Going Back: How childhood memories can unlock your future potential
By S V Gogarty
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Today, everyone is more and more aware of their psychological well-being. They are preoccupied with the thought of ‘fixing’ themselves and finding a path to happiness that has been denied to them as a result of negative events during their past. They accept guilt and blame for these experiences which, they believe, have left them psychologically scarred for life.
The fact that they blame themselves, or their parents, is in itself a symptom of their negative childhood experiences. They need to recall and analyze these unhelpful memories in order to let them go. This book is a roadmap for such self-analysis and cure. It identifies the reader’s negative personality traits and then takes them back to the traumatic events that triggered the problem. It enables the reader to re-live the trauma in order to overcome it.
S V Gogarty
Engineer with wife, dog and three teenager, living in Dublin (Ireland), likes music and sailing.
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Going Back - S V Gogarty
GOING BACK
SV Gogarty
Published by GoGo Books at Smashwords.com
Copyright 2013 SV Gogarty
http://www.childhood-memories.net
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Table of Contents
Forward
Chapter 1 : Introduction
Chapter 2 : What’s Your Problem?
Chapter 3 : Remembering the Past
Chapter 4 : Write it Down
Chapter 5 : Heroes & Villains
Chapter 6 : Analyze the Event
Chapter 7 : Be Your New Self
Appendix 1 : The Going Back Procedure
Appendix 2 : Words of Emotions
Forward
None of us can help the things life has done to us. They’re done before you realize it, and once they’re done they make you do other things until at last everything comes between you and what you’d like to be, and you’ve lost your true self forever.
So wrote the playwright Eugene O’Neill in his autobiographical American tragedy, Long Day's Journey Into Night. The author believed he had achieved a detachment that would enable him expiate the demons of his childhood while writing of his parents with understanding and forgiveness.
By following the advice and exercises in Going Back the reader will be able to revisit childhood events where they feel they have failed or others have hurt them. They will get a new perspective on these events. Then, they will be able to change their behavior by adopting new feelings about what happened. This will lead them to a happier perspective on life and a healthier lifestyle.
The book gives the reader a planned system for self-therapy with the reader adapting their own thoughts and habits to turn back time and change their view of what happened. That way, they can develop their own recipe for success which will have a much higher probability of success in implementing effective and permanent changes in their lives.
I urge people not to just read this book. Follow the Going Back procedures and be a willing participant in this journey into the past. Because when you finally accept the truth about your past, you will be free to live your real life. Free of secrets, you can follow a path to greater personal growth and harmony with the world.
Chapter 1 : Introduction
‘I’m going back to the days when I was young enough to know the truth’
Carol King
Anyone can change their future if they are prepared to work hard and put their mind to it. But all the effort in the world is not going to change your past. And if you don’t listen to what your childhood memories are telling you then your determination to change your future will be made all the more difficult. If you don’t accept who you are and what you have experienced as a child, you may find yourself doomed to repeat history and that will affect not only your own life but the lives of those around you.
However, if you are prepared to look back and relive experiences of fear, abandonment, terror, humiliation, anxiety, then you have started a process of self-discovery and change. Whether you like it or not, those childhood memories hold the key to understanding who you are and you may become in the future.
A big element of your journey will be the exploration of your relationship with your parents.
The process of trying to please or imitate them goes on long after you’ve grown up and, often, long after they have passed away. That’s because our parents teach us who were are. And their response to us as children is the mirror in which we see ourselves. Every thought and feeling is determined by what happens between us and them. We copy all our reactions to the world around us from them. If they think something is bad then so do we. If they tolerate wrongdoing they so will we. Young children are in no position to see the reality of each situation or the contradictions in what their parents demand of them. So when that mirror