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    Good Grief?
    Good Grief?
    Good Grief?
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    Good Grief?

    By Tamara Winslow

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    People throughout the world are grieving and increasingly not being able to find help in their journey through sorrow. The book "Good Grief?" is put together in such a way that it considers briefly both clinical and in comparison the indepth Biblical solutions for the process of human mourning. The Bible has a lot to say about the subject and reveals that not all grief goes bad. Dr. Winslow defines the different types of grief identified by psychologists and then examines the different categories of grief identified in the Bible, so that this book can truly help readers identify their feelings, symptoms and problems associated with grief. This practical heartfelt book offers real solutions for folks who need help walking through their grief process. "Good Grief?" specifically targets Christians who need and want a Biblical, spiritual tool to help heal their painful situations. Why the title "Good Grief?" Grief doesn't have to dominate your life, and according to the Scriptures it can truly end in something constructive and positive, even beautiful. Dr. Winslow reminds her readers that God has counted every tear and cares about the grief people experience.

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    PublisherTamara Winslow
    Release dateMar 15, 2017
    ISBN9781370177202
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    Tamara Winslow

    Dr. Tamara Winslow, the founder of Institutes for Biblical Truth and Sword and Song Ministries, has been serving God since a very young age and in a full time capacity since 1978. She’s ministered in a variety of capacities, traveling extensively in both the US and to over 35 nations. A prolific author, she has assembled a wide range of Biblical Study curriculum, as well as having authored numerous children's books and poetic stories designed to communicate truth about morals and conscience. Her ministry, books and music recordings have been appreciated and enjoyed globally. Recognized as a skilled and anointed praise and worship leader, specializing in spontaneous spiritual songs, she is well versed in the Biblical subject of Praise and worship, the move of the Holy Spirit, along with hundreds of significant Bible topics.Dr. Winslow’s ministry is non-denominational work enabling her to minister in to numerous denominations and ministry organizations overseas, as well as addressing Law Firms, Business conferences and government training schools. An author of over 4000 biblical curriculum books, she addresses and trains Christian leaders in the arenas of biblical perspectives on healing and medicine, all aspects of ministry, the arts, government, cultures, cross-generational studies (specifically Gen X & Y); international affairs, and leadership development. She has received a BA, MA and Doctorates in Theology, Philosophy and (in the process of receiving her doctorate of Divinity), graduating Summa Cum Laude from the Minnesota Graduate School of Theology in 2007 and 2008, 2011.As the founder/director of Institutes for Biblical Truth, her courses offer an intense, immersion style, compressed college-level training course that provides Biblically based education designed to school young, developing leaders in Christian life skills so to affect their arenas of vocation and society. Over 800 international students have completed the Institute courses. She also has developed original curriculum and courses on subjects related to addressing societies needs in business, law, the arts, education and more, plus modular programs for women encouraging them to be all God has called them to be.An accomplished composer/ singer, she has recorded 12 CD music recordings, and composed thousands of songs, many of which are used in churches all around the world. She is an accomplished singer, composer, performer, pianist, guitarist, and music arranger. She has had 14 years of classical training and is skilled in a wide range of styles of music.She has been married to Michael Winslow since 1980 and they presently live and base in Colorado Springs, CO.

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      Good Grief? - Tamara Winslow

      GOOD GRIEF?

      By Dr. Tamara Winslow ThD; PhD

      Copyright © 2017 Dr. Tamara Winslow

      All rights reserved.

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      No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or any informational storage and retrieval system, with permission in writing from the Publisher.

      All Scripture references, marked KJV unless otherwise noted are from the King James Version of the Bible (Public Domain).

      Scripture quotations marked YLT are taken from The Young’s Literal Translation Bible (Public Domain).

      THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION, NIV Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

      Ebook formatting by www.ebooklaunch.com

      This book is dedicated to the broken-hearted people who mourn alone, and who genuinely want practical Biblical answers so they can find God’s comfort and leave their sadness behind.

