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Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self
Written by Elan Golomb
Narrated by Angela Brazil
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About this audiobook
The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for example, physical self-loathing that takes the form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Elan Golomb tells us.
With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores:
the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel
stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs
why so many of our relationships seem to be "reruns" of the past
how anger must be acknowledged to be overcome
and, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed.
With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores:
the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel
stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs
why so many of our relationships seem to be "reruns" of the past
how anger must be acknowledged to be overcome
and, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed.
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Reviews for Trapped in the Mirror
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- Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5Not helpful for the actual adult child. Might be helpful to people trying to understand someone else's experience, but not focused on healing.