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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
Written by Tracy Schorn
Narrated by Laura Copland
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About this audiobook
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity-but saving your sanity.
When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters-their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.
Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.
When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters-their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.
Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.
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Reviews for Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Best book I have read as my marriage ended.
Was able finally accept the bull crap for what its been. Maybe the right time for me to read it but its perfect for helping you accept reality.2 people found this helpful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Funny author and with great perspectives and suggestions. Lots of good stuff and empowering.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The best book I’ve read about the reality of the person that once we called a partner . The best book on how to love yourself again , put the blame right on where it belongs , the cheater .
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book helped me see through the fog and recognize things for what they are with lighthearted comedy and brutal honesty. Loved absolutely everything about it!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I wish that I had found this book a year ago every chapter was spot-on it made me finally understand all these things that I've been battling with in my brain. Anyone who has ever been cheated on absolutely should listen to this book.