      CONTENTS

      Foreword

      Preface

      Introduction

      1. Driven to Win

      2. Defining And Categorizing Grief

      3. Catch Me If You Can: Spiritual Factors Affecting How We Grief

      4. The Nature of God’s Grief And How He Deals with Human Grief from a Biblical Perspective

      5. A Rotten Fruit from A Wicked Tree; A Bad Side of Grief

      6. The Fruits of Grief

      7. Starting the Process of Godly Comfort

      8. A Spiritual Plan of Action: Addressing Your Loss Spiritually

      9. What Can We Practically Do for Ourselves When Grieving?

      10. Filling the Hole Left Behind

      11. The Results of Good Grief

      12. A Road to Revival

      Biographical Sketch

      FOREWORD

      GOOD GRIEF

      If hurt hasn’t yet happened to you, somehow, sometime, it surely will. And if we do suffer such a set of circumstances, one way or another, you and I must learn how to handle human heartache. Grief, says my friend Dr. Tamara Winslow, is one of the biggest problems in our human race and yet oddly enough, one of the least understood by any of us. Our whole world is full of it. Half our love songs sing about what happened when we never had it, ever experienced it or lost it. We all need to know how to handle this hurt.

      Yet we have not been left alone to try to face this, and not been left without a Friend, One who can be even for us more close than a brother. This small book grew out of another much larger major study in the making by this deeply gifted lady of the Lord in what we also all need to face in the troubles of our turbulent time; she calls the Drama Of Trauma.

      Tamara knows what she is talking about. as you will see when you read this. She has the credentials, the experience and prophetic insight for a real Biblical answer to this question: Even when it doesn’t feel possible, is there is life after grief? Songs say it:

      Just yesterday morning they let me know you were gone

      Suzanne, the plans they made, they put an end to you

      I walked out this morning and then I wrote down this song

      I just can’t remember who to send it to. (James Taylor)

      How can you use this in your own life? Something as serious and secondly, as significant as this is broken down, like Jesus disciples, into 12 separate sections. Pick the ones you need most or go through all sections from the start. Semi-quotes of some of these gems:

      "Sorrow may seduce you to hold it all in and go the journey alone. Distractions needed won’t replace re-building. Familiarity can still be your friend if you let it. But good grief gone wrong can bring to an aching breaking heart, "like a huge ball of rope burrowed up in the belly of a mourner’s midsection, the unbroken ball and chain of sad stories, unrealized dreams or un-forgiven hurts - and all linked to un-healed grief."

      When it rains it pours:

      I’ll never let you see - the way my broken heart is hurting me

      I’ve got my pride and I know how to hide - All the sorrow and pain

      I’ll do my crying in the rain - (A-Hah/ Everly Brothers)

      "Rotten fruit falls from a (family-fractured) tree. Yet to refuse to choose to forgive, not only binds you to the past, but prevents you from any future freedom to get over sorrow. It isn’t worth it to hold a grudge against whoever or whatever caused your loss and pain.

      Look down upon me Jesus - You’ve gotta help me make a stand

      You’ve just got to see me through - another day

      My body is still aching and my time is at hand

      I just won’t make it - any other way (Fire and Rain)

      Grieving people say things they wouldn’t normally say to God in prayer. But that’s not always a bad thing. Pain has a way of pushing your real beliefs to the top so that you express them like you wouldn’t have done before. An accumulation of grief hardens the heart. Further sorrow then magnifies old pain. Those of us left behind must come to grips with the hole in our lives. But how do you fill the hole that they left in your heart?

      I’m still here, though I’m gone - Can’t play guitar or sing my songs …

      You're the last person I will love - You're the last face I will recall ….

      … All the hurt and all the pain - One last selfishness remains -

      I’m not gonna miss you (Glen Campbell)

      No. "There never are perfect words for the pain we will experience. But you can begin to repair the empty space left behind; shifting your focus from yourself and your pain;

      and to share your heart with someone else also hurting. (Connie Francis called it Breaking in a Brand-New Broken Heart.) A hole won’t be so hurtful if you take time to help another; you can help patch a hurting heart with holy hugs."

      You can see it happen in your life.

      Winkie Pratney -

      February 14th 2017

      (Valentines Day)

      PREFACE

      Why a book about grief? Maybe we should ask; why not? Due to conversations with people from around the globe I’ve concluded that one of the greatest problems in our world is that folks are deeply hurting. No matter how much counseling they receive, the variety of their medications, or even the well-meant efforts of Christian ministers, people who need help can’t seem to find it or overcome the effects of destructive forms of grief. What’s more, there is a genuine lack of Biblical understanding pertaining to the subject. It’s like the many-faceted types of grief, and all the emotions related to it, are tossed into a brown paper bag, shaken up and then treated as if there’s no difference of one type from another. The generalization of grief, and the lack of revelation and practical knowledge that’s necessary to pray for and help the mourner, has generated a huge problem. So instead of being able to get past the pain of their losses, broken hearted souls are given a small psychological bandage and told just get over it. But they’re still miserable. So, why a book on grief? People need answers, that’s why.

      This material should not be considered as a clinical solution for grief. Though there are many references to scientific research, I don’t claim to be a psychologist or grief clinician. However, having been in ministry for 38 years, and having had ministered to people struggling with grief, I have come to understand the importance of looking at both sides of an issue. For that reason, I refer to numerous significant articles, books and studies that expound on the current psychological angle of loss and grief. My goal, however, is not to totally dismiss what grief clinicians have learned because many of those things are very helpful. But then again, Christians especially need to be presented with a Biblical perspective on how to walk through grief, while at the same time becoming aware of things that have been learned and are helpful in the psychological world. Many of those discoveries confirm what the Bible prescribes. Yet even with the new ideas and research people feel stuck. Significantly, the Scriptures reveal that grief can be either good or bad, mostly bad. Consequently, if grief can be addressed for what it is, and mourners can be instructed in Biblical, spiritual and practical remedies, the standstill might be remedied. It’s something that should concern us all because at some time in our lives we will deal with loss. It’s not if, it’s when.

      Having personally walked through many aspects and types of grief, I’ve experienced the Lord’s hand take me past the pain and lead me gradually into His plan and possibilities. I am very cognizant of how complicated this subject is. Nevertheless, I’m trusting God to bring breakthrough, healing, wisdom and faith to everyone who reads these messages. I believe that as you do so, you will find your way to the healing and obtain the comfort that God has made available to you through redemption and practical Christian living.

      INTRODUCTION

      This book began for two reasons. I needed to write a chapter about the subject of grief, specifically traumatic grief, for my upcoming book THE DRAMA OF TRAUMA. I was also desperately needing to get my teaching newsletter out. So, to kill two birds with one stone, I decided to write an article that I anticipated would end up being about ten pages long. However, the deeper I dug, the more I grappled with the complexity of what grief is. Scripturally speaking, there are dozens of Hebrew and Greek words translated and related to the subject of grief. After having researched and compiled all the Bible passages and the ancient vocabulary describing grief, I cut and pasted a collection of verses that totaled about 80 pages of references in a very small font. The article kept growing larger and larger and eventually into it swelled into a mini book. I didn’t anticipate this. Nonetheless, the enormity of the topic, as well as the immensity of the need in the lives of people all around me, forced me to develop this material further. It is my prayer and hope that this unexpected venture into the world of people’s sadness will help them work through their loss no matter what type it may be. Honestly, I’ve been a bit taken aback at how many folks are struggling. For that reason, I’ve interviewed many individuals, all of who’ve experienced a wide range of losses and sorrows, and nearly all of them have not been able to find genuine, practical help for recovering from their pain. So, with that in mind this book has been written.

      Good Grief? probably seems like a strange title considering that most people don’t think there’s anything good about grief. For that reason, I’ve endeavored to put together a Biblical and basic clinical overview so that you can locate what you’re going through and consequently find a way to cope, process, positively manage and specifically, overcome whatever situation has shattered you.

      You’ll discover that there is a great disparity in helpful understanding, and a wide difference of opinion per the definitions and types of grief identified in

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