God Is Grace: Lessons to a Father from a Son
By Tanya Bolton and Warren Bolton
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Dad, did you see me on the cross?
What a question, especially coming from a 4 year-old -- and not Jesus!
Yes. What were you doing?
The son explained that he wanted to be like Jesus.
As he pondered his son's question, Warren Bolton was compelled to ask himself, Do I see me on the cross? Not only that, but he learned a priceless lesson about sacrifice through the exchange with young Alexander.
It was just one of a number of occasions on which this son's words, actions or prayers served as a teaching moment, not lessons from a father to a son but from a son to his father. Learn the power of God's grace and the value of listening to the wisdom that flows from the mouths of babes.
Tanya Bolton
Warren Bolton is an Associate Editor at The State newspaper in Columbia, S.C. He began his career in 1986 as a reporter with the Columbia Record, and has been employed with The State Media Company for 25 years. In 1988, he joined The State and covered county government for six years. In more than nine years as a reporter, he covered education, police, courts and the Legislature. He has served as assistant night news editor as well as an assistant assigning editor over sports, government and community life reporting teams. He became an assigning editor in 1996, supervising reporters covering the environment, health, housing and food. In April of 1997, he became education editor. A month later, he joined The State’s Editorial Board. In January of 2000, he was promoted to Associate Editor. Bolton, the recipient of numerous journalism, civic and community awards. In 1998, he received the Columbia Urban League’s Lincoln C. Jenkins Jr. award for community service. In 2000, he received the top column writing award from the S.C. Press Association as well as the Ambrose E. Gonzales Award for excellence in journalism, given by The State. He is the 2008 recipient of the S.C. Press Association’s E.A. Ramsaur Award, given to the top editorial writer in the state. He was selected as one of 12 honorees to be included in the 2010 AT&T South Carolina African American History Calendar. An associate minister and member at Bethel AME Church in Columbia, he and his wife, Tanya, co-chair the church’s Married Couples Ministry. He has taught Bible study and Sunday School and serves in various other capacities in the church. In addition, he has volunteered at the Department of Juvenile Justice, the United Way of the Midlands and the Boys and Girls Clubs of the Midlands. He regularly volunteers as a reader and speaker at schools across the Midlands. Bolton, a Columbia native and University of South Carolina graduate, is the youngest of 11 children. The Boltons are proud parents of two sons, 6-year-old Alexander and 3-year-old Christopher. Bolton clings to Paul’s declaration in Romans 1:16: "For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek."
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God Is Grace - Tanya Bolton
Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Chapter 1 ‘God Is Grace’
Chapter 2 ‘Keep Us Safe For A Holy Nation’
Chapter 3 ‘We Identify You’
Chapter 4 ‘I Want To Pray’
Chapter 5 ‘Did You See Me On The Cross?’
Chapter 6 ‘You Know How To Get To Heaven, Dad?’
Chapter 7 ‘This Is The Salvation That You Gave Us’
Chapter 8 ‘This Is The Day Of Forgiveness’
Chapter 9 ‘We Have All The Praise And You Have All The Power’
Benediction
Foreword
Being a mother is both the most difficult and most rewarding job I’ve ever had. It’s a constant balancing act—work, family, church, and whatever else presents itself. And like most parents, I have to remember that despite the many balls I have to keep in the air, my primary job is to be a good parent. Someone who cares and provides for, nurtures, protects, and is ultimately responsible for the overall well-being of their precious children. Someone who puts their needs second to ensure their children grow into healthy, productive citizens.
To say the least, parenting is the job you can’t get paid enough for; you never get to clock out (not even for sick days); and there are sure to be heartaches. But with hard work, lots of prayer and perseverance, you are more likely to rear children who bring you great joy and pride.
As a mother and licensed professional counselor, I have found that children tend to mirror what they’ve been exposed to. Yes, they will come up with words, phrases, and behaviors that will make you question where in the world they heard or saw that. But, on average, what you see and hear from your children is a reflection of you.
Their dominant traits and behaviors, coping styles, perspectives on life and other topics, and self-image are most often formed based on how we, as parents, interact with them, the rest of our family and others in society.
I’ll be the first to acknowledge that I have struggles as a parent. Some days, I wonder if I’ve said the right thing; if I’ve encouraged our two boys enough; if I’ve been a good example in how I reacted to a situation verbally and in terms of my behavior. I worry that I didn’t encourage them enough or didn’t prepare them enough for possible negative events of the day.
As a licensed counselor whose job is to encourage and help prepare people to live happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives, I have to make sure that I’m that advocate for my children too. That is a full-time job that requires even more than I—or you, when it comes to your children—gave at the office. But I give 100 percent to others. Why not do the same or more for the children I prayed for and promised God I would care for, protect, and prepare for a bright, productive future?
As I read this book, I smiled because it reflected so many wonderful memories and realizations. I remembered the stories Warren shares about Alexander’s compassionate spirit, even as a younger child, and how his keen sense of discernment caused him to reach out to and encourage strangers. He still does that today. His methods have changed some as he’s gotten older, but he’s still intuitive and purposeful in sharing God’s love and encouragement.
And he’s being a great big brother to Christopher, who adores Alexander. Christopher is more of a brute, as I call him teasingly. He considers himself a dinosaur—just like his big brother—and takes every opportunity to growl and chase nearby children after identifying himself as a T-Rex. He’s an awesome T-Rex, too.
And like Alexander, Christopher walks around singing songs of praise, praying for our family and others, and inquiring about how to heal the world. I’m proud to see our children developing a strong foundation in the Lord. Even so, I still ask myself and God what else I can do.
What’s clear, though, is that we’ve at least done a few things right. We’ve taught them to pray and allowed them to develop their own prayers; we’ve taught them God’s word and given examples of how it applies to daily situations; we show love to each other and to them. I’m glad some of our lessons are bearing fruit even at their young ages. But there’s so much more to teach them.
I pray that you read this book and are encouraged to stay focused on God and establish a solid foundation in His Word for yourself and your children. Work diligently to teach your children godly lessons needed for basic survival. And I pray that you see God’s blessings in your life, your family members’ lives, and all you cover in prayer. As you grow in Christ, help lead others to Him.
Thanks to the author, my husband, for being so wonderful, loving and supportive. I only hope our sons will be as awesome as you, Warren! I always prayed that God would bless me with someone as godly and wonderful (and powerful) as my maternal grandfather, McKinley Diggy
Brown. He did! Diggy loved you, my mom loves you, and most of all, I adore you! I look forward to many more years with you and our boys.
Tanya E. Bolton, MA, LPC, CAC
President, Bolton Counseling & Consulting, LLC
I thank God, our Father, for His divine guidance, Alexander, my tiny theologian, for his inspiration and my wife, Tanya, and youngest son, Christopher, for their