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    Motivations of the Empath: Empath as Archetype, #3
    Motivations of the Empath: Empath as Archetype, #3
    Motivations of the Empath: Empath as Archetype, #3
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    Motivations of the Empath: Empath as Archetype, #3

    By Elaine LaJoie

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    The Empath, or highly sensitive, artistic, intuitive person, wants bonded, happy family relationships, a soul mate partnership, and a career involving her creativity.  Yet many times the Empath becomes caught in lose-lose situations in both her relationships and her career.  In this book learn how to unravel the most common binds for Empaths that can form in relationships, in creative endeavors, and in the development of intuitive gifts.  

    This book describes the Empath as an Enneagram Archetype, or Type Four.  Also covered are other common Empaths, including the Empathic Hero, the Sensitive Scientist, and the Giving Persona.  Elaine describes how to use shamanic techniques to move past fears and blocks around creativity, and how Empaths need more self-care than others.  She also describes the typical relationship Empaths tend to have with their parents, and how Empaths can move past that old programming so they create the relationships they desire.

    The author, Elaine La Joie, has spent ten years as a shaman and certified life coach specifically helping Empaths with their personal transformation so they can create happier, more fulfilled lives and relationships.  Motivations of the Empath is the third in the series, Empath as Archetype, in which Elaine shows her clients how overarching patterns common to Empaths can change using shamanic perspectives and healing techniques.

    Other volumes in this series:  The Empath and the Drama Triangle, The Empath and Shamanic Energy Work, The Empath and Shadow Work, and The Empath and the Fan-Hero Family System.  Each volume builds on the previous volumes.  Visit Elaine's website at www.elainelajoie.com for more resources for Empaths.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherElaine LaJoie
    Release dateSep 22, 2015
    ISBN9781513072814
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      Motivations of the Empath - Elaine LaJoie

      DEDICATION

      To Grant:  Without your mirror I wouldn’t have seen clearly enough to write this book!

      CONTENTS

      ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

      This book would not have been possible without my clients.  Many of these stories are their stories.  I have been so honored to work with so many Empaths and their loved ones in helping them heal their relationships and step into their best lives.

      1 INTRODUCTION

      Are you an Empath? Do you tune into the feelings and emotions of the people around you? Do you feel overwhelmed by stimulation that other people find normal or invigorating? Are you passionate, romantic, and artistic? Do you wish you were more creative, or are you already pursuing your creativity but wish it took up more of your life? Do you crave deep connections with others, especially a partner? Have you had what others would call paranormal or psychic experiences? Do you feel unique, different than most people around you? Would you love to be part of a community but feel like you are too introverted to create one? Do other people naturally confide in you? Do you catch colds after spending too much time with people you don’t like or who are crazy-making? Do you feel pessimistic or anxious much of the time but you know that you are supposed to be joyfully consumed by a dream or a project? If you answered yes to most of these questions, you are what I like to call a Classic Empath, or a Type Four on the Enneagram.

      The Empath has the ability to feel the emotions and physical sensations of the people around her, especially those people she loves. Empaths tend to have highly sensitive nervous systems, which can lead to being easily overwhelmed by outside stimuli such as loud noises or crowds, or by inner stimuli such as our emotional state and physical sensations. Empaths are usually very observant as well. This combination of sensitivity and heightened awareness makes the Empath very intuitive. If the Empath grows up in a crazy-making family the Empath’s sensitivity is usually used to navigate a chaotic world. The Empath unconsciously uses her gifts to respond to what is needed in the group around her. Her responsiveness leads the Empath to fulfill whatever role is required in the family or the group.

      From the shaman’s perspective, our beliefs, whether we are conscious of them or not, or whether they originated from us or not, create our lives. The Spiritual Enneagram is an interesting archetypal personality system because it is based on beliefs and motivations rather than on behavior. So, if we can understand and refine our core belief system, which the Enneagram describes well, we can effect great change in our lives. All Type Fours that I have worked with are Empaths, but there are Empaths whose motivations are better described by other types that I will cover briefly later in this eBook.

      One hallmark of the Classic Empath is our tendency to be caught up in the emotional whirlwind of our relationships and our inner experience; in other words, we tend to believe that emotions and feelings are of utmost importance when we make decisions about the course of our lives.  As discussed in the Shamanic Energy Work eBook, in shamanic terms Empaths have trouble on the Symbolic plane, which encompasses our emotions. Changing beliefs on the Mythic plane can lead to great healing for our many times turbulent emotional state. You do not need to understand the Enneagram to follow the descriptions of the Empath; however, I have found the Enneagram to be very helpful for clients who are ensnared in the personal perspective on that Symbolic plane and who need a bird’s eye view of what may be motivating them and their loved ones in their relationships.

      Let’s take a look at the Healthy Empath’s Gifts.

      2 GIFTS OF THE CLASSIC EMPATH

      Empaths can inspire others to be comfortable with their own individuality

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      The healthy Empath is comfortable with herself; she allows her true nature to shine through regardless of the reactions of others, both positive and negative. It takes courage to take off the mask or refuse a role. When the Empath does so, she offers inspiration to others in similar situations.

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      Empaths offer a sense of safety to others

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      The unhealthy Empath find ways to conform to the group by selling herself out. The healthy Empath risks permanent separation from the group by daring to be true to herself. Healthy Empaths are accepting of differences and of individuality; we wind up becoming the social glue for our group because we offer such a deep sense of safety to others. We understand the need to belong; when we’re healthy, we allow others to belong. We naturally form the community we always wanted.

      The healthy Empath has a way of making others feel special and feel like their best selves. Our taking personal responsibility for our lives and for what makes us happy based on our individuality is the first step of the conscious spiritual journey, that Soul’s journey on the Mythic plane. Once the Empath embarks on her spiritual journey, it is easier to see that all people are also on journey, but we are each at our own place. The need to fix others begins to lessen, and instead the Empath can allow others their own pace on their Soul’s Journey without becoming disillusioned with others’ faults. We can still be compassionate but set limits with others we might have let hurt us before we learned how to honor our own boundaries.

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      Healthy Empaths Form Easy, Drama-Free Relationships

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      The healthy Empath has no judgments about other’s behavior and feels free to walk away if she deems the relationship unhealthy for her, so she has no need to influence or to fix situations. Others can be as they are. The healthy Empath does not manage the emotional energy of her relationships—others are allowed their emotional state. Others tend to respond to a non-judgmental Empath with feelings of comfort and gratitude. Partnerships become about bringing out the best in each other while offering support and encouragement. Relationships tend to become easy and drama-free.

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      Empaths Understand Emotions and People

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      The healthy Empath learns to not take her emotions so seriously. Her willingness to experience dark emotions and to examine her behavior are great strengths, ones that the Empath tends to overlook. Our willingness to see our dark behavior and call ourselves on it makes us ethical beings. We look at our own foibles, feel remorse, and change our behavior. We see others behave in the same way and we feel compassion rather than judgment. We become principled but compassionate; we start seeing the bigger picture and different points of view.

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      The Empath can be a good Shaman and Healer

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      The healthy Empath’s skill in seeing the motivations of others can be used for

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