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    Grief: Let's Talk
    Grief: Let's Talk
    Grief: Let's Talk
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    Grief: Let's Talk

    By Jean M. Kraemer, MA, LPC

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    Jean has created a down-to-earth, helpful guide for those who are grieving—"those who are intensely and appropriately grieving," she writes. Her wisdom obviously flows out of her extensive work with the bereaved as a hospice professional. Her conversational style, her practical advice, and her honest perspective all make for genuine support at a critical juncture in one's life. Her book will give anyone who's intensely grieving the help and hope they need and deserve.
    --James E. Miller
    Willowgreen Inc.
    When Mourning Dawns, What Will Help Me?/How Can I Help?, How Will I Get Through the Holidays?, One You Love Has Died, A Pilgrimage Through Grief, The Art of Being a Healing Presence, The Art of Listening in a Healing Way, Finding Hope, Effective Support Groups, Helping the Bereaved Celebrate the Holidays, When a Man Faces Grief/A Man You Know Is Grieving

    Grief can be a constant companion as we cope with the loss of a loved one. It has many faces that Jean Kraemer has so effectively described here in this booklet. I would try to escape my grief, but it would come back to me when I relived my tragedy over and over again. So often I was full of emotion wondering, "Did I love enough, did I say it enough before my dear one died?" I lost my husband in the fall of 2008, just after he became President of the American Medical Association. Ron went for a check up to find out why he was feeling nauseas and a battery of tests revealed pancreatic cancer. He was gone in eight months. My grief was profound, and while there were times I could smile, there were many days of intense sadness. I felt disconnected from life sometimes, however I lived it every day, going through a daily routine. Thoughts of Ron were with me always, and I knew my life had changed, but I wasn't sure how to adapt to life without someone I had been with for 30 years. I cried often, and I now understand what is means to cry deeply--to wail in grief. We have three sons, our youngest just 16 when Ron died. I wanted to look strong for them, but mostly I was tired and I felt so very alone. This booklet has helped me to see that there is no right way to grieve. Jean Kraemer has 20 years of grief counseling experience. Through her work I could see that I was not alone--that others had experienced what I was feeling. Jean has been with many grieving people and has helped them through the wide range of emotion that is so much a part of dealing with the death of someone we love deeply. She has even suggested helpful things we can do that may help us through our dark days. I am glad that I read this booklet and followed some of Jean's suggestions. We have all moved on and created new lives for ourselves, but Ron is with us always.
    --Nadine M. Davis, widow of Ron M. Davis, M.D.

    A refreshing and comforting perspective on grief from a bereavement counselor who truly understands what it means to grieve in today's society. I will absolutely give this book to my clients who have experienced the loss of a loved one. Not only does the book give comfort, it educates, and gives concrete ideas of how one can begin to process their grief. Well-written and a manageable read for someone who is grieving and may not want or be able to sit down to read hundreds of pages. What a wonderful resource!
    --Emily Weissman, MA, LAPC
    Child, Adolescent, and Parenting Support Therapist
    Marietta, GA

    Jean Kraemer knows how to talk about grief. Her book, Grief: Let's Talk, is insight gleaned from years of bereavement counseling. She sets the tone of a good friend while providing common sense advice to those lost in the wilderness of grief. Hers is a voice seldom heard but sorely needed. Our deepest pain is often hard to reach, but Ms. Kraemer's words go a long way to soothe the darkest despair. If you know someone who is grieving, give them a copy of this book. It says everything you'd wish you'd thought of.
    --Gale Massey
    Grief…reminders for...

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherJean M. Kraemer, MA, LPC
    Release dateAug 13, 2013
    ISBN9780989769402
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      Grief - Jean M. Kraemer, MA, LPC

      GRIEF: Let’s Talk

      Jean M. Kraemer, MA, LPC

      Grief: Let’s Talk

      Jean M. Kraemer

      Copyright © 2023, 2013 by Jean M. Kraemer, MA, LPC

      ISBN: 978-09897694-1-9

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews. Please do not participate in or encourage the piracy of copyrighted materials in violation of the author’s rights. Purchase only authorized editions.

      Dedication

      To my parents,

      who taught me all about

      unconditional love.

      Introduction

      This book is intended for those who are grieving the death of a loved person. It probably will not meet your needs if you are grieving other losses, such as divorce, illness, or job loss. It is also written to help those who are intensely and appropriately grieving. After almost 20 years of doing full–time grief counseling, I learned that most grievers want to know two things: (1) Am I grieving or am I going crazy? and (2) Will I ever be okay again? If you are grieving, you have my empathy. Let’s see how I can be helpful to you.

      To avoid the awkwardness of pronouns, I have alternated use of he and she, him and her.

      Culture and Grief

      Have you ever been watching TV and caught a glimpse of a mourning person in a developing country? Often there is beating of the breast, tearing of the hair, falling to the ground, and wailing. We think it looks extreme. Is it? In reality, this is how the person was enculturated to mourn. This is what is expected of a mourner in his or her culture. If you are reading this in the Western world, you know that we are taught to feel our sadness in private. And calmly. Sure, we’re permitted to cry at the funeral, but then we’d better get on with our lives.

      Remember how years ago people used to wear black for a specified amount of time after the death of someone loved? This was an outward sign of grief. It let others know to approach the person sensitively and was a reminder (both to the mourner and to others) that his or her life was different. Changed.

      In our culture, everything has to be accomplished quickly: fast food, speedy oil changes, texting,

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