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Dear Therapist: I Don’t Know How to Deal With My Workplace Jealousy

My co-workers got a big promotion that I didn’t get, and I can’t bring myself to be happy for them.
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Dear Therapist,

About four months ago, I was passed over for a promotion. This was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, a longtime goal, and when I found out, I was devastated. It precipitated a depressive episode; I have been working with my therapist since then, and have been making some progress.

While the depression itself seems to be improving, I am deeply envious of the three people who were chosen for the role. Even now, I find it difficult to be in the same room as them, let alone talk to them. I avoid contact with them as much as I can; when that is not an option, I

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