How to Become Spiritual Without Being Religious
By Ken Reiners
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Ken Reiners' book now provides a guide for those non-believers who still want to grow spiritually. He makes a clear and concise differentiation between organized religion and spirituality. In this book Ken identifies eight, essential spiritual needs for becoming spiritually whole. He shares his personal spiritual struggle of letting go of the distorted religious beliefs imposed on him by his parents and other religious teachers. Discarding of these negative beliefs imposed on him by others and replacing them with positive ones has enabled Ken to become more spiritually whole. This book not only provides helpful insights for non-believers but for anyone who is seeking spiritual wholeness."
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How to Become Spiritual Without Being Religious - Ken Reiners
© 2013 by Ken Reiners. All rights reserved.
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Published by AuthorHouse 01/16/2013
ISBN: 978-1-4772-9452-9 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4772-9451-2 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-4772-9453-6 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2012922352
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Contents
Acknowledgements
Introduction
1 : Spirituality And Religion
2 : Seeking A Relationship With A Higher Power
3 : Living A Positive Philosophy Of Life
4 : Overcoming Shame
5 : Renewing Moments Of Transcendence
6 : Having Congruent Values
7 : Trusting And Being Trusted
8 : Joining Caring And Nurturing Communities
9 : Developing Our Higher Self
Appendix A : A Letter From An Atheist
Appendix B : Never Good Enough: The Legacy Of Shame
Appendix C : A Letter To My Father
Appendix D : Garden Song—John Denver
Appendix E : Animals As Spiritual Guides By Ken Reiners
Appendix F : Actions You Can Take In Working Through Your Shame
References
Other books by Ken Reiners:
THERE’S MORE TO LIFE THAN PUMPKINS, DRUGS AND OTHER FALSE GODS
ADDICTED TO THE ADDICT: From Codependency To Recovery
Ken Reiners is an ordained United Methodist Clergyman and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He has had sixty-six years in a wide range of experiences in the secular and religious world. He has been in the parish ministry for twenty-two years and a Hospital chaplain for twenty-five years. Ken was a spiritual care counselor for eighteen years to chemically dependent youth and adults in an inpatient treatment center in Minneapolis, MN. His spiritual counseling includes a ministry with run-away youth in a half-way house, criminally disturbed youth on a locked mental health unit and a motorcycle gang called the Dayton Outlaws.
Ken has appeared on the Phil Donahue, television talk show and the P.M. Magazine Special. He has given lectures to patients and their families at Fairview University Hospital and many workshops to schools and churches in the Mid-West, sharing his family’s journey of recovery from the disease of chemical dependency. Ken is married, has two married children and four grandsons.
To my brother, Virgil, a Vietnam Veteran,
who died far too young in the service of his country.
To Ian McNicholes, my Kinship friend,
who elicits my inhibited playful child.
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
31502.jpgI am indebted to my wife, Helene, for her love and support throughout our marriage. She is my best friend. She has always been a positive influence in my life. Her loving and caring attitude has not only influenced me and our children but many of her business associates and friends. Her success in the business world as a Senior Executive National Sales Director, has brought her fulfillment and happiness which has enriched our marriage. Helene has said that she has a PHT degree (Put Hubby Through), meaning she put me through four years of college, three years of divinity school and three years of graduate school as the main bread winner. Helene’s success, as a business woman, has also helped pay for our four grandson’s education and allowed us to travel world-wide.
I thank my good friends, Eric and Mary Jo Hruska, for their willingness to read my manuscript and provide valuable feedback for enhancing my book including the necessary correction of my errors.
I am particularly grateful for all my spiritual mentors who have enlightened me on my spiritual journey. They are, my loving friend, Dr. Grant Tanner, my clinical supervisor, Dr. William A. Miller, my pastor, Rev. Mark Miller, Roman Catholic priests: Fr. William Kenney, Fr. George Coyan, Fr. Steve LeCanne; my best friend, Helene, to name a few.
We are not human beings
going through a temporary spiritual experience.
We are spiritual beings
going through a temporary human experience.
—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
INTRODUCTION
31831.jpgAs I grow older I find myself growing less religious and more spiritual. I confess there are times I prefer to visit, as my brother-in-law used to say, St. Mattress Church with Rev. Pillow preaching.
There have been times I slept in on Sunday mornings rather than attend worship and I did so without guilt.
I used to tell my friends, somewhat facetiously, that I revised one of my favorite hymns changing it from I was sinking deep in sin, far from the peaceful shore.
to I was sinking deep in sin, whoopee!
I discovered that many of the sins my fundamentalist religion taught me I shouldn’t do-like dancing, playing cards, attending movies on Sunday, or drinking alcohol-are really fun. I felt like the little boy who prayed: Lord, if You can’t make me a better boy, don’t worry about it. I’m having a real good time.
Many Christians continue to believe that sin is plural and the list is lengthy including the ones I listed above. Sin, in the Biblical definition, is singular and means alienation
or going against the will of God.
¹ I sin by violating God’s will and, therefore, alienate myself from God. When I’m asked by those who don’t know I’m a clergyman, Why do you wear a cross?
I reply, Because I sin a lot and I need a reminder that I’m forgiven.
The Bible says we are all sinners, therefore, we need forgiveness.
Episcopal priest, Robert Farrar Capon, wrote that the church should not be in the morals business, manufacturing elaborate codes, rules and laws for living. Instead, the church’s business is forgiveness.
We don’t need moralistic judgments imposed on us by self-righteous people.
When I was attending Divinity School in Dayton, Ohio, I initiated a street ministry to the Dayton Outlaws in the bars, the jail cells and the court rooms. They were a motorcycle gang who severed their relationship from the Hells Angels Club because they wanted to run a cleaner
club.
Three of the club members and myself