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    How to Stay Sane
    How to Stay Sane
    How to Stay Sane
    Audiobook3 hours

    How to Stay Sane

    Written by Philippa Perry

    Narrated by Zoe-Anne Phillips

    3.5/5

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    About this audiobook

    An Economist Best Book of the Year

    Everyone accepts the importance of physical health; isn't it just as important to aim for the mental equivalent? Philippa Perry has come to the rescue with How to Stay Sane -- a maintenance manual for the mind.

    Years of working as a psychotherapist showed Philippa Perry what approaches produced positive change in her clients and how best to maintain good mental health. In How to Stay Sane, she has taken these principles and applied them to self-help. Using ideas from neuroscience and sound psychological theory, she shows us how to better understand ourselves. Her idea is that if we know how our minds form and develop, we are less at the mercy of unknown unconscious processes. In this way, we can learn to be the master of our feelings and not their slave.

    This is a smart, pithy, readable book that everyone with even a passing interest in their psychological health will find useful.

    The School of Life is dedicated to exploring life's big questions in highly-portable paperbacks, featuring French flaps and deckle edges, that the New York Times calls "damnably cute." We don't have all the answers, but we will direct you towards a variety of useful ideas that are guaranteed to stimulate, provoke, and console.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMacmillan Audio
    Release dateDec 24, 2012
    ISBN9781427231888
    How to Stay Sane
    Author

    Philippa Perry

    Philippa Perry is a psychotherapist who, in an attempt to demystify psychotherapy, wrote the graphic novel, Couch Fiction. She has written for The Guardian, the Observer, Time Out and Healthy Living magazine and has a regular column in Psychologies magazine. She is the author of How to Stay Sane and The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read. She lives in London and Sussex with her husband, the artist Grayson Perry and enjoys gardening, cooking, parties, walking, tweeting, and watching telly.

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    • 5/5
      How To Stay Sane is a bare-bones self-help book, trimmed to the essentials, with useful exercises to incorporate into your daily life. The basic message is simple: mental health is just like physical health. It must be maintained with proper exercise and nourishment. Neglected, our minds become ill, just as our bodies do.

      The book is written by a psychotherapist; she’s created a manual so that people can be their own therapist.

      Ms. Perry sets out four basic elements that should be included in a mental maintenance regimen: self-observation, relationship, stress, and story. The first is just basic honest introspection: what am I feeling and thinking right now, without applying value judgments about whether it’s good or bad to feel that way.

      It’s been widely reported that relationships are vital to mental health. I really liked Ms. Perry’s recommendation for how to keep relationships healthy. The Daily Temperature Reading (developed by Virginia Satir), involves five topics: appreciations (what I like about you or the relationship); new information (something new I’m feeling or doing); questions, complaints and recommendations for change (without provoking an argument!); and wishes, hopes, and dreams. This process could be adapted to any relationship, and done on a less regular basis.

      The third category is stress. Ms. Perry says that we need to balance stress—too much is obviously bad for us, but too little is also bad. To be mentally healthy we need to always be stretching ourselves—learning something new, pushing beyond our comfort level, both mentally and physically.
      She suggests drawing concentric circles, and in the innermost circle writing activities that you are comfortable with: watching TV, walking the dog around the block, visiting with your friends. Then in the next circle write things that are a little challenging: speaking to strangers at a cocktail party, hiking for a few miles. Then in the next circle out write things that you are afraid of doing: speaking in front of a large crowd, running a marathon. Her suggestion is that you slowly expand your inner circle. Challenge yourself to widen your circle of comfort.

      She mentions research into the effect of intelligence and education on longevity, done with nuns because their lifestyles were so consistent (the thinking is more educated people will keep stimulating their minds throughout their lives). The study showed that the more educated women lived longer and were mentally healthy longer. After death, some of their brains were autopsied, and surprisingly, some of the healthy women who had shown no signs of Alzheimer’s had significant brain damage from the disease, while those who had become senile from the disease in life showed much less damage to the brain. The lesson is obvious: mental stimulation helps keep the brain healthy. There is a plasticity to the brain throughout life and if it is exercised it can make new connections that bypass injury.

      The last category is about the stories we tell ourselves. To stay sane we need to learn to “re-write the narratives that define us, making new meanings and imagining different endings.” We need to be watchful of the belief systems by which we live our lives.

      Many of the exercises are variations on breathing/visualizations that I’ve seen elsewhere. But one that was new to me sounds like a fascinating project: a “Genogram” is a genealogy chart that describes each relative with five adjectives, and each person is linked to all the others with varying line-shapes that express their emotional relationships with each other. This can help you understand the emotional and behavioral influences you were programmed with as a young child without realizing it. Ms. Perry thinks that this is “the most comprehensive tool to aid self-awareness that exists,” giving you as much insight as you could get from a good therapist. And to beware, because it can bring up some strong emotions. I’m going to be with some of my family this summer, and I’m thinking this could be a fascinating project to bring with me.
    • 4/5
      A nice little self-help book, which does not look or feel like one, because it is wonderfully relaxed and ... somehow light. One could end up picking up a few good ideas that help to think more and, yes, perhaps even stay sane.