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    The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
    The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
    The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
    Audiobook13 hours

    The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

    Written by Pete Walker

    Narrated by Christopher Grove

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    About this audiobook

    The price of emotional renunciation is a constant, wasteful expenditure of energy that leaves us depressed and taciturn, imprisoned in the apathy and ennui of the "Seen-that-Been-there-Done-that" syndrome. When we surrender and soften to our feelings, we reconnect with our inborn vitality, and with the invaluable instinct and intuition that our feelings naturally carry.

    The Tao of Fully Feeling describes the middle ground of emotional aliveness that lies between emotional deadness and emotional explosiveness. It helps us to soften and relax into our feelings without exiling them or enshrining them. It guides us to be emotionally expressive in benign, intimacy-enhancing ways.

    The Tao of Fully Feeling teaches us to respond to our painful and potentially disruptive feelings in healthy ways. It illustrates the enriching aspects of the so-called negative emotions, and helps us achieve the emotional flexibility whereby sadness easily mellows into solace, anger unfolds into laughter, fear evolves into excitement, jealousy opens up into appreciation, and blame gives way to forgiveness.

    The Tao of Fully Feeling refutes the black-and-white notion that blame is never justifiable. It describes safe, non-destructive ways of feeling and expressing blame-ways that ironically enhance our capacity to feel genuine forgiveness.

    When we authentically forgive our parents, we know what we are forgiving them for, and what specifically was blameworthy about their behavior in the first place. When we forgive before we blame, we risk dragging the full weight of our childhood hurt and anger around forever, like an exhausted backpacker who is too dulled and over-trusting to notice that someone has put a boulder in his/her pack.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTantor Media, Inc
    Release dateJan 29, 2019
    ISBN9781977338167
    The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

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    • 5/5
      I listened to the Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: from Surviving to Thriving audiobook first. The Tao of Fully Feeling is a by the same author and a great accompaniment to assist in identifying and steps towards healing CPTSD. I highly recommend this book, as a non-therapist, but looking for self help advice. I could truly relate to the examples in this book.

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    • 5/5
      Must have to understanding why blame is an important part of recovery. Every therapist should read this book!

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Great book. Perspicacity and perspicuity on a really complex human subject.

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    • 5/5
      I loved this (audio)book. Considering the subject matter, I was surprised at how much I looked forward to listening. Highly recommend.

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    • 5/5
      This is a book I want to read again and again. It’s so rich, deep and helpful. I believe it touched me in a way I rarely was touched. Thank you so much.

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    • 5/5
      Though sometimes negative and potentially triggering given the subject matter, it was very insightful.
    • 5/5
      Written in 1995, the psychological concepts presented hold up quite well. A good job explaining how blame is a precursor for forgiveness, and how to increase forgiveness by increasing gentleness and self compassion.
    • 2/5
      Dedication to the tooth fairy at chapter 14. 2 star dislike