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    Crumble or Stand: The Workbook
    Crumble or Stand: The Workbook
    Crumble or Stand: The Workbook
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    Crumble or Stand: The Workbook

    By Toni Ann

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    Walking in love and forgiveness is not an easy task, especially towards those who have hurt us, but it is possible and there are numerous rewards. When my husband walked out of our front door, our family, and our marriage – in pursuit of another woman, it left me feeling abandoned, rejected and alone. Despite the many months of harrowing turmoil and pain, God showed me step by step, day by day, how to love the unlovable and how to forgive the unforgiveable. This is a ten-session workbook offering you key elements from my book Crumble or Stand: The Power of Forgiveness, with the aim to give you ideas of how you can try to put some of its principles into practice on your own, with a small group, or with someone you trust. I hope that you will discover a new you! There may be a crumble moment along the way, but ultimately you will realise that you can walk in love – you can forgive those who have hurt you – and you can be victorious!
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWords by Design
    Release dateJul 10, 2014
    ISBN9781909075283
    Crumble or Stand: The Workbook
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    Toni Ann

    Toni lives in Berkshire with her three beautiful children.

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      Crumble or Stand - Toni Ann

      SESSION ONE

      Trusting God in the Midst of Uncertainty

      Before reading and working through the material here, perhaps it would be useful to ask yourself about why affairs start. Most people don’t expect that they or their partner would ever have an affair. So why might an affair begin?

      Now read Toni’s reflections in this excerpt from the book:

      When It All Began – Summer 2009

      Six months before God spoke to me in the alleyway we were on holiday in the Lake District. As we sat all together eating breakfast, looking out on the most beautiful view of Lake Windermere, I looked across the table at my husband. That was the very day, the very moment I saw it.

      I don’t know how to describe it really, but I saw there was something different about him. He looked the same; he was chatting to the children as normal, but as I looked at him I saw him as being ‘distant’. I’m struggling to find the right words, but I knew in my heart something was very wrong.

      There was a lost expression in his eyes. I asked him if he was alright. He replied that he was fine. As the week progressed though, it was obvious there was something going on with him – it frightened me a little. He wouldn’t talk to me about it. Instead he just said he was tired from work.

      But it kept niggling at me all week. He was aloof. We all liked walking in the hills and would set out for a day’s walking as normal, but as the days progressed I noticed little things – he didn’t hold my hand, or walk next to me. Instead he walked ahead with two of the children and left me and one of our daughters to trail behind. We had always kissed at every kissing gate for years on our walks. But not this week. Even the children began to comment.

      * Apart from an affair, what other explanations might there have been for what Toni describes? Think of as many as possible.

      * Do you think she should have done or said anything else at this early stage?

      It is certainly helpful to think about the range of possibilities, and to appreciate that simply rushing to one conclusion may not be appropriate. But things certainly had changed for Toni and her husband in their relationship.

      * How does this relate to your relationship?

      * Maybe you know someone who has been through a similar experience to Toni. How might you help them?

      However, things developed further for Toni:

      At the time I could only say that it was very odd behaviour. It wasn’t anything really major so I felt it was not worth making a fuss about. I persuaded myself that it was due to his promotion and the extra responsibilities at work.

      Over the next few weeks he started to go out in the evenings more than usual. A couple of times he was late home for dinner. As the autumn months went by, it became more and more frequent, so much so, that in November and December he hardly ate at all with me and the children.

      During this time his phone would be going off constantly and he would always be reading his messages or texting. When I asked him who it was, he would become really defensive and quite annoyed with me for asking.

      He started to become secretive as well. He would reply to a text message, then slip the phone back into his pocket without a word. And the texts were becoming more and more frequent.

      * These seem very stereotypical actions of someone having an affair. What would the impact have been on Toni at this point?

      * The situation is difficult – emotional and complicated already. What would you say is the best way of dealing with a situation like this?

      Toni then had God prompt her with the word ‘infidelity’, and one of her friends also had a vision of her husband leaving her for another woman. She writes:

      My heart was racing. It couldn’t be true! Not my husband! That was too much to believe! It played on my mind for quite a few days. I walked around with a huge fear in my heart. I simply couldn’t believe it. So I tried my best to put it out of my mind, dismissing it. I did consider confronting him about it, but it was only a brief thought and looking back, I think it was because I was afraid it would make things worse. So I swept it all under the carpet.

      It was a wrong decision. If only I had said, God said to me today the word ‘infidelity’ – are you having an affair? If only I had been brave enough to face it! If only I had opened my eyes to what was going on around me! If only I had confronted him. Would things have turned out differently? Would the pain have been less? Maybe he would have been remorseful and willing to work things out with me?

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