Getting Him To Stay

Disclaimer

In most practical advice books, just like in so many other things in this life, there are no guarantees of one having a successful relationship just by reading a self-help manual on relationship like this book. This is mainly because success depends upon so many other factors and what works for one person might not necessarily work for another person.

So I will only be the greatest liar on earth if I claim the principles I will be discussing in this guide will work on every man because I am aware that human beings can be unpredictable.

I also know that individual differences vary and personal effort matters a lot and that cannot be neglected. Therefore the advice contained in this guide might not be suitable for everyone.

This book is purely for entertainment purposes. I specifically designed the information to present my own opinion about the subject matter. So readers are cautioned to rely on their own judgment concerning their individual circumstances to act accordingly.

This material is not intended for use as a source of relationship advice. All readers are advised to seek services of competent professionals in dating and relationship matters.

Yours sincerely as always,

Emmy Boy

Table of Contents

DEDICATION

Disclaimer

Introduction

Before We Start…

Why You Should Not Listen To Me

The Different Types of Men Out There

Why do I Want Him?

Where Are the Guys?

Part One: Getting Him

How to Attract Him

Your Eyes

Your smile

Master Your flirting

Your attitude and behavior

Your Ability to play ‘Hard to get’

Your Dressing

Your Knowledge, Versatility and Expertise

Your Value System

Reciprocal Liking

Your Coyness and Naivety

Let Him See You With Another Guy

Part Two: Getting Him to Stay

Master the 8 Ingredients of a Happy Relationship

Make Him to Trust You

Show Him that You Believe In Him

Watch that Narcissist Instinct – I, Me and Myself

Don’t Be a Beggar

Show Your Gratitude

Put A Value on Yourself

Cleanliness is next to Godliness

Watch that Tongue

Communicate

Show Your Fun Side

Your Everyday Behavior

Pay Great Attention to that Mind Games

Watch that Greed

Don’t Be a Glutton

Become Sex-wise

Let’s Talk About Sex

Part Three: Men’s Secrets

The 13 ‘Dirty’ Secrets That Men Wish You Never Find Out

The One Secret That Every Man Wish You Know

The ONE Secret of Keeping a Man

Part Four: The Art of Understanding Your Man in a Relationship

Understanding Your Man and His Finances

Understanding Your Man and His Mother

Understanding Your Man and His Sex Life

Understanding Your Man and Infidelity

Understanding Your Man and His Friends

The Deal Breakers

Part Five: 10 Things I Didn’t Tell You That Can Prevent You from Getting Him

In Summary…

Other Titles By The Author

About the Author

Introduction

A woman wanting a man to love her and stay with her is perfectly normal and natural. Fact is, people are not designed to be alone all the time.

At some point or stage in her life, I believe that a lady will need a man to love her and make her feel very special. I also want to believe that every lady wants to be with at least that one man with whom she can connect with emotionally and feel cherished or loved by him.

She wants to be with that guy who will be so happy to have her in his life and is ready to accept and appreciate her and at the same time allow her to experience the joys of being with him, a guy she can completely trust.

It is a natural desire that normally brings her a lot of excitement and hope. And so, when she sets out to date guys, she does so with a heart full of joyful expectation of a blissful romantic experience with Him.

And then comes her biggest shocker!

Of course, she will sooner than later start making some startling discoveries! She will discover that rather than meeting her dream man, somehow, everywhere she turns, much to her chagrin and disappointment, it seems as if the dating field is polluted with guys who seem to be only interested in her primarily just for sex.

Chances are she is going to run into some chronic liars and deceivers, smooth operators, so many man-babies, some unrepentant jerks, and drug addicts, users and abusers, and even sociopaths, ambitionless men who are not making or have no plans of making any headway in their lives, men with baby mama issues, men with serious low self-esteem, men who just don’t want to settle down, sometimes gay guys turn up too, and what have you.

After seriously searching (or waiting) for sometime without much luck for that very dream guy of hers to turn up, she starts finding herself in a troubled state of melancholy when she starts asking herself this very unanswered question: where are all the good men?

At this stage, most especially after several trials and failures plus heartbreaks, some ladies might just completely give up on men and conclude that it is not their luck to find true love while some others might start buying into the disturbing notion that all men are bad.

Some other ladies might even take this further by rationalizing such a decision by concluding that they don’t actually need a man to be happy. Well, there are some ladies who can actually work with such mindset. Good for them, if that is their wish.

But I have no doubts in my mind that there are still so many ladies out there who cannot do so because from the expression of unhappiness and despair I sometimes see on their faces and from what they say, and from their general attitude to life, sometimes I just get the feeling that that they know they still need a man after all.

This is because since we cannot cheat nature, instinctively, we already know that it really feels so great to feel so complete knowing that there’s that special someone who finds us attractive and will not hesitate to tell us how beautiful we are —and will always want to be with us —and will cheer us up when we are down—and will always pamper and care for us —and will be willing to do so many good things for us —and will love and continue to love us —no matter what.

But then, let’s not forget that on the other hand, some other ladies might just get so lucky in their quest and quickly land themselves the type of man they want.

Only for her to confront a new type of different problem altogether…

You see, the thing is that to the uninformed woman starting out with dating guys, and even to some of the so-called experienced women in the ‘dating game’, men just seem to be so exasperatingly incomprehensible at times.

She might find men very confusing almost to the point of hysteria and she keeps on wondering and asking herself questions like what do men really want and what is exactly wrong with men in general, or what is actually the problem why her man is unable to see how much she loves him and how much she is willing to do anything for him and as such return her love.

Of course, part of her ‘problem’ at this point is that she also wants that man who will stay with her for as long as forever but it is as if all she does to get and keep the guy’s attention will always come to naught because no matter what she does, the guys end up leaving her or seem not to be all that interested after all at the end of day.

That would be when you start hearing statements like All men are the same, All men are heartless, All men are dogs…all they want is just to use you and dump you, All men are bad!, All men are worthless…, All men are this…, All men are that… and so on and so forth.

Her thoughts will also start going like this: Am I that unattractive? Am I not beautiful or attractive enough for him? Is he even thinking about me? What exactly does he really want? What exactly is his problem? How will I ever get him to stay? Am I only good to warm his bed? Will he ever propose? Why is he suddenly acting this strange? Is he planning on dumping me? But, I thought he loved me?

And her worries multiply alongside with these disturbing questions…

At this point, she will even come to realize that getting a man to stay is tougher than getting his attention in the first place.

Her greatest problem might be how to actually attract a man and/or how to keep his attention for long. Of course, things can get to a stage where she is going to discover that attraction is actually a volatile thing and the art of keeping a man is quite tricky because it usually works like this: one moment she thinks she has gotten him, the next moment she starts wondering what happened and where she had gone wrong, why is he’s no longer interested and whether he was only taking her for a ride.

So is there anything that can be done instead?

Of course, of course…that’s why we are here. I bring you the good news. First, I am glad you recognized that when it comes to getting a guy to stay, it all starts from attraction because I don’t think anyone will like to be with the person s/he is not attracted to.

But the plan here is to bring to your awareness some of those things that can make a man to see you and get attracted to you by looking beyond the physical.

In other words, we are going to develop your inner self which will help you to be radiating those rare attractive qualities that make men to stay and never look back or elsewhere when they start seeing you as a unique being different from the other women they might have previously encountered at some point in their lives.

How possible is this?

I’d say very.

In fact, I am still bringing you some more good news. And the rest of this guide is to bring to your awareness some of those things a man who really wants to get serious with you might just be looking out for to see in you.

So, in the following discussion we are going to have, I am going to be as frank as possible. I am going to be telling those things that can make a very big difference as to whether a man will want to commit to you or whether he’s going to take a hike.

Is that not something you want? You bet.

Listen. I will be talking to you just like a loving father or a protective elder brother, full of experience, who is advising his daughter or sister whom he truly has nothing but genuine love and interests at heart would, okay?

Well, I don’t know if you actually know what that means so let me break it down for you. Well, it means that I have every right to scold and raise my voice at you, you know, just like Daddy would. *winks*

But trust me, I won’t be pulling any punches because I will tell it to you exactly the way it is—straight and direct!

And lest I forget, I am going to be doing all that from a man’s perspective.

So don’t be angry, (okay you can just be angry a lil), when and if you ever find me sounding biased, after all, I’m still a guy and as a guy am I not supposed to side with the guys, huh? That’s what I mean by from a man’s perspective!

Okay, fine.

As you will soon find out, some of these things I am going to say, I believe you know already, some, I believe you might have heard before, while some you might not have.

But even if you have, I want you to consider these pointers as a reinstatement of the facts you already knew but you still have to watch out because I am sure there will definitely be something you’ve never heard before – about men.

And if you are just hearing them for the first time, you are so welcome. Please feel free to enjoy them and become empowered in the process.

One other thing, I would like to add that I would so much love it if you would see these viewpoints of mine in the form of me telling you what you should know rather than what you should do to make your man stay.

Why do I say this?

Of course, since I am aware of the fact that because people are so different and we all have our respective idiosyncrasies, it means that sometimes, when you tell someone to do something; most especially when it comes to something as volatile or dynamic as relationships, chances are they might bungle it or not do it properly. And like I stated earlier in my disclaimer, what works for one person might not work for another one.

Secondly, telling people what they should do seems a little bit dictatorial to me with all that issuing of orders thus making the whole experience to look like a very huge task where it should be just pure fun.

This, I really want to avoid.

So, I think we will be better if I say now that the things I am going to tell you are the things you are expected to know about men. I think it is safer that way.

But please I want you to promise me that in whatever you do with whatever you are going to learn from me, you will always remember that you have a right to be happy because your happiness is what matters the most to me, is that okay?

Did I hear you say yes?

Good. If you really gave me a resounding yes, then join me in the following pages where we get down to the nitty-gritty on how to get inside a man’s head and learn how to get him to stay.

Before We Start…

The general who wins the battle makes many calculations in his temple before the battle is fought. The general who loses makes but a few calculations beforehand – Sun Tzu

Why You Should Not Listen To Me

Before we start, I think it’s wise to tell you some things about me first. These things might help you in understanding where I am coming from as well as to consider the veracity or sensibility in the things I am going to be telling you.

So first, a little of my background...

Listen girl, if you ever meet me in real life, I’m sure you will like me. This is because I easily get along with people. These are some of the first things you will notice about me. Playfulness is one. Okay, I talk too much, joke a lot, and play a lot almost to a fault. And if you ever consider or call me unserious, I wouldn’t be so surprised.

But that’s me. I like to keep things that way.

So that means I don’t even expect you to take anything I am going to say to you that serious. Of course,