Gender Diverse Parenting: A Raising My Boychick Collection
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Arwyn Daemyir, parent and gender advocate, eloquently and persuasively presents both the whys and hows of parenting with gender diversity in this collection of highly praised essays. Improving upon the limitations of yesteryear's "gender neutral parenting", Gender Diverse Parenting widens what is available to both us and our children as we navigate the broad spectrum of gender together as families. Rather than trying to coerce our children into uniform unisex genders, or eliminate gender altogether, Arwyn points to a world with freedom and diversity around gender. In creating this freedom, we create families where children who may reveal themselves to be lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender don't have to worry about rejection or disappointment, but are secure and confident in themselves, their gender, and their sexuality. Includes an essay on the cultural fascination with transgender children from activist, author, and theorist Dr Emily McAvan. Arwyn Daemyir earned international notoriety and frequent acclaim with her blog Raising My Boychick, which chronicled her life and thoughts around gender, parenting, and kyriarchy from 2009-2012.
Arwyn Daemyir
Arwyn Daemyir earned international notoriety and frequent acclaim with her blog Raising My Boychick, which chronicled her life and thoughts around gender, parenting, and kyriarchy from 2009-2012. She originated and popularized the concept of Gender Diverse Parenting, that is, raising children while keeping in mind their potential trans-ness. Her writing has appeared in Supporting Transgender and Gender Creative Youth: Schools, Families, and Communities in Action, The Good Mother Myth, Bitch Media, Global Comment, SuperInteresante, and others. She is a licensed massage therapist and owner of Holding Space Massage, specializing in body positive massage for fat, trans, queer, and/or young people. She lives and parents in Portland, Oregon, USA.
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Gender Diverse Parenting - Arwyn Daemyir
Raising My Boychick:
Gender Diverse Parenting
Copyright 2015 Arwyn Daemyir
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Table of Contents
Introduction
This is why it matters
Raising him purple: a defense of gender neutrality in early childhood
Transgender Child Awareness Week: December 5-11, 2010
Gender neutral parenting, gender stereotyping, and the 'genderless baby'
10 Myths About Gender Neutral Parenting
Gender Diverse Parenting: A Primer
Writings on a baby's body
Guest post: Why does the media show transgender children more sympathetically?
A question of pronouns: two conversations on gender
Braiding Gender
On gender diverse parenting versus parenting a gender creative kid
About the Author and Other Works
Introduction
From the end of 2008 to November 2012, I wrote a blog about my life as a parent, and thus about politics (in the broader sense, not so much the who-gets-elected-this-term way), gender, marginalization and privilege, bodies, children, mothers, mental health, disability, and so much more. The community around the blog grew rapidly, sparking conversations both on and off the site, with running guest series on parenting as well as anonymous confessionals, and one of the most vibrant, intelligent comment sections I've ever witnessed.
Of course, being a woman with opinions online, especially a crazy fat queer woman with children, brings other types of comments, ones that were not as supportive of my wellbeing, and, for a large number of reasons but including my ever-increasing dread at opening my inbox or looking at the comments waiting approval (or, frequently, rejection), I ceased. For years, that was all.
In 2015, however, I was persuaded by a dear friend and fellow intersectional fat activist to convert the blog into an ebook. Their idea was simple, a wholesale conversion of blog to book. My dream was to currate a well-edited Best Of collection. What came into being was something both more and less than each of our separate ideas: three primary volumes, of entirely my own writings, not overlapping in content (though, of course, overlapping heavily in subject matter), curated but not edited, loosely organized around the three main topics of the blog: Parenting, Body, and Kyriarchy.
This volume, Gender Diverse Parenting, pulls from each of these volumes and adds a guest post from theorist and writer Emily McAvan, to present my collective thoughts on gender and parenting in one place.
A note on content: With essays going back as far as 2008, there are ideas, word choices and framings that do not reflect contemporary appropriate language nor my current beliefs. They remain here, though, both because history is vitally important if we are to continue to improve upon the past, and, often, because there is, wrapped in imperfections, something important inside each. I offer them to you, unedited, because we each are works in progress, and seeing where we have come from and accepting our mistakes, with compassion and dedication to learn, is our human right, and the only way we will ever grow beyond the kyriarchy that currently limits our lives.
Gender Diverse Parenting
This is why it matters
Hellen G commented on my post 'there's my rabbit Bob…' that:
many trans people know from a very early age that they have a gender identity issue, even if we don't necessarily have the words to describe it – I was about 5 when I knew