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    You’re Fat So I Can’t Date You: How To Overcome A Negative Body Image

    by Dasha Ilazarova Jul 26, 2018 4 minutes
    Healthy Body Image. Photograph of nude woman by Rodolfo Clix

    Photograph by Rodolfo Clix

    Learning to love yourself, whatever size or shape, means learning to ignore other people’s opinions and biases

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    Everyone has a type.

    It’s normal to be attracted to different body types, different colored hair and so on. But when does it go from “you are not my type” to a completely rude and bully-like statement? How many of us have experienced shaming only because of the appearance of well, YOU?

    I was raised in a culture where everyone would stare into my mouth (literally) while I was eating. Being a ten-year-old with chubby cheeks and baby fat was not an excuse either. Even an old childhood

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