and they couldn’t answer, I used to get frustrated and get into a bit of trouble. What I didn’t realise at the time was that it was fuelling my interest in the non-mundane of usual school work. Then something started happening to me. I stated seeing and hearing things; I kept this to myself as it was scaring me a little as I didn’t know what was happening to me. Especially at home, I would see a person in the house and of course, Mum and Dad couldn’t see them, so I initially thought it was the result of my vivid imagination. Until one day, when I saw a man standing by my mum.

I said, Mum, if I can explain someone to you can you let me know if you know them? I explained the man standing next to Mum and she got a little tearful.

That’s your Uncle Norman, my brother that passed away when you were a small boy, she explained. Why on earth did you ask that? And where did you get the description of him from? I said from a picture upstairs and she didn’t ask anymore. However, it was a good few days afterwards when I managed to sleep properly. That incident made me even more determined to find out more about who we are and what we are capable of. I didn’t speak to anyone about my uncle’s appearance until I was in my early twenties. I still saw people but my ability to hear people went away for some reason. Then as I left school and went to work, I got engrossed in my career and things were put on hold for a while. Although, I regularly found myself asking the same questions.

My desire to find out more took a great step forward when I attended a NLP and then a NLP Master Practitioner course which also entailed hypnotherapy. It was during these sessions with my clients that it again fuelled my interest to learn more about us. What makes us tick, why things are the way they are and why we all seem to do the same things, albeit it slightly differently from each other. At that time, I also become aware of my psychic and mediumship ability, when a lot of my hypnotherapy clients were describing their past and I already seemed to know it. I then read, and read, and read some more. Books from all walks of life, from religion to self-discovery to the mystical, to history and even some books on future thinking. What I did was make notes and I started to try living from some of these new perspectives. And over time, some of these teachings made sense and made life more interesting and gave me a completely new outlook on life.

With this thirst for discovery and asking the ‘why’ question over and over again it made me aware and discover that we are a lot more than we think we are. I promised myself that one day, I would put into words my thoughts and discoveries along with some helpful tips and ideas to help people walk a different path from the rest. This year, I started that book and the finished piece is here for you to read, enjoy and ask questions about. I hope it makes you sit up and take note of where you are where you would like to be and also get you to ask those questions. If you can open your mind to what’s possible and what’s new, then this book has done what it has been designed to do. After all, some of the greats like, Churchill, Einstein, Aristotle, Gandhi have all asked themselves the meaning of life, success, failure and the future. And if these great thinkers can ask questions about their mortality then you certainly can. I hope by doing so, you will learn that there is more to you and the world around you and perhaps this may bring an understanding and a fullness to your life you may not have known was there.

Why I think this book is a little different to others around the same genre is that I am trying to write in an honest and open way. A way that I hope will resonate with you. There will be some NLP models to work with, some spiritual ideas and teachings, a touch on quantum physics and most of all, good old common sense. As I am not a fan of introductions that seems to go on and on and detract from the actual book, I will leave this here and allow you to move onto Chapter One.

Thank you and I hope you enjoy this journey we shall take.

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Chapter One

Why This Path

As we climb the steps of life, take time to look back down the stairs and marvel at all the steps you have trodden to get where you are now. Look at the worn out fraying carpets and think about all the circumstances that has got you to where you are now. Then look ahead at the stairs yet to be climbed, the possibilities and the fresh carpet waiting for your presence.

Thank you for picking up this book and I hope at the end that you may have some new tools and ideas on how to live a more beneficial and rewarding life. When I am asked why write a book about this now, I say because I believe the time is right. People I speak to say they are tired and confused, looking for answers to questions they have about how to move forward with their lives. When I ask them what are you looking for? The answers I normally get are, ‘I don’t really know, I feel that I am ready to change but I am not sure how to move on’. That’s an interesting point, looking to ‘move on’. Move means progress, proceed or advance. These three words hold a lot of meaning. But why now, at this stage of human evolution are so many people looking to make this move?

This is the reason for me to write this book, to allow people to look at things from another perspective. You have picked up this book and have started to read it, so keep going, as during the next few chapters, we will look at different areas such as, how your mind works and how it can sabotage your thoughts. We will also look at your beliefs about who you are and what you are capable of. There will be some exercises you can work with to help you change course and the ultimate aim of this book is to help you walk a different path. We will also be looking at the conscious and subconscious, what they are and what they do, as these are important elements of understanding who you are. There is another element to the consciousness of our psyche but I feel that the two we are looking at will be enough to shift your perceptions. There will also be some spiritual teachings as well as some NLP techniques and some good old common sense. The aim of these is to try and get you to look at yourself, where you are heading and what you want to achieve.

The problem with all of this is that the mind is not really programmed to try to work it all out, and indeed, if we were to know it all then there would be no growth or mystery about life, as we would know it all. It would be boring, right? No challenges, no insights, no wonder. So, as we move through these pages just read with an open mind and one which will allow you to absorb and take on board some new ideas and theories. As these, and as with all teachings, are ideas and concepts; I am coming from a neutral stand point, therefore, I hope to just open up people’s minds as I wouldn’t want to be called blasphemous to any religious studies that this may cross over, since that is not my aim.

Why would I need you to open your mind? Simply put that if we were to walk on the same old path then we will still be asking the same questions we are asking ourselves now. We have to cross over to a new way of thinking, which equals a new way of looking at the world around us. If we were sailing a boat in the wrong direction, moving quicker in that direction will only get us further away from our goals. We have to slow down, not stop, but slow down. Take in a new course, or in our case, new learning then tack, or move in a new direction. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? And in fact it is, there isn’t anything complicated here. I will try to keep the writings in this book plain and simple, as I feel that if it’s simply said in a way you understand then it will have the biggest impact. Look at it this way, if you take some time to look at nature, there isn’t anything complicated about it. In fact, this was expertly explained by William of Ockham, an English Franciscan friar c. 1287–1347 that wrote ‘among competing hypothesis, the one with the fewest assumptions should be selected’. And that works for me, and I hope for you too. As why make things complicated in our lives when the simplest assumption, ideas or explanation can be used. Also, as we move through the following pages and chapters, let’s not dwell on your past life. It’s gone, it’s not here anymore. Look at it this way the past is a memory, the future is a thought and now, well now is just a moment in time which can have the effect of changing a future thought.

We will also cover some spiritual teachings and thoughts, why bring spirituality into this? Well, as you read in the introduction amongst other things I am a psychic/medium and I was told during my early years as a trainee that the earth has a cycle. It is a cycle in which consciousness plays a very large part. In order for us to move from where we are now to where we would like to be, we need to engage and understand this conscious behaviour of who we are. We need to evolve and flow and when I talk about this evolving, I am not talking about the age old argument that we come from apes, or indeed we don’t. Or that we all come from some bacterium that began to grow 4.4 billion years ago. I am talking about a conscious evolution that has taken us on many journeys as we evolve as a human life.

When I did research for certain elements of this book, one thing I noticed was that people I spoke to are becoming less interested in where they came from. What they did want to know is what’s next? How do I evolve into a world that seems confused and full of misdirecting messages from those that we rely on to move us forward. The Hopi Indians state that we are about to move into the fifth realm of consciousness. And when you read books and listen to teachings, either now or writings going back hundreds of years, there is a lot of written material which makes me think they could be right. Perhaps, this is the reason why we as humans are a little unsure about where we move on from here. There are around four thousand different religions in the world which people look to for comfort and guidance. Forgive me here, as I don’t want to make a mockery of these religions. But which one is right, which is wrong? And with the declining numbers in churches and other places of worship, are people now looking at other areas for help and for the guidance they seek.

What are we looking for, happiness? Security? Love? Probably a mix of several of those. Let’s face it, once our basic needs are met of food and shelter, what’s next? I feel its love. Why, because I feel, and if you are honest, that we don’t use that little but very powerful word enough. Say it now, say it out loud, LOVE. I bet it made you smile, made you feel a little silly perhaps, but I bet it made you smile, go on be honest! Why did it make you smile, because that little word is very powerful and meaningful. Try this experiment, in a moment put this book or tablet down. Then I want you to think about a person, or animal that means the most to you. I don’t want you to think about a thing i.e. car, house etc. as these are materialistic and they don’t actually have any meaning from an emotional point of view, even if you think they do. Get that person or animal in your mind, see them, hear them and feel them. Then once you have a clear picture, I want you to say out loud, or if you are at work or on a train etc. then say it