The Skinny on Being Skinny: A Memoir
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Natalie Packer
Natalie Packer is an education consultant specialising in SEN and school improvement. Having previously worked for the National Strategies SEN team and as an LA adviser for SEN, as well as having been a head teacher, Natalie has a significant amount of experience within the education sector. She runs a range of professional development courses, carries out SEN reviews and is an associate consultant for nasen.
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The Skinny on Being Skinny - Natalie Packer
the skinny on being skinny
Copyright © 2012 by Natalie Packer
All rights reserved. Neither this publication nor any part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the author.
All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. Scripture quotations marked KJV are from The Holy Bible, King James Version. Copyright © 1977, 1984, Thomas Nelson Inc., Publishers.
EPUB Version ISBN: 978-1-77069-650-1
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Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication
Packer, Natalie, 1978-
The skinny on being skinny : a memoir / Natalie Packer.
ISBN 978-1-77069-529-0
1. Packer, Natalie, 1978- --Health. 2. Eating disorders--
Patients--Religious life. 3. Eating disorders--Patients--
Biography. 4. Self-esteem--Religious aspects--Christianity.
5. Body image in women--Religious aspects--Christianity.
I. Title.
BV4910.35.P33 2012 248.8’627 C2012-901820-1
This story could not have occurred without the grace of God, who allowed me to live to tell it. It has been extremely hard to write, for fear that it will hurt people’s feelings, when all I desire is for it to be informative. I am extremely sensitive and can grasp why people may be hurt by it, but I want to thank everyone for allowing me to be honest so that we can help others.
I dedicate this book to the man who allowed me
to see myself through God’s perfect vision:
Andrew… thanks.
And to our son, Holden,
forever my love.
For my days vanish like smoke;
my bones burn like glowing embers.
My heart is blighted and withered like grass;
I forget to eat my food.
Because of my loud groaning
I am reduced to skin and bones…
In the course of my life he broke my strength;
he cut short my days.
So I said: "Do not take me away, O my God, in the midst of my days;
your years go on through all generations."
(Psalm 102:3–5, 23–24)
…and my heart is wounded within me.
I fade away like an evening shadow;
I am shaken off like a locust.
My knees give way from fasting;
my body is thin and gaunt.
I am an object of scorn to my accusers;
when they see me, they shake their heads.
Help me, O Lord my God;
save me in accordance with your love.
Let them know that it is your hand,
that you, O Lord, have done it.
(Psalm 109:22–27)
table
of contents
Foreword
Prologue
1: A Charmed Life
2: Charmed or Harmed?
3: The Great Rejection
4: And the Genes Have It
5: The Bitter Pathway to Success
6: Coping…
7: Still Coping…
8: Hoping…?
9: Moping…
10: Fate?
11: Not Fate, God
12: Our Hurricane-Free, Ed-Free Honeymoon
13: A Period: The End of the Beginning
14: My Wise Man Didn’t Bring Gold, Frankincense or Myrrh
15: Freedom in Faith
Epilogue: One Year Later
Photo Album
Resource Guide
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak.
—Ecclesiastes 3:7 (KJV)
Foreword
Anorexia nervosa—a hot topic, a Hollywood trend, a deadly disease. For those who are afflicted with the illness, it consumes them—physically and mentally. For the families who are battling to save their loved ones, it torments and taunts them. For friends of the affected, it isolates them and renders them powerless to help. For the medical community, it confounds and evades their efforts to cure. It is an illness that goes against our very instinct to live and nourish ourselves and aims to starve its victims to death.
These are the harsh realities of an illness that has a prevalence rate of approximately one percent of the population. The target of this disease is predominantly young women who are competitive, goal-oriented, and perfectionists.
I have worked with young men and women affected by this illness for the past fifteen years. I have met so many talented, intelligent, and wonderful people battling for their lives against this deadly disease. Approximately ten percent of individuals with anorexia nervosa will die within ten years of onset of the disease. This is the highest mortality of any psychiatric illness. The battle waged by the medical profession, the family and friends, and ultimately the patient spans many years. According to statistics from the National Eating Disorder Information Centre of Canada, the average duration of an eating disorder is 8.3 years. This timeframe takes immense tolls on the loved ones of an individual with the eating disorder, not to mention what it does to the individuals themselves.
I met Natalie in the spring of 2001. She was a beautiful, intelligent young woman of twenty-two years. She had already been battling her eating disorder for three years. She recognized her illness and acknowledged that she needed help in her battle. She had suffered many of the physical symptoms of an eating disorder. Her problems included thinning hair, constipation, easy bruising, palpitations, insomnia, chest pain, mood swings, and depression. She struggled to accept help but knew it was necessary. She fought a battle that saw her weight go up and down, often bringing her emotions with it. She saw specialists for the more serious medical problems that began to appear. She was often afraid of where she was heading, but would then be dragged down again by the stubborn demons of her disease.
Natalie’s story is honest and revealing. It gives the reader a look at the power and terror of this disease. Natalie shares her darkest moments, her inability to break away from the power of this disease in her life, and how she struggled to rebuild her body and relationships to a healthier place.
There is no one moment, no particular circumstance that causes
an eating disorder to happen to an individual like Natalie; rather, it is the collision of many factors of personality, genetics, environment, and life stressors. The cure, and especially the road to cure, is much more personal. This part of the story is about Natalie’s desire to be well, her support systems, and the treatment facility that rekindled the role of spirituality in her life. Her story is one of hope and success. She has brought herself to a better place and the journey, although painful and treacherous, has an uplifting ending.
—Dr. Andrea Steen, MD, CCFP
prologue
On my most recent birthday, I was given a gift. It might not have seemed like much to some people—just a book with a scattering of handwritten passages throughout. But those handwritten words marked a milestone in my journey.
In the words of the author, You had the courage to face a demon that was eating you alive. It took a strong woman with much spirit to travel those miles and stare down that demon and come out stronger.
While I agree there was a demon eating me alive, I cannot take full credit for overcoming my battle against anorexia.
My story is not one boasting of my success in defeating anorexia, nor one speaking of my perfect life in recovery. It is a story of honesty and humility and the grace and forgiveness that allowed me to fill the empty hole inside, to gain the courage to face every day anew.
This is the skinny on being skinny.
a
charmed
life
My life growing up was what every child would dream of. My parents were both teachers—my dad taught full-time, selling real estate on the side, and my mom was a substitute teacher, allowing her to spend much of her time with us kids.