Unglued Bible Study Participant's Guide: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions
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The disruption of strong emotions can feel jarring. It can feel like you're coming unglued...but you can learn how make your emotions work for instead of against you.
New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst admits that she knows what it feels like to praise God one minute and in the next yell and scream at her child. She, too, wonders why she can't always be serene and control her reactions.
In this six-session video Bible study (DVD/digital video sold separately), learn how to process emotions and resolve conflicts in ways that lead to wisdom, composure, and a more peaceful life.
Filled with honest personal examples and biblical teaching, the Unglued Participant's Guide will equip you to know with confidence how to:
- Resolve conflict with wisdom and patience.
- Learn how to balance honesty and kindness when personally offended.
- Identify what type of reactor you are and how to improve your communication with others.
- Respond without regrets by managing your tendencies to shut down or explode.
Sessions include:
- Grace for the Unglued
- Freedom for the Unglued
- Four Kinds of Unglued
- A Procedure Manual for the Unglued
- Lingering Words for the Unglued
- Imperfect Progress for the Unglued
Gain a deep sense of calm by responding to situations out of your control without acting out of control.
Designed for use with the Unglued Video Study (sold separately).
Lysa TerKeurst
Lysa TerKeurst is president and chief visionary officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of six New York Times bestsellers, including Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, and It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way. She writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.
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Unglued Bible Study Participant's Guide - Lysa TerKeurst
SESSION 1
Grace for the Unglued
Welcome!
Welcome to Session 1 of Unglued. If this is your first time together as a group, take a moment to introduce yourselves to each other before watching the video. Then let’s get started!
Video: Grace for the Unglued (18 MINUTES)
Play the video segment for Session 1. As you watch, use the outline below to follow along or to take notes on anything that stands out to you.
Notes
Raw emotions — anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment — are the feelings we tend to hide from people we want to impress but spew on those we love the most.
[Your Notes]
Feelings should be indicators, not dictators.
[Your Notes]
Our goal in this study isn’t to be perfect. Our goal is to make imperfect progress.
[Your Notes]
Joshua had to settle a crucial question (Joshua 6:1 – 5).
[Your Notes]
Now when Joshua was near Jericho, he looked up and saw a man standing in front of him with a drawn sword in his hand. Joshua went up to him and asked, ‘Are you for us or for our enemies?’
(Joshua 5:13).
[Your Notes]
Joshua is talking to the presence of God.
[Your Notes]
God’s response to Joshua’s question: Neither
(Joshua 5:14a).
[Your Notes]
Joshua was asking the wrong question.
[Your Notes]
The crucial question Joshua needed to settle was, Joshua, whose side are you on?
[Your Notes]
Joshua settled that question and it gave him the courage to face his wall of impossibility.
[Your Notes]
We must settle this question as well. In our unglued situations, are we going to be on God’s side or not?
[Your Notes]
How to remain on God’s side:
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer
(Psalm 19:14, NIV 1984).
Ask yourself: What words am I speaking about this person? What thoughts am I having about this person?
1. Use truth.
[Your Notes]
2. Use self-control.
[Your Notes]
3. Use prayer.
[Your Notes]
Group Discussion
Video Debrief (5 MINUTES)
If your group meets for two hours, allow 10 minutes for this discussion.
1. What part of the video teaching had the most impact on you?
[Your Response]
From Raw Reactions to Imperfect Progress (10 MINUTES)
If your group meets for two hours, allow 20 minutes for this discussion.
2. Which of the following animals best characterizes how you tend to respond when you are in an unglued situation? Share the reasons for your response.
Wounded bear : I am hurt and unpredictable, so watch out.
Agitated skunk: I may or may not create a stink, but the threat is always there.
Deceptive peacock: Who me? I’m not upset. Look at all my pretty feathers!
Crouching tiger: I may not attack now, but I will strike back when you least expect it.
Screech owl: Prepare for a tirade!
Barricading beaver: No time to say what I’m really feeling. I’m too busy building a wall between us.
Other:
[Your Response]
3. On the video, Lysa said that the goal of this study isn’t to be perfect; the goal is to make imperfect progress—slow steps of change wrapped in grace.
• Generally speaking, what comes to mind when you think about trying to make a change? Examples: I don’t want this. Finally—something new! This is going to hurt. Change is bad. I’m excited to see what happens.
[Your Response]
• What was your initial response to Lysa’s description of imperfect progress? How was your response similar to or different from the kind of thoughts you typically have when you think about change?
[Your Response]
The Crucial Question (15 MINUTES)
If your group meets for two hours, allow 25 minutes for this discussion.
4. The book of Joshua is about conquering enemy territory. God’s people have just emerged from forty years of desert wandering and are finally ready to claim the Promised Land as their own. After spying on the enemy (Joshua 2:1 – 3) and leading his own people to recommit themselves to God (Joshua 5:2 – 12), Joshua is on his way to survey the walls of Jericho in preparation for battle. But before he arrives, he discovers that a man he does not know is there ahead of him:
Now when Joshua was near Jericho, he looked up and saw a man standing in front of him with a drawn sword in his hand. Joshua went up to him and asked, Are you for us or for our enemies?
Neither,
he replied, but as commander of the army of the LORD I have now come.
Then Joshua fell facedown to the ground in reverence, and asked him, What message does my Lord have for his servant?
The commander of the LORD’S army replied, Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy.
And Joshua did so. (Joshua 5:13 – 15)
In this brief exchange, the commander of the Lord’s army essentially says, I’m not here to take sides. I’m here to take over.
* Joshua, whom God has charged with taking possession of the land (Joshua 1:1 – 9), suddenly experiences a radical reorientation — about his role and about the battle he faces.
• How would you describe the shifts in Joshua’s perspective—specifically, what do you think changes in how he sees his role and the battle he faces?
[Your Response]
• Joshua’s first question rebounds, forcing him to ask himself a crucial question: Whose side am I on? How does this question shift your perspective about your role in the battles you face, and about the battles themselves?
[Your Response]
• What additional questions might this shift in perspective (or the story overall) stir up in you about your unglued experiences?
[Your Response]
Optional Group Discussion: David’s Impossible Battle (20 MINUTES)
If your group meets for two hours, include this discussion as part of your meeting.
1. Read aloud portions of the David and Goliath story in 1 Samuel 17:4 – 11, 45 – 47. (If time permits, it’s worthwhile to read all of chapter 17.)
2. How would you characterize the similarities and differences between Joshua’s situation and David’s situation?
3. God’s work in Joshua’s story is obvious and dramatic—the commander of the Lord’s army appears to Joshua and gives clear instructions. How do you recognize God uniquely at work in David’s story?
4. In what ways, if any, does David’s story shift your perspective about your own impossible battles? For example, how does it help you to recognize how God might be at work in your difficulties? How does it help you understand what it might mean to find the courage you need to move ahead?
Choosing God’s Side (15 MINUTES)
If your group meets for two hours, allow 25 minutes for this discussion.
5. Settling the crucial question—that he is on God’s side—gives Joshua the courage he needs to face his wall of impossibility in a new way. We may not have all the answers when we find ourselves in an unglued moment, but we can use the prayer of the psalmist to shift our perspective and to position ourselves on God’s side:
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. (Psalm 19:14, NIV 1984)
• What image would you say best characterizes your words and your thoughts when you are in an unglued situation? For example: a runaway train, an underground nuclear explosion, an iceberg. Share the reasons for your response.
[Your Response]
• Remake this same image to describe how you hope your words and thoughts might change if you could position yourself on God’s side. For example: a runaway train might become a train slowly pulling into a station to offload cargo and refuel; an underground nuclear explosion might have an emergency off
switch; an iceberg might melt into a spring-fed mountain lake.
[Your Response]
• The psalmist uses the words Rock and Redeemer to describe his relationship to God. They are words that evoke images of protection and rescue. How do you need God to protect and rescue you in your unglued moments?
[Your Response]
6. The five remaining sessions in the Unglued study explore many of the ways we come unglued and how we can use imperfect progress to make lasting changes. In addition to learning together as a group, it’s important to be aware of how God is at work among you—especially in how you relate to each other and share your lives throughout the study. As you discuss the teaching in each session, there will be many opportunities to practice giving and receiving grace, to speak life-giving — and life-challenging — words, and to listen to one another deeply.
Take a few moments to consider the kinds of things that are important to you in this setting. What do you need or want from the other members of the group? Use one or more of the sentence starters below, or your own statement, to help the group understand the best way to be a good companion to you throughout this Unglued journey. As each person responds, use the two page chart that follows to briefly note what is important to that person and how you can be a good companion to her.
It really helps me when …
I tend to withdraw or feel anxious when …
I’d like you to challenge me about …
I’ll know this group is a safe place if you …
In our discussions, the best thing you could do for me is …
Individual Activity: What I Want to Remember (2 MINUTES)
Complete this activity on your own.
1. Briefly review the outline and any notes you took.
2. In the space below, write down the most significant thing you gained in this session — from the teaching, activities, or discussions.
What I want to remember from this session …
[Your Response]
Closing Prayer
Close